I almost forgot how to log in to this thing! Hey for those of you who remember me... it's been a while! I started a new job as a high school teacher (hence the new sig gif). It's crazy hard, but I'm enjoying it. AND I get to work with
@monkeysip !
I'm off this week THANK GOD, so I'm about to drop off my car to get an oil change and then go to a cafe with yummy drinks. Because #daydrinking.
So, here's my wedding vent. My husband has never really been that close to his dad's side of the family. One of his cousins is getting married on FRIDAY, DECEMBER 23. H & I have a system where we spend Thanksgiving with one of our families and Christmas with the other. This year, it's our turn to spend Thanksgiving with his family & Christmas with mine (who live 3.5 hours away). I think I met this cousin at our wedding in 2013, but I couldn't pick him out of a lineup. DH hasn't seen him since his brother's wedding in 2014. But it apparently means a lot for him to go. So, okay, fine. We'll go and drive up to my parents' on Christmas Eve morning. Which is okay, but my sister & her family (including my precious 18 month old nephew) will be there on the 23rd and I don't get much time with them (they live 4 hours away from us).
It's November 21 and we still haven't received an invite to this wedding. I get a text from H's SIL yesterday (his brother's wife)
"Big oops guys. Did you not get invitation to [cousin] and [FI's] wedding? We're going over some details and no record of passing your address to her"
Me: "We did not"
Her: "Okay that's no bueno - is it on your calendar - I hope so! She's not nearly as organized as you were."
H: "Yes, but please see if we can get an invite for the info."
I know I'm supposed to be a good wife and shit, but COME ON. The Friday of Christmas weekend and the wedding is an hour away from us out in the country (I only found this out by googling their wedding website). It's at 7:00 pm and the attire is semi formal.
So, how are y'all?
Re: Hello!!! And a wedding vent .... Another update
I'd be all, "well how can we know if we'll be able to attend if we have no information about the event?"
Sorry girlfriend but when you plan a large wedding the day before Christmas Eve you need to get your shit together.
This is where the worker in me would say, "If I don't have the information then I can't commit to being there." It's up there with, "No I"m not scheduling your order until you approved your end of it."
Urg I wouldn't go though. At least there's acknowledgement for disorganization but I would just be like "we're out of town for Christmas, so we can't go" personally. Especially because your side of family is 3.5 hrs away!
$10 says we never hear from the bride / groom leading up to the wedding. H's SIL is the social planner for his family, so I expect to get am earful at Thanksgiving about it and about how bummed she was that I missed the shower (yes, I was invited to this woman's bridal shower).
For H and I, it'd be an easy "no" because H couldn't care less about most weddings, lol. But I guess if your husband really wants to go, then I'd go. But yeah... that's super annoying.
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Hey, guac! I'm happy to see you back on here! Glad to hear you're enjoying your new teaching gig.
That wedding sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen. Just watch, the bride will suddenly be on here on December 24th all "I'm soooo disappointed that nobody came to my day! I mean, I did send out invites a *little* late, and my wedding might have been right before the holidays. But I'm speshul dammit and everyone needs to drop everything for me!" LOL
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I would use the "we didn't get the info until a month away and plans have been made" excuse if you can?
That is super annoying, but admittedly, in my family I would suck it up and go away.
And then when you do get your family's Christmas hog that baby!
Good to hear from you!
Me personally, I'd tell H he can go to the wedding if he wants, but I won't be joining. Though I could see where that would be a pain for you all to drive separately for such a long trip.
I'd go to the wedding if it's important to your H, but DEFINITELY NOT without an invitation! Sorry, don't care if the person "meant" to invite me- but if I am not personally invited by the host I don't feel comfortable showing up (in case I wasn't actually invited), and if the host can't be bothered to invite me in a reasonable time frame, then clearly it wasn't that important for me to be invited.
I hope you're getting that invitation in the next week!!
I'm super torn bc I know it means a lot to H, but this whole thing bugs me. Hell, the only reason I know where the wedding will be is bc I found their website.
@kimmiinthemitten - thanks! Everyone told me the first year would be brutal, but it's one of those things that you don't truly know until you're there. Classroom management is super hard. Fortunately we're in a small school, so I literally took my roster to another teacher who had all these students last year and asked her to help me make a better seating chart. And it helps that @monkeysip is there. Shout out - she let me cry on her shoulder on Friday.
We're done on the 16th and go back on the 3rd. H & I are taking a mini-vacay to San Antonio Dec 18-21, coming back to Houston (he has to work on the 22 & 23rd), going to the wedding, then going to my parents' NW of Austin on Christmas Eve. I really want to take my own car to SA and go directly from their to my parents (90 minute drive) and just wait for DH.
I'm getting inspired by Charlotte York from SATC ... she seduced Harry and tricked him during sex into saying that she didn't have to be Jewish. He should be home in a few minutes .... lemme get lingerie and vodka and see how that works
I'd go to the wedding, if it was that important to my H, but not without actually receiving an invitation. When on earth is the RSVP date if it's four weeks out and some guests haven't even been invited??
Welcome back! I'm glad there are people that want to teach. I could never control a classroom of 16 year olds!
I wouldn't go. Lack of planning on their part = lack of attendance.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Thanks for the commiseration!
We still have heard nothing from the bride or groom, but DH's SIL is POSITIVE that we are invited and thinks it's silly that I'd even think twice.
DH and I were talking about logistics for next week. He mentions that he has to work on the 23rd (the day of the wedding). NBD since he works half days on Friday... except next Friday, they need him all day at his project site. In Galveston.
So, he is going to be working all day in Galveston, driving home to shower and change, then drive to the wedding. Here's a map to give you an idea of the distance involved ... (the blue dot is the area where we live). On the Friday of Christmas weekend .....