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What do I say?

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Re: What do I say?

  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
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    artbyallie said:
    I would not start calling until the mail has run on Tuesday. With the deadline being the 3rd, I'm betting the majority of people don't even drop it in the mail until then (or tomorrow, since the 3rd is a Saturday). And then there's no mail Monday because Labor Day (assuming you're US, which might be false).
    The RSVPs are via my wedding website; no mail. 
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    I would contact your guests once, MAYBE twice, no more.

    "Hi Sally, I'm calling to follow up regarding the wedding invitation we sent to you. We have not received your response yet and are wondering if you will be able to attend or not. We will need a firm answer by Friday evening in order to get numbers to our caterer".

    As for those who RSVP'd to your FMIL, I would personally prefer to directly talk to these guests and get their RSVP and confirm their SOs are not attending with them. I worry about the hear-say and the "oh of course we're coming!" then something comes up.

    We had a pretty good response rate, only a few people we had to track down. What annoyed me the most, was when we asked my MIL for a list of guests she would like to see invited, there was a lot of extended family on DH's side on her list- people DH hasn't seen for 10+ years. MIL said DH's grandmother wanted them invited. We caved and ended up inviting most of them, and not only did only 1 family member of DH's (on his mom's side) show up (besides his siblings), but most of them didn't RSVP! We had RSVP cards and an online option. We had to ask MIL who had to ask them to find out no they weren't coming.
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  • ernursejernursej member
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    I sent paper RSVPs and now I may be caught in a Canada Post strike ... don't think the method changes how many people respond.

    A friend of my FI asked if he had to return the RSVP since he told us 'way back when' that he was going to come ... um yes please. Plans change.

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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
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    We tracked down all 75 people who didn't RSVP. I don't understand why people find it so hard to let people know so they'll have a seat and food. My FMIL refuses to RSVP for anything except through me so I RSVPd for her to my bridal shower this weekend. 
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