Mods, if posted in wrong area please move, this was the only section where I saw reasonable traction on rings:
Wife and I have been married 4 years, but have known each other and been engaged much longer. I'm looking to upgrade her original engagement ring from a 1.4 diamond to a 3 ct diamond. However, my concern when looking at these rings is it's a pretty big jump in size and I'm afraid she won't like it.
She's conservative, not flashy, classy in dress, from very humble beginnings. Size 4.5-5 ring finger, long fingers and the setting is basically solitaire engagement ring with a band and both bands have diamonds down each side, each band is thin. We'll be keeping her original ring so I suppose if she's going someplace that she may feel uncomfortable wearing it she could always wear the original.
Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
EDIT: I attached a picture similar to the upgrade including the 3 ct stone.
Re: 1.4 ct to 3 ct Ring
This isn't really a ring board - you might want to check out pricescope or even wedding bee for lots more ring related chat.
Ditto. Personally, I dislike large engagement rings. I specifically wanted something small and flat. I would not be happy if H just decided to get me a larger ring. I would wear it rarely if at all. I don't understand why you would want to get her a large ring if you know she probably won't like it. Why not spend the money on something you know she'd like? A different kind of jewelry, perhaps? Put it toward a nice vacation?
Same. I didn't necessary *love* the ring FI picked out, but he did it on his own and it is mine. If he tried to replace it now I would be pretty heartbroken because this is my engagement ring and always will be. Maybe consider buying her a nice right hand ring or another gift that you know she wants? If she hasn't asked for it, she may really dislike the new ring and not want to hurt your feelings about such a gift.
https://www.twobirch.com/0-5-carat-anniversary-style-ring-wrap-enhancer-prd-tb-wrap-0024-rg-h/?gclid=CjwKEAjw4vzKBRCt9Zmg8f2blgESJADN5fDglrfnr2rjheq8TZsQlz_oJQGEw_PBN--W2hU0xgDRsBoC3FLw_wcB
This sentence right here is the reason not to do it. 3 ct is getting very blingy in my opinion and I don't think your wife would necessarily be comfortable wearing such an ostentatious sort of ring.
I feel the same as @justsie about my e-ring; it's the ring my H gave me and I wouldn't want it changed just to have a bigger stone because it wouldn't be the same ring anymore.
Thanks to everyone, and thanks for putting-up with a post that isn't really spot on for this section.
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My personal response is- why?
Some women would love an upgraded e-ring, or a new ring for a special anniversary. Other women feel very sentimental to their e-ring and wouldn't want anything instead, even if it is something smaller/simpler than they could afford now.
1.4ct is already a large stone. 3ct is HUGE, IMO. Personally, I wouldn't get the upgrade unless you know (has she hinted at all? commented on other peoples' rings or pictures?) she would be interested in it.
Myself, I wouldn't want an upgraded e-ring. However, I would love a second band with a bit of bling, or a right hand ring. Or, other piece of jewelry.
Or, spend that money on a nice vacation for the two of you.
Personally, I'm in love with my engagement ring. Not because of the size, style, etc. but because every time I look at it I think about the proposal and it makes me smile. I'm super attached to it for this reason, and I'd be reluctant to trade it out for a new one. Have you thought of an anniversary band?
It doesn't seem like you think it's something SHE would want ("I'm afraid she won't like it. She's conservative, not flashy, classy in dress, from very humble beginnings"). And she certainly didn't ask for it.
There's something very special about an engagement ring. It's the symbol of y'all agreeing to spend your lives together.