Hi all- I haven't posted on here for ages but I was able to sign in to ask a question. So H's brother is getting married in June (H is in the wedding party and I'm not). The couple isn't doing a bridal shower, just a separate bachelor/bachelorette AND jack and Jill. I don't think I'm invited to the bachelorette, but H is invited to the bachelor party (if it's still happening). We received the Jack and Jill invite a few weeks ago and they have noted that a honeyfund has been set up so I went to check the site out. It states they don't need gifts as they already have a home, but that they want $ towards their h.moon. On the site it lists a bunch of things to donate to- Their trip, their flight, and other activities that they can do on that H.moon. You can pick the thing you want to donate to and add how much you want to give...I was a little blown away as I've never seen/done anything like this before. So anyway, we planned on giving them $200-$250 for their wedding gift....so I said if they want honeymoom money for this event, we are deducting from their wedding gift amount...Is $50 enough for the h.fund and do $200 for the wedding? I'm not sure what the right answer is here as I'm a little appalled...maybe this is normal, but it just feels greedy to me, but I could be wrong. Thanks for your help!