Hi everyone,
So I got my RSVPs in the mail yesterday and this is how they look. It came to my attention that people who are bringing a guest may only put the number 1 on the “number of guests attending” line. Because maybe they view it as their own name is accounted for on the M line and they’re bringing one other person. My stomach sunk when I realized this. I personally would know to put the TOTAL amount of 2, but some people might not. This could completely throw off my guest count. Do I need to worry or do people know better? Thanks
Re: Opinion on RSVP Wording
One tip is to number the backs of the RSVP cards and keep a spreadsheet of names & numbers. So if someone forgets to write in their names you'll know whose card it is because you'll have the number on the back.
How many "and guests" did you have? I mean, "and guest" is only for truly single guests - not people in relationships (where you would have addressed the person by name). In other words, this shouldn't be that big of a problem unless you're having a huge wedding with tons of actual single people.
If anyone is in a relationship or dating, you should write out the name of their bf/gf on the envelope ("and guest" is not appropriate in those situations). Perhaps this will lessen the number of true "and guest" invites?
Call up all your "and guest" folks and ask them if they have a significant other because you want to add them to the invitation. If it's "off again", they'll tell you they don't have a significant other. It it's "on again", they'll give you a name. I think it's a small but important step you should take with your single friends. What if one of them is newly dating someone who ends up marrying your friend two years down the road? Your wedding will be remembered as the time they were first acknowledged as being "a couple" by the group of friends. It could be a big happy deal.
I would always assume to write both names in, including the name of my guest and the total number. The only confusion you might get is the invited guest writing in their name and then 2 at the bottom- in which case, if you are doing place or escort cards, you need to find out the name of the guest.
This. And taking this approach will quell the issue you're posting about.