Tuesday

Heffalump · March 2017

'Allo 'allo! Happy Tuesday to you. What's going on today?

Just squaring things away for my visitor later this week. I think we have the agenda finalized, and our admin is working on lunch.

While Wooz is at art tonight, I think DS and I will make a Trader Joe's run. We need some stuff for making trail mix for our hike this weekend, and I want to make another batch of granola. And other odds-n-ends.

It's supposed to be 81 today. I am so confused.

kimmiinthemitten · March 2017

Top of the morning to you! It's sunny and 39 here lol.

Today is boring. I'm driving to the thumb for work so 4 plus hours of windshield time. Good thing I just negotiated a new Sirius contract! I also have a pot roast in the slow cooker. Killing it at being an adult today!

Oh and in case you're not famailar with Michigan geography, here's what we do. Metro Detroit is the first heart.

banana468 · March 2017

Chiquita, my lovely toothless Chiquita, got up this morning and all seemed normal. Then we got to daycare dropoff and she peed on her pants instead of into the toilet when she had to go.

Luckily I was still there and we went home, changed and I dropped her off.

But I'd like to go more a few days without a change of plans. This was relati.vely minor, but I'm starting to think of a few things to put on my birthday list for when DH asks...

Heffalump · March 2017

Oh, and to continue the theme of "sometimes our parents aren't everything we wish they could be, but that doesn't mean you get to act like a spoiled toddler because of it"

My dad and I mostly email, and text sometimes. We do call from time to time, but with different time zones we're usually out of sync. (When I'm driving to work, he's just waking up; when I'm at lunch, he's working, and vice-versa; by the time he's home again, I'm running the kids around, doing dinner/homework/baths/etc.)

In the past week, we've nailed down most of our plans for my brother's wedding. So I emailed him the details, asked what their plans are (they had mentioned wanting to travel around Europe afterward), etc. And I realized we hadn't chatted since my grandma passed, so I told him, and then said we should get together when I'm up for her funeral, whenever that will be.

His response? Yeah, my brother told him about our grandma, and good luck scheduling the trip up with DH's work, my work, school, etc. I sat there a minute, because yes, he knows we're busy, but holy crap. My grandmother died, this isn't a logistical issue so much as a good time to say "I'm sorry for your loss." She was his xMIL, so I don't expect him to personally be super broken up. But when a co-worker's grandparent dies, I tell them I'm sorry to hear it and ask how they're doing. And that's not even someone I'm related to.

So I was driving home, ruminating, and realized that I missed the bigger issue: my brother told him that our grandmother had died, and at no point did he call, text, or email to say "Hey, I heard about Grandma, I'm so sorry" or anything. Which was a bit of a jolt to realize, but it exactly demonstrates what we were saying in the Daddy/wedding thread: people are who they are. Events in your life don't suddenly make them different or better people.

MissKittyDanger · March 2017

It's suppose to be warm today, but it just feels damp. It's rainy/wet flurries also, so the ice on our driveway will obv be worse tomorrow when the damn temperature plummets *side-eye*

Not a whole lot last night. Did laundry and cracked open patio door. Cats were nuts! Hahaha .... breeze would come and push around bits of fur, so they would chase them. Angel is a big, furry cat so it looks hilarious when he plays with anything :') We spent way too much time watching them play with fur lol

Not sure what's tonight. I think M and I might be moving a bunch of recycling from one end of the garage to the other in prep for Thursday pick up. There's a lot ...
We also have an old desk, but we're waiting until everything melts so we can just put it on the curb and people come take if they want. If not, it goes to recycling. It broke in the move, and we ended up getting a bigger desk anyways. {we tried to fix it, and that's not a thing ...}

I think also tonight I may get some front hall decor done, and see what I need to still get.

missJeanLouise · March 2017

Good morning lovelies! I am in a much better mood today. I went out for some girl time last night and it was so needed.

Today I met with another lady for coffee and we really hit it off. She is awesome and I can't wait to spend more time with her.

Now I am watching Ferngully on tv and eating popcorn.

DrillSergeantCat · March 2017

I ended up going home early yesterday and taking a nap before I picked up the kiddos from daycare. Mouse fell asleep at 5:30 and didn't wake up until 10 but he got some milk and went back to sleep. Except he also woke up at 1:30 and was up for good at 4:30. H takes care of him and I take care of Norah at night. H was kind of whining to me about how poorly Mouse slept; I have a hard time feeling sympathetic since that's me every night.

Found out yesterday that we got approved for the mortgage! I'm meeting the realtor tonight to look at H's house. There's some things we can do to make it nicer, but we don't want to spend the money if it's not going to be recouped. We need to get over there and get the rest of his junk out. We also have to get my house prepped for sale. It doesn't need updating, though, just organizing and cleaning.

mrsconn23 · March 2017

Good morning!

I won $60 through a work contest yesterday! Woohoo!

My work BFF is unhappy with her position and hasn't found the right fit in another dept, so I think she's going to quit this spring. I'm sad because I won't have an office gossip pipeline any more.

DH is getting antsy about the job offer. Also, he was irritated when he got home this morning because there's (mild, but annoying) fuckery afoot at his job.

I talked to DH's cousin's wife last night and I just love her. They were planning to come to DefConn's bday party this weekend...I'm hoping if we have to reschedule, they'll come to that weekend instead. I told them they'd be welcome to stay for Easter festivities.

SIL found out last week that my niece is going to be in an archery tourney close to us (an hour and a half away) mother's day weekend. I am so excited.

We weren't going to see them again until the summer, so this is great.

Still no news on DH's step-grandpa. I'm trying not to feel impatient, since you know...the gravity of the situation. But in the meantime, I will drive myself crazy in my own head. I think it's pretty much settled that I'll stay home regardless, but I know that I'll have to help DH secure a hotel and whatnot (because I am the family travel planner and DH will just be all, "Looks good!" and book something vs. I will scroll sites until my eyes cross to save $5), so I keep searching and putting in different dates to see what the best rates are...to feel like I'm doing something. But there's only 5-7 hotels in the town where is grandma lives...so yeah...not much to see.

levioosa · March 2017

Yay for approved mortgages!

@Heffalump I'm sorry about your dad. That sucks and it must sting more than a little. Realizing how flawed parents actually are is a shitty right of adulthood.

Today is supposed to be cool, around 61 degrees, which is really throwing off my equilibrium. It was in the 90s last week. I'm working on some chores and going to the gym, and tonight we're supposed to cash in my Benihana's gift certificate.

mrsconn23 · March 2017

Ugh @Heffalump. That sucks that your dad couldn't muster a shred of...something, to at least say he's sorry, even if it was just a text.

It sucks to be reminded that your parents are just as human as anyone else.

thefanciestbeckler · March 2017

Morning everybody!

Today is a great day!!!! Some of you might remember that one of my best friends and her H are in the process of adopting. (They were the ones who got picked by a birth mom that backed out the day the baby was born). Anywayssssss...... THEY HAVE A BABY!!!!!!! They got the call yesterday afternoon. He is 7 days old. The birth mom picked them and signed her surrenders almost immediately after he was born and left the hospital the next day. He was born with a low birth weight (only 4 lbs and a few ounces) and has been in the NICU since he was born. The adoption agency was going to wait to tell them until the 10 day revocation period was over, but the hospital advised that his family should know and be there with him. So they are going to get him today!! My friend's birthday is Wednesday. Best birthday present ever!

MissKittyDanger · March 2017

@Heffalump Sorry to hear about how your family is acting

@DrillSergeantCat yay for approvals!

@missJeanLouise sometimes a night out is just what you need

@mrsconn23 yay for winning! I feel you on the waiting game when someone is ill $:\$ it's always a hard thing to figure out how to feel

CharmedPam · March 2017

Looks like a lot of positive things happening today! That's nice to hear. Is it because it's spring?

@thefanciestbeckler, that is awesome news for your friend. @Drillsergeantcat, that's so exciting! Congrats.

We got our wedding photo's back yesterday. they were a month and a half late but she contacted me (and a few others) before the contract due date to tell me she was behind, and I was patient with her. I wanted some good editing done and not have it rushed. The patience wore off because I am pleased with the majority of them. I did tell her i wanted a lot of family photo's, but I didn't say specifically one with both our families together (to put onto canvas), so we missed that shot. I'm a bit disappointed, but I'll just get two identical frames and put both of our families side by side on the wall. I hear everyone has "I wish" moments. It was a whirlwind that day, and I didn't even notice we didn't do a "two family" shot.

MissKittyDanger · March 2017

@thefanciestbeckler omg that's amazing!

DrillSergeantCat · March 2017

@thefanciestbeckler that is so exciting for your friend!
@CharmedPam I can't wait to see them! I didn't get but just a couple shots of me and my BP and I wish I'd have gotten more.

CharmedPam · March 2017

@DrillSergeantCat, I wish I had more of just DH and I. We have one that's great to print and frame, which is all we really need right? But I wasn't really thrilled with my smiles or facial expressions in a lot of the pics. But that's my fault, not the photographers. Our first look photos looked really awkward but only because it was. LOL.

mrsconn23 · March 2017

YAY! That IS SO GREAT @thefanciestbeckler!!! Hooray for your friends!

short+sassy · March 2017

My H and I are upset and frustrated today. It's like, just when things are finally going smoothly. Wham!

The tenants in the small unit at my first duplex (not the one we just fixed up and rented out) are notoriously late with their rent. But they always pay. They are now 11 days late, which is extreme, even for them. They were supposed to pay it on Sat. morning, but never got back to us. They were supposed to bring it last night. Nope.

My H was over there yesterday anyway to check out a malfunctioning washer in the other unit. So he put a 5-day "Pay or Quit" notice on their door. It's basically a legal notice that says they either need to pay the rent, in full, within the next 5 days or they need to GTFO. That's the first required step before I can file for an eviction.

You'd think that is the worst of it. It is not. While my H was there, he saw the following problem items:

They are not allowed to have pets. They have two dogs...in the same cage...in the backyard with no food or water. It was in the mid 80s yesterday. The cage is big enough for the dogs to both lie down, but that is about it. It is way too small for two dogs. I mean, I'm pissed anyway. But the fact that the dogs are being treated inhumanely is the immediate concern for me. The guy already said he is going to have the dogs removed, but we're calling the SPCA today or tomorrow if this isn't handled ASAP.
They have a dryer sitting in the middle of the front lawn. Not even off to the side. Smack dab in the middle ike it's a f**king junk yard. And they're beat-up, non working car parked on the sidewalk. The sidewalk!!!
We take $50 off the rent each month in exchange for them mowing the front lawn. The grass is 3' high around where the stupid dryer is located. Which has also killed the grass under it.
A trash can with a bunch of empty shrimp shells that stunk to high heaven. Because they didn't put them in a trash bag first. Not the first time they've done this and we've talked to them about it.

The dryer was there a few months ago and we told them to get rid of it. Obviously they didn't. The car has been a problem before. When they first moved in a year ago, they had it parked on the front lawn. We told them they needed to park it on the street or on their side of the driveway. The street is where it's been most of the last year. Oh! And when they moved it to the sidewalk ('cause that's normal, smh), they hit one of the mailboxes, so now that is damaged and at a 45-degree angle.

My H called the guy yesterday and I'm going to e-mail the wife today. I'm hoping we can get everything resolved, but it really makes me question my sanity. Why can't people just be normal? Who DOES all this crazy stuff?

Quite frankly, I'm also going to give them the option (in my e-mail), that if they just want to forfeit the security deposit, get out by Monday, and don't have any damages...I'll let them break the lease and won't go after them for further losses.

So, that's my rant and disappointment for yesterday and today. Overall, I like these people...or I did. They've been our tenants for just a few weeks shy of a year. I'm just sorry to see that things seem to be suddenly and rapidly imploding.

ILoveBeachMusic · March 2017

@thefanciestbeckler so exciting for your friends. I hope the baby is ok and out of NICU soon! Yay, @DrillSergeantCat good luck with all the prep.

sparklepants41 · March 2017

@Heffalump ugh I'm so sorry for your dad's response (or lack thereof).

@thefanciestbeckler Hooray for the baby! Sending good healthy vibes so the little one can get out of the NICU

@DrillSergeantCat congrats on being approved!!!!

Today I am just catching up on a bunch of stuff but nothing pressing, so I am going to Whole Foods for lunch - hooray!

CharmedPam · March 2017

@short+sassy, that sounds so frustrating! Even as a renter I had nothing but respect for my property. Sounds like a "break the lease" would be good with them at this point.

thefanciestbeckler · March 2017

Thanks y'all!!! I am so excited for them. I think she said he should be out of the NICU today. He's doing really well for such a little guy

@DrillSergeantCat I'm so excited for you and your H! Huge congrats for getting approved for the mortgage. That's very exciting!

@Heffalump I hate that your dad reacted that way. He could've at least asked how you were handling things and said he was sorry.

@short+sassy OMG! Nothing gets my blood boiling like animals being mistreated. And when you throw in everything else I just can't help but wonder... What is wrong with those people?! Ugh. Sorry you're having to deal with all that.

@CharmedPam yay for wedding pictures!! Sorry you're a little disappointed with them.

Looking back I wish I'd gotten more taken with my mom. I know how you feel!

*Barbie* · March 2017

@kimmiinthemitten - I do occasional business trips to MI, so I've been using the hand trick a lot. I like the graphic.

I'm overwhelmed at work, so just watching my mailbox fill up and trying to ignore it.

MissKittyDanger · March 2017

@short+sassy jeez! Why can't people respect things any more? I would be pissed too!

sparklepants41 · March 2017

@short+sassy that really sucks about your tenants! And the dogs make me so sad.

Heffalump · March 2017

@thefanciestbeckler, congrats on your friend's new baby! Here's hoping he's out of the NICU quickly.

@short+sassy, WTF @ those tenants?! Especially their poor dogs.

@mrsconn23, per your excellent suggestion last week, I started the Crimetown podcast and now I'm hooked.

mrsconn23 · March 2017

Heffalump said:

@mrsconn23, per your excellent suggestion last week, I started the Crimetown podcast and now I'm hooked.

OMG! I know, right?

Beyond all the craziness, what bottles my mind is the sheer and blatant arrogance of some of the players...even while they sit in prison.

charlotte989875 · March 2017

Good Afternoon! I worked a shift at the clinic this morning, now I'm in the office for a bit.

Work vent; I agreed to moderate a panel as a part of Women's History Month tomorrow. I was repeatedly asked to coordinate it, which I did not feel prepared to do, so I clearly and respectfully declined to plan it. I have emailed the planning committee twice now about who is on the panel, and what equipment is needed, and I've received no response. So now I have no idea what is happening, what I'm supposed to do, and the event is tomorrow afternoon.

sparklepants41 · March 2017

@charlotte989875 eeeeeee I totally get your anxiety about tomorrow. I mean on the one hand you have a paper trail declining their offer to coordinate as well as moderate, but on the other hand it seems like there is no confirmation that they received/accepted declining your offer to coordinate? And how are you supposed to plan any type of introduction if you don't know who you'll be introducing? Can you call any of the members of the planning committee and see if you can get your answers over the phone?

charlotte989875 · March 2017

sparklepants41 said:

@charlotte989875 eeeeeee I totally get your anxiety about tomorrow. I mean on the one hand you have a paper trail declining their offer to coordinate as well as moderate, but on the other hand it seems like there is no confirmation that they received/accepted declining your offer to coordinate? And how are you supposed to plan any type of introduction if you don't know who you'll be introducing? Can you call any of the members of the planning committee and see if you can get your answers over the phone?

Yah, if I don't hear by end of business today I'm calling all of their office lines until I get an answer.

levioosa · March 2017

Fwp, but a few weeks ago I accidentally washed a load of clothes with a pack of gum. I tried the "microwaved white vinegar with a toothbrush trick" last night after procrastinating forever. (It worked really well). But now my hands smell like vinegar. I've taken a shower, I've washed my hands like crazy. The smell is not going anywhere. And I don't want to go to the store just to get a lemon, which I think could help.

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