Hello everyone. I'm new to posting on here. I need some advice.
I have a bridesmaid who...hasn't been all that kind.
in order to be flexible with everyone's requests for a budget range for dresses I found a company who offers rentals or the option to purchase. Luckily my maid of honor has rented dresses from this company for two weddings she's been in previously and said they were fantastic. Recently it was brought to my attention (by coworkers) that the bridesmaid has been talking very negatively about the bridesmaid dresses- the rental option from the company- "that is so gross and so cheap of her to choose a company that rents dresses" and the style of the dresses, she went as far as to say "I don't like the one she chose for the bridesmaids, I'm just going to get the one she chose for her maid of honor and she'll have to deal with it."
She has been very negatively opinionated and vocal in the past about other things as well, which I have awkwardly had to talk to her about because I was hearing it from others, she said "it wasn't something I felt I needed to say to you"......I don't know if she was trying to spare my feelings or what, but to me it hurts worse hearing it from other people.
I honestly don't know what to do. Or what I can do. I feel like I'm repeating myself at this point with all of the things *she* doesn't like. I offered for her to have the option to be a guest rather than a bridesmaid if she didn't feel comfortable with the pricing or options for the dresses when she first started complaining to others and she responded "no it's fine".
Am I being not picky? Her behavior does not communicate friendship, respect, or a real desire to be an honest participant on one of the biggest days of my life. But maybe I'm just being crazy? I don't know.