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Last night was the soccer party. It was raining, but we had a great time. Got in practice and the parent vs. kid game. We had a muddy, wet, blast. DH texted this morning with a simple "I'm 40." Yep, maybe headers and diving in goal weren't the best idea after all.
Today- Costco run. It's close to an Ikea that opens in a week. I need to stock up on anything I might need in the next 2 weeks- TP, allergy meds, chicken strips.
Tomorrow- 10:10 soccer, noon baseball (weather permitting) 3:30 soccer
Sunday- 8 am soccer, possible noon soccer, 3 pm party
Monday- nothing
Last night was the soccer party. It was raining, but we had a great time. Got in practice and the parent vs. kid game. We had a muddy, wet, blast. DH texted this morning with a simple "I'm 40." Yep, maybe headers and diving in goal weren't the best idea after all.
Today- Costco run. It's close to an Ikea that opens in a week. I need to stock up on anything I might need in the next 2 weeks- TP, allergy meds, chicken strips.
Tomorrow- 10:10 soccer, noon baseball (weather permitting) 3:30 soccer
Sunday- 8 am soccer, possible noon soccer, 3 pm party
Monday- nothing
Re: Fri-Yay!
Our new mattress arrived last night. It may almost be too firm for me (it's medium-soft!), but we haven't slept on it yet since we don't have any sheets yet.
I submitted my application for the rotation abroad. Now, we wait.
Happy Memorial Day!
H's step-sis had a destination wedding PPD in Hawaii 3 years ago. Apparently his dad/step mom spent $32K on it (although now SSIL says she wishes she'd done a backyard wedding at home?!). We got married the next year and they paid for the rehearsal dinner and had their travel out to where we live so maybe $2K for all of that. At the time I found it strange they didn't give us a gift or even a card but I appreciated the fact that they paid for the rehearsal dinner and traveled out here was plenty. But I admit after hearing how much they spent on the daughter's wedding, and knowing their financial situation is the same, it made me think gee we didn't even get a card or a small gift but look at how much they spent on the other kid.
I'm honestly not bitter about it (though my H probably is after hearing the amount!), I was happy they came out and we had a much nicer rehearsal dinner than if we had been paying so it was great. It just kind of hit me this morning where I can see how kids can feel the "unfairness" when one sibling gets way more than other. My brothers both got married before me and my parents paid for the rehearsal dinner plus gave a few thousand as a gift; my parents gave a similar amount to me for our wedding because they always try to be fair between us all.
Kids are on their first day of summer break. I hope they play nice. I do only have to work two full weeks this summer...I have at least a day off every other week. I can't believe we're done with Kindy and that the kiddo's halfway through HS. Mind. Blown.
Tonight and tomorrow, I'm going to be cleaning and packing. We leave at 8:30 Sunday morning.
I'm watching The Keepers on Netflix. Wasn't sure what to expect, but it's entirely fucked up. Not for the faint of heart for sure.
Will the new stuff be down before you leave ?
I didn't realize the kiddo was in HS! For some reason I was thinking like 7th grade. wow!
LOL! Yeah, my kids are 10 years apart in age. The kiddo was 3 when I met DH. DH has had sole custody since the kiddo was 2.
Half of it. The kitchen but not the hallway. We were going to do this anyway, next week, but I guess he got bored and started early? It's going to look great just was expecting it.
Team lists were posted at about 11pm last night after tryouts, and while I was put on the team I knew I would get, my phone has been blowing up with texts, snaps and messages, and I have no will power to not look, cos I wanted to know who ended up where. And then I couldn't sleep cos I'm trying to decide if I stay at my current gym or go back to my old one. Sorry, probably a little confusing. I'm just tired today and really glad it's Friday
@atomicblonde yay new mattress!! Ours is medium and M thought it would be too hard, but he ended up loving it. Vibes for the application
@charlotte989875 hopefully it's done quicker than you expect
@mrsconn23 like @kvruns said, I thought kiddo was younger :')
So M has a cold. Likely a man-cold, but the dr gave him a sick note since he kept running a fever. He's home today. The cough he has is really rough, so I'm debating on picking up some cough syrup with groceries tonight to help kill it.
Saturday - meeting up with some friends and we're going to the cat cafe
I'm just excited for cats lmao
Depending on how M feels, we may head over to the ribfest going on that isn't far from us.
Sunday - I think one of my friends is coming over and we may do some gardening. They're calling for rain though, so I'm not sure. I may try to convince M to help me tidy the basement and garage a bit. I got more boxes from the spare room down to the basement - where they should be.
Going to a birthday party for my godson tomorrow - he turns 3 next weekend, but my friend (his mom) is due in two weeks and is afraid she might go into labor early, so we're celebrating this weekend instead.
Other than that, H & I have no plans for the weekend. I might pick up a replacement hydrangea this weekend - one of the ones we have along our picket fence in the front didn't make it through the winter.
@atomicblonde, awesome for your new mattress. Do you have the 30 day trial period on it?
@kvruns, my parents contributed the same amount of money for me, my bro and sister. Or so I've been told....LOL....They paid for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon for the bro, and his wife's mother paid for the wedding. I do find your situation unfair though
Oh.....you probably have clothes that fit you. I'm gone for 10 days. I think I own 10 tops that fit. LOL. BAM in goes the 10 tops that actually fit.
100 is great. The 2nd to last bed I bought, I wish I had 100 days. It's the guest bed now, but man do I LOVE the one I bought. I test out a lot of hotel beds
And thanks, this trip is years in the making!
Fitting and wanting to wear are completely different. On Monday, for a BBQ at my aunt's place - I changed 4x because I "wasn't feeling it" lmao
Also, you need to go shopping. lol
I tried to go for this trip, but ended up depressed since nothing fit. I probably have over 150 tops in my closet but I gained 50 lbs since meeting DH. I need to lose the 50 pounds is what I really need to do!
I had a horrible night sleep last night. Partly because the bulldog kept trying to to sleep ON me, partly because I was having hot flashes. Getting old sucks. Just saying.
Hope everyone has a great weekend/holiday weekend for those it applies. I'm working all weekend. Weather is suppose to be decent. 60's, sunny, little to know chance of rain.
He makes it hard to do PT
@kvruns, your post really struck a chord with me. I definitely get it. It's not even the money, it's the unfairness of it. My younger sister got married first and I believe my mom paid for all of it. I know she contributed around $35K. When I got engaged, she/myself/my H were discussing wedding plans and had already decided on a fairly small event that would be held in her garden.
Yet, she just HAD to throw in, "I just want you to understand that I'm retired now and can't spend the kind of money for you that I did with your sister." Almost by definition, my wedding was already going to be substantially less money. She really didn't need to make that comment and all it did was hurt my feelings.
Plus, it was just yet another item in a long line of, and a long line that continues, of her spending more money on and for my sister (now my sister and her family) than for me. In the end, my wedding was probably around $5K and my mom did pay for all of it. She also pretty much planned all of it. Which I was grateful for, don't get me wrong. On the one hand, I know I sometimes feel like I am "petty" for being hurt over things having to do with money. On the other hand, it's really never been about the money. If she hadn't contributed a dime to either one of our weddings, that would have been fine. But telling me she had spent $35K on my sister's wedding while, in the same breath, telling me she couldn't spend the same on mine was just another example of "death by a 1,000 cuts".
Sorry for the rant! I just got going and couldn't stop.
I made an appointment to get my dress altered and the seamstress (who also has a business renting tuxes and suits) warned me that if everyone is wearing navy blue, to make sure it was the "same" navy blue, as that color comes in so many different shades. The whole time, I was sitting there like:
Have fun and be safe, to everyone going on trips for this long weekend!
@CharmedPam, and an extra dose of have fun for you! It sounds like a great trip, I know you all must be so excited. And, unless my flight is early in the morning, I totally pack like you do! If I'm "on my game", maybe I'll be done packing the night before. That's about my best, lol. Usually I'll start the night before and finish the morning of.
@Ro041, Wow! Big congrats to your FI!
It depends on the trip, but currently...I haven't packed a stitch for Texas. I also haven't checked our sunscreen stash or toiletries or anything. I'm definitely going to be running around tomorrow to get stuff done.
But we're only going to be gone 4 days, so we don't even need that much anyway. DefConn and I will be in one suitcase and I'm not even bringing a carry-on. Just backpacks with a change of clothes for each of us along with our electronics.
When we camp, I have to start a few days early or else we'll forget something. And when we did Hawaii, I packed early because it was all shorts and stuff that we weren't using (as it was October).
I am probably the worst with road trips. There isn't quite that sense of urgency. And, the next thing I know, I've dilly-dallied so much that we're missing out on a few hours our first day. And my well thought out plans of leaving by "X time" in order to avoid rush hour traffic somewhere in our journey, are now kaput also.
Guys .... I'm going on a road trip at THE END of September and I'm already trying to figure out what to wear.
It's for a wedding, but questions keep running through my head.
- what am I wearing to the wedding?
- what will the weather be like?
- since M and I will be TTC before then, will I be pregnant at that point?
- will I have sickness? {note: buying gravol anyways - found a nondrowsy type!}
- should I anticipate all weather?
- WHAT AM I WEARING {seriously .... I'm kinda thinking a maxi dress or skirt}
Today I have to pick up the benefits paperwork from work and look over it. I only get one or two things immediately and the rest kick in after 90 days. I'm also trying to get to my chiropractor and the gym, and I have a paper to write. SO wants to go out to dinner tonight too. We haven't had a date night with each other in months. There's also some talk of going to San Diego this weekend, but that probably won't go anywhere. We'll see.