If money was no object...

southernbelle0915 · August 2016

I would have gotten married somewhere tropical but relatively close (either Costa Rica or Kauai) and paid for all our guests to have a week long vacation there if that's what they wanted.

Assuming money is no object, I wouldn't have to have a job and I would have taken a 3 month honeymoon and traveled the world.

lovemesomemonster · August 2016

If money were no object I wouldn't have changed anything about our wedding but I would have paid for lift tickets for everyone after the wedding (got married at a ski lodge in January) and paid for all of their rooms.

If I was going to change our venue and I wasn't thinking about what H wanted (ours was perfect for the two of us) I would have flown everyone to London and been married at the Harry Potter studio on the great hall.. but again, that would be perfect for me, but not us as a couple so I would probably have stuck with our venue anyways.

OurWildKingdom · August 2016

Oh, and I might hire Bruce Springsteen and the E Street Band to play (FW is a huge fan).

flantastic · August 2016

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

Jells2dot0 · August 2016

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

way to make assumptions about me or my situation.

I was trying to point out that if I didn't work, I didn't have to worry about vacation time. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who wishes they had more time.

charlotte989875 · August 2016

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

flantastic · August 2016

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

Jells2dot0 · August 2016

flantastic said:

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

I'm not going to deny that H and I are successful in our careers, but I would not say I'm rich. But, even if I was, does that mean I can't post about my experiences in life? Or that I can't wish that I could not work? What have I mentioned that makes you think I dive into my pool of money at night when I go home?

You're right- I do not have to worry about food being on the table, but I do have to worry about having health insurance. I'm lucky to be alive right now.

lyndausvi · August 2016

flantastic said:

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

Even if they were a one income family the working spouse would still have limited vacation time. Right? My sister is a SAHM. Sure she has all the time in the world (and money), but BIL still has limited vacation time.

I guess I do not see your point?

lyndausvi · August 2016

Jells2dot0 said:

flantastic said:

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

I'm not going to deny that H and I are successful in our careers, but I would not say I'm rich. But, even if I was, does that mean I can't post about my experiences in life? Or that I can't wish that I could not work? What have I mentioned that makes you think I dive into my pool of money at night when I go home?
You're right- I do not have to worry about food being on the table, but I do have to worry about having health insurance. I'm lucky to be alive right now.

And isn't your husband close to hitting retirement age? He might be able to go to Medicare, but you still have a lot of years left to you reach that point. With your medical history you need the insurance from your job.

charlotte989875 · August 2016

flantastic said:

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

I don't think she ever once compared herself to someone two needs two incomes to put food on the table, but neither did anyone else saying they'd like a longer honeymoon, more elegant venue, or hiring famous performers.

Its like youre calling her out her out for something she didn't say, when all she did was comment on this thread just like everyone else did. She didn't say anything different than what anyone else said he. Why not call out other people who said they had everything they wanted at their wedding?

Jells2dot0 · August 2016

lyndausvi said:

Jells2dot0 said:

flantastic said:

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

I'm not going to deny that H and I are successful in our careers, but I would not say I'm rich. But, even if I was, does that mean I can't post about my experiences in life? Or that I can't wish that I could not work? What have I mentioned that makes you think I dive into my pool of money at night when I go home?
You're right- I do not have to worry about food being on the table, but I do have to worry about having health insurance. I'm lucky to be alive right now.

And isn't your husband close to hitting retirement age? He might be able to go to Medicare, but you still have a lot of years left to you reach that point. With your medical history you need the insurance from your job.

Yes- that is why I said it was a bunch of assumptions. My H is planning on retirement in 4-5 years. He will not be medicare eligible. He is counting on me to cover his insurance. Even without him, I still need insurance.

I would like to know- what have I posted that implies I am rich?

ShesSoCold · August 2016

Jells, you may or may not have more money than some people so clearly that means your life and everything about it is perfect. Just stop commenting.

OurWildKingdom · August 2016

How about that Ichiro Suzuki?

flantastic · August 2016

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

charlotte989875 said:

flantastic said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I wouldn't have changed very much. We looked into renting the entire island out, so that is a possibility. We decided against it since the resort only has 6 rooms and the property told us only half were booked up during our stay. Why spend an extra ~$20K when it's going to be somewhat private anyway?
I would have liked to have stayed longer on our HM as well . We had the money, just not the vacation time. So, if I was wealthy enough to not work, then that would have made me happy Or perhaps taking a private jet on our trip. But, we still would have had to take a helicopter and boat for part of the trip, so that would have been a slight waste of money.

Mmmhmm yes I am sure you and your husband fall into the category of people who are not wealthy enough to survive on one income.

Obviously you could have done more with your wedding with still more money, so sure, post about that in this thread. But I'm sorry, this line is ridiculous.

That's pretty out of line and ridiculous to judge her situation like that. Not cool at all.

I am not the only person who has read several posts about how rich Jells is. I don't need to make assumptions - she's posted about it enough.

I don't judge her for having money, just for implying her situation is similar to someone who needs two incomes to put food on the table, because it obviously isn't.

I don't think she ever once compared herself to someone two needs two incomes to put food on the table, but neither did anyone else saying they'd like a longer honeymoon, more elegant venue, or hiring famous performers.

Its like youre calling her out her out for something she didn't say, when all she did was comment on this thread just like everyone else did. She didn't say anything different than what anyone else said he. Why not call out other people who said they had everything they wanted at their wedding?

That's why I pulled out just the one line that was actually different than what everyone else was saying. She and I clearly have different definitions of "having" to work. I suppose I was reading into her post all of her posting history of privilege, so that can certainly affect the tone of how others read it and didn't feel the need for a giant eye roll.

Jells, I do get that in the US you truly can get screwed over by health insurance, especially if not working full time and with major health issues.

Jells2dot0 · August 2016

I'm pretty sure there is at least one other post in this thread that mentions not having to work. The thing is, I do have to work for insurance purposes no matter what. I happen to like my jobs (that's right- I work two jobs), so I will continue to work as long as I'm able.

I am fully aware that I'm fortunate on many levels, but I don't think I've ever came across as not thankful or not aware of that. I've never once claimed to not be able to feed or clothe my family. Again, I think some assumptions are being made without facts as well.

drglitter · August 2016

Jells2dot0 said:

I'm pretty sure there is at least one other post in this thread that mentions not having to work. The thing is, I do have to work for insurance purposes no matter what. I happen to like my jobs (that's right- I work two jobs), so I will continue to work as long as I'm able.

I am fully aware that I'm fortunate on many levels, but I don't think I've ever came across as not thankful or not aware of that. I've never once claimed to not be able to feed or clothe my family. Again, I think some assumptions are being made without facts as well.

You shouldn't have to explain that to anyone. You could be a millionaire, and you still have just as much right to answer the question and post without being jumped on as the rest of us do.

I also make a decent amount of money. I haven't had to choose between any wedding items and "putting food on the table". I still answered the question, which was if money was no object. Money is an object, at some point, to everyone. And clearly to some, a touchy one.

Edited to fix a typo.

charlotte989875 · August 2016

drglitter said:

Jells2dot0 said:

I'm pretty sure there is at least one other post in this thread that mentions not having to work. The thing is, I do have to work for insurance purposes no matter what. I happen to like my jobs (that's right- I work two jobs), so I will continue to work as long as I'm able.

I am fully aware that I'm fortunate on many levels, but I don't think I've ever came across as not thankful or not aware of that. I've never once claimed to not be able to feed or clothe my family. Again, I think some assumptions are being made without facts as well.

You shouldn't have to explain that to anyone. You could be a millionaire, and you still have just as much right to answer the question and post without being jumped on as the rest of us do.

I also make a decent amount of money. I haven't had to choose between any wedding items and "putting food on the table". I still answered the question, which was if money was no object. Money is an object, as some point, to everyone. And clearly to some, a touchy one.

This. She doesn't have to explain herself, but especially on a light hearted post that was about what hypothetical things you would do differently. @flantastic, youre seriously calling her out because you have some assumptions about her life? GTFO.

You jumped on her, when other people posted similar things. There isn't anything I wanted at my wedding we didn't have. We didn't have a honeymoon because we couldn't take time off. Sure, we could get by on one income but we choose not to. None of that makes me any better or any worse than anyone else on here. And it doesn't take away the right to participate in this community without having your opinions invalidated by some making assumptions.

kimmiinthemitten · August 2016

Wow, what was intended to be a fun and frivolous post took a left turn to judgey real fast.

To say that only people who live certain lifestyles can want for more is ridiculous. There are probably tons of couples out there and on here with @Jells2dot0's budget, but because they spent it on traditional trappings like steaks and DJ's it doesn't seem so obvious and neither situation is quite frankly anyone's business.

Jells2dot0 · August 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

Wow, what was intended to be a fun and frivolous post took a left turn to judgey real fast.

To say that only people who live certain lifestyles can want for more is ridiculous. There are probably tons of couples out there and on here with @Jells2dot0's budget, but because they spent it on traditional trappings like steaks and DJ's it doesn't seem so obvious and neither situation is quite frankly anyone's business.

Yup. Assumptions.

I have always been open about what we spent on our wedding, but what most people might not realize is how simple and stripped down the wedding was. A far cry from a lot of the fancier events being planned on here.

CMGragain · August 2016

@flantastic, I believe you owe Jells2dot0 an apology. She is a lovely lady, and has never posted anything nasty or spiteful about anyone else.

photokitty · August 2016

flantastic said:

That's why I pulled out just the one line that was actually different than what everyone else was saying. She and I clearly have different definitions of "having" to work. I suppose I was reading into her post all of her posting history of privilege, so that can certainly affect the tone of how others read it and didn't feel the need for a giant eye roll.

Jells, I do get that in the US you truly can get screwed over by health insurance, especially if not working full time and with major health issues.

Privilege? Did I miss where Jells inherited a fortune or married into a pile of money? I don't see her working hard to get an education, busting her ass at work, making sacrifices to further her career and taking cancer to task on the side as privilege. She wasn't given or granted a fortune, she worked for what she has.

Sure, she is white and has that privilege, but I'm gonna make an assumption of my own and say you weren't talking about that, since many other I posters here share that same privilege.

When she posts a selfie swimming Scrooge McDuck style in her mountains of money, I'll roll my eyes along side you. Until then, green doesn't look good on you, Flan.

Jells2dot0 · August 2016

photokitty said:

flantastic said:

That's why I pulled out just the one line that was actually different than what everyone else was saying. She and I clearly have different definitions of "having" to work. I suppose I was reading into her post all of her posting history of privilege, so that can certainly affect the tone of how others read it and didn't feel the need for a giant eye roll.

Jells, I do get that in the US you truly can get screwed over by health insurance, especially if not working full time and with major health issues.

Privilege? Did I miss where Jells inherited a fortune or married into a pile of money? I don't see her working hard to get an education, busting her ass at work, making sacrifices to further her career and taking cancer to task on the side as privilege. She wasn't given or granted a fortune, she worked for what she has.

Sure, she is white and has that privilege, but I'm gonna make an assumption of my own and say you weren't talking about that, since many other I posters here share that same privilege.

When she posts a selfie swimming Scrooge McDuck style in her mountains of money, I'll roll my eyes along side you. Until then, green doesn't look good on you, Flan.

If someone wants to swap lives with me to experience my "privilege" , I'll gladly pass along all of my cancer woes. It's been almost two years since my lymphoma treatments ended and I'm still undergoing testing because of the damage the chemo caused my body. I also just had a hysterectomy in February and that was just so much fun!

No amount of money can prevent or beat cancer.

CMGragain · August 2016

Hm....maybe I should change my siggy to this!

Image: http://thefederalist.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/scrooge-mcduck.jpg

Then you can all judge ME!

My late father, a truck driver, is laughing up in heaven.

STARMOON44 · August 2016

Detour aside why is everyone being so practical? Money is no object!! Zero people want Beyonce to perform? No one else thinks Eric Ripert would be a great chef?

Personally, I'd have a surprise balloon drop of a scale to dwarf the DNC.

OurWildKingdom · August 2016

STARMOON44 said:

Detour aside why is everyone being so practical? Money is no object!! Zero people want Beyonce to perform? No one else thinks Eric Ripert would be a great chef?

Personally, I'd have a surprise balloon drop of a scale to dwarf the DNC.

An Iron Chef and the Boss make for a pretty awesome reception, IMHO!

lyndausvi · August 2016

STARMOON44 said:

Detour aside why is everyone being so practical? Money is no object!! Zero people want Beyonce to perform? No one else thinks Eric Ripert would be a great chef?

Personally, I'd have a surprise balloon drop of a scale to dwarf the DNC.

LOL -

I've worked a few weddings with famous musicians playing at them, honestly they weren't as cool as I thought they would be. One performer cost $250K for 45 minutes and it wasn't even that good. So I think that is why I was so practical.

Funny you mentioned Eric Ripert. DH worked for Eric Ripert at Le Bernadin. Still talks to him on the phone from time-to-time. Since we already have connections to some amazing famous chefs I didn't think about adding them. But you are correct a great chef would be a must.

holyguacamole79 · August 2016

I'd have mine on a private ship in the Mediterranean. I'd fly my friends and family out there, too. I'd also get lipo for the wedding. Oh and Billy Joel would perform as well as George Strait.

And ALL THE CAKE!

ernursej · August 2016

Wedding hasn't happened yet, but I would have paid for a DOC/Wedding Planner. I don't really need that much help but I think it would have come in handy a few times.

STARMOON44 · August 2016

lyndausvi said:

STARMOON44 said:

Detour aside why is everyone being so practical? Money is no object!! Zero people want Beyonce to perform? No one else thinks Eric Ripert would be a great chef?

Personally, I'd have a surprise balloon drop of a scale to dwarf the DNC.

LOL -

I've worked a few weddings with famous musicians playing at them, honestly they weren't as cool as I thought they would be. One performer cost $250K for 45 minutes and it wasn't even that good. So I think that is why I was so practical.

Funny you mentioned Eric Ripert. DH worked for Eric Ripert at Le Bernadin. Still talks to him on the phone from time-to-time. Since we already have connections to some amazing famous chefs I didn't think about adding them. But you are correct a great chef would be a must.

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