So my sister is having a DW in a couple weeks. All along, she & her FI told us they were heading down a few days early to meet the requirements to get married in Mexico. Well. I got a text from my mom this weekend with a picture of their legal ceremony in a park near where they live. My parents said they didn't know it was happening either, until a friend of my sister's told them.
I am...way more hurt than I thought I'd be. My sister never seemed like the type who wanted the big fancy white wedding, and the small ceremony in the park seemed much more "them." I feel really cheated now having to spend a bunch of money to travel to a place I wouldn't choose, and having to participate in a mock ceremony. I know an invitation is not a summons, but it's my sister so I'm not going to NOT go. I never thought I would be the person who was upset about something like this, and I'm usually pretty understanding.
If anyone lurking or new is considering the same thing...your guests may not tell you how they're feeling. They might even still come and have fun. They maybe don't even know it would bother them to put all of that time and money into not seeing you legally get married. Do you really want to start your lives together deceiving your friends & family?