Arguing About Registry Items?

Re: Arguing About Registry Items?

• MRDCle member

  

  September 2017

  IMO, it can't hurt to register for more. What's the harm in registering for sets of dishes? If she gifts you an amazing hand-me-down set you can either remove them from your registry or if someone has bought you some, you can return them. Do you know when you may be receiving her old items so you can see what you may want to upgrade?

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• kristinalynn91 member

  

  September 2017

  I don't, but considering we do have quite a while until our shower, we could always ask her to see what she has?

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  September 2017

  Your wedding is a very good opportunity to get things for your home that you want. At no other time in your life will you literally have an exact list of stuff from a specific store that you actually want and that people actually stick to. I don't think it's dumb to capitalize on this and register for the things you want. If MIL gives you stuff, bonus! Use what you need and donate the rest. 
  
  BUT if you want to compromise with our FI, why don't y'all ask her to go through what she wants to give you (together and in person, if possible). Don't say yes to anything on the spot. Go back and talk about it together. Decide on a few things to accept and register for the rest. 

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• banana468 member

  

  September 2017

  southernbelle0915 said:

  Your wedding is a very good opportunity to get things for your home that you want. At no other time in your life will you literally have an exact list of stuff from a specific store that you actually want and that people actually stick to. I don't think it's dumb to capitalize on this and register for the things you want. If MIL gives you stuff, bonus! Use what you need and donate the rest. 
  
  BUT if you want to compromise with our FI, why don't y'all ask her to go through what she wants to give you (together and in person, if possible). Don't say yes to anything on the spot. Go back and talk about it together. Decide on a few things to accept and register for the rest. 

  All of this.
  
  We were lucky that I was given nice dishes when I had my first apartment.   They're good quality and they're FINE.   But I really wish I had a reason to move on from them and get a set of every day that's matching.   If I had to go back I would have put them on the registry.   

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• ahoywedding member

  

  September 2017

  Ditto @southernbelle0915. We were a little older when we got married and had already lived on our own for a while, so we took the opportunity to register for things that matched. We kept our old dishes, etc as backup and stuck them in a closet.
  
  Maybe you guys can go through you FMIL's stuff and agree on a couple items to keep (and try to make sure you use when she comes over )

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• knottie22184d67b5638158 member

  

  November 2017

  Think about how much you can save for the kitchen stuff! Plus think about what other things you can buy with the money. How lucky are you to to have a mother-in-law who really loves sharing. I say have some French spirit, they can make everything match.

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• knottiec88d9f0fc1cff17b member

  

  June 2018

  I don't think it's wrong at all for you to want everything matching.  I'm in the same situation right now, when we moved in together my fiance and I combined all of our kitchen items, so it's all mismatched.  We're using our registry to not only ask for all brand new dished/silverware/glasses etc. so that everything matches, but also going through what we have and looking for "upgraded" versions.  While it's sweet that your MIL is offering additional items, I don't think there is any harm in wanting one cohesive set for your brand new home/kitchen

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