I Need A "Snarky Parents" Board...

Re: I Need A "Snarky Parents" Board...

• kwiksilver member

  

  September 2017

  OliveOilsMom said:

  What website are you on that they are asking such crazy cakes questions???  I feel bad for the 17 year old.  I hope it is MUD!

  TrixieJess said:

  @kwiksilver - are you on the American Babycenter? The women on the Canadian Babycenter used to talk about the entertainment value of the American one all the time. 

  It's a period tracker/fertility app called Glow (or Nurture if you're pregnant) but the community is shared by both versions. The place is a gold mine of fail. I may keep posting interesting/cringy things I find LOL

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• kwiksilver member

  

  September 2017 edited September 2017

  Like this gem: "Boyfriend is forcing me to have a home birth"
  
  
  
  Apparently he's so adamant about it because he wants the baby to have a lotus birth, and even though their doctor already agreed to that kind of weirdness, the boyfriend doesn't trust them (I face palmed like 16 times)

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• *Barbie* member

  

  September 2017

  kwiksilver said:

  Like this gem: "Boyfriend is forcing me to have a home birth"
  
  
  
  Apparently he's so adamant about it because he wants the baby to have a lotus birth, and even though their doctor already agreed to that kind of weirdness, the boyfriend doesn't trust them (I face palmed like 16 times)

  Going back to my statement about intelligence test to have children - and these people not being qualified. 

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  September 2017

  kwiksilver said:

  Like this gem: "Boyfriend is forcing me to have a home birth"
  
  
  
  Apparently he's so adamant about it because he wants the baby to have a lotus birth, and even though their doctor already agreed to that kind of weirdness, the boyfriend doesn't trust them (I face palmed like 16 times)

  I wish she would submit this to Dear Prudie.  I am thisclose to creating a fake e-mail and submitting it myself to see if it would show up.   

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• kwiksilver member

  

  September 2017

  mrsconn23 said:

  kwiksilver said:

  Like this gem: "Boyfriend is forcing me to have a home birth"
  
  
  
  Apparently he's so adamant about it because he wants the baby to have a lotus birth, and even though their doctor already agreed to that kind of weirdness, the boyfriend doesn't trust them (I face palmed like 16 times)

  I wish she would submit this to Dear Prudie.  I am thisclose to creating a fake e-mail and submitting it myself to see if it would show up.   

  Just make sure you add the part about the lotus birth (vomit)

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2017

  kwiksilver said:

  Like this gem: "Boyfriend is forcing me to have a home birth"
  
  
  
  Apparently he's so adamant about it because he wants the baby to have a lotus birth, and even though their doctor already agreed to that kind of weirdness, the boyfriend doesn't trust them (I face palmed like 16 times)

  Good lord this woman needs to DTMF!
  
  "I've already given in to not vaccinating our unborn child which I don't feel comfortable with."
  WHY ARE YOU AGREEING TO THIS!?
  
  This whole thing makes me want to table flip ....

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• levioosa member

  

  September 2017

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  
  

  
  

  

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2017

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  Jaw dropped.

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  September 2017

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  September 2017

  mrsconn23 said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

  Right; you'd rather your wife go through SURGERY because you don't want her vagina to change. Eff that noise. No. 

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2017

  charlotte989875 said:

  mrsconn23 said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

  Right; you'd rather your wife go through SURGERY because you don't want her vagina to change. Eff that noise. No. 

  A more intrusive surgery that could have issues afterwards.
  C-section =/= better.
  Healing time is longer as well

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• flantastic member

  

  September 2017

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  I feel like I would have actually lost my shit on him, if only because I have the street cred of having had a baby and my mutual friends could point to that as the source of my party-disrupting anger.

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  September 2017

  charlotte989875 said:

  mrsconn23 said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

  Right; you'd rather your wife go through SURGERY because you don't want her vagina to change. Eff that noise. No. 

  My vagina was changed due to having a baby (because of the way I was stitched up, I can no longer wear tampons...it sits on my scar painfully.  It totally sucks, but it is what it is), but my H doesn't know the difference.  That guy needs an anatomy lesson, and a cast iron pan upside the head. 

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• short+sassy member

  

  September 2017

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  It's really the least he could do, considering she has to deal with a fucked up husband 24/7.
  

  

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• banana468 member

  

  September 2017

  After attending a funeral for a baby that died in a homebirth gone wrong....NO.   Just no dude.  

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• short+sassy member

  

  September 2017

  kwiksilver said:

  OliveOilsMom said:

  What website are you on that they are asking such crazy cakes questions???  I feel bad for the 17 year old.  I hope it is MUD!

  TrixieJess said:

  @kwiksilver - are you on the American Babycenter? The women on the Canadian Babycenter used to talk about the entertainment value of the American one all the time. 

  It's a period tracker/fertility app called Glow (or Nurture if you're pregnant) but the community is shared by both versions. The place is a gold mine of fail. I may keep posting interesting/cringy things I find LOL

  Please do!  I've been enjoying the discussions.  It's like mini-Prudie days.

  In re: to today's post.  As much as I think parents should have equal say and should compromise in regards to their children, on issues of safety, NO!  It's so sad to see this person hasn't left this controlling...I suspect abusive, if not now, at some point...man a long time ago.  And is now pregnant with his child.

  I know this was a hot topic here sometime in the recent past, but I think home births can inherently be more dangerous.  Which is fine if both people have researched it and BOTH agreed they want a home birth.  She obviously isn't comfortable with that.  Sorrynotsorry, SHE gets to decide her medical treatments.  Even while she is carrying their child.  Especially since she is hinting that his stance is related to cost.

  Since she's not working and they're not married, she needs to look into getting Medicaid or some other gov't program for herself and her unborn child, STAT!

  I can't even with the utter stupidity of people not vaccinating their children.  I was reading an article recently that a lot of states are starting to crack down on this b.s.  Basically, if your child isn't vaccinated, they can't attend public school.  With very few exceptions and no more generic "it's against my beliefs".  I hope they live in one of those states.

  As an aside, do you know who you rarely hear spouting off anti-vax rheotoric?  People who are old enough to remember their childhood friends contracting Polio.  Taken out of school.  And never returned.

   
  
  

  

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• *Barbie* member

  

  September 2017

  MissKittyDanger said:

  charlotte989875 said:

  mrsconn23 said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

  Right; you'd rather your wife go through SURGERY because you don't want her vagina to change. Eff that noise. No. 

  A more intrusive surgery that could have issues afterwards.
  C-section =/= better.
  Healing time is longer as well

  c-sections and vaginal births have different risks and benefits, and this is a decision that should be made by the mother and medical professionals treating her. i'd refrain from broad sweeping statements re: c-sections because some people are going to consider it mommy-shaming.  

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• flantastic member

  

  September 2017

  *Barbie* said:

  MissKittyDanger said:

  charlotte989875 said:

  mrsconn23 said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

  Right; you'd rather your wife go through SURGERY because you don't want her vagina to change. Eff that noise. No. 

  A more intrusive surgery that could have issues afterwards.
  C-section =/= better.
  Healing time is longer as well

  c-sections and vaginal births have different risks and benefits, and this is a decision that should be made by the mother and medical professionals treating her. i'd refrain from broad sweeping statements re: c-sections because some people are going to consider it mommy-shaming.  

  Well sure, but it sounds like he's pressuring simply for an elective C-section, which my doctor won't even do (i.e., she will definitely do C-sections, but you have to have actual reasons). And also that this decision isn't being left up to the mother or the medical professionals, if this guy is the badass he wants everyone in this conversation to think he is. All MKD said is that C-section does not (necessarily) equal better. In certain circumstances it certainly could be better, but you don't want to take on those risks just because your husband is an ass.

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• *Barbie* member

  

  September 2017

  flantastic said:

  *Barbie* said:

  MissKittyDanger said:

  charlotte989875 said:

  mrsconn23 said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  THAT'S NOT HOW IT WORKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
  
  (I wish I had something more intelligent to say, but I cannot see through my blinding rage at that guy)

  Right; you'd rather your wife go through SURGERY because you don't want her vagina to change. Eff that noise. No. 

  A more intrusive surgery that could have issues afterwards.
  C-section =/= better.
  Healing time is longer as well

  c-sections and vaginal births have different risks and benefits, and this is a decision that should be made by the mother and medical professionals treating her. i'd refrain from broad sweeping statements re: c-sections because some people are going to consider it mommy-shaming.  

  Well sure, but it sounds like he's pressuring simply for an elective C-section, which my doctor won't even do (i.e., she will definitely do C-sections, but you have to have actual reasons). And also that this decision isn't being left up to the mother or the medical professionals, if this guy is the badass he wants everyone in this conversation to think he is. All MKD said is that C-section does not (necessarily) equal better. In certain circumstances it certainly could be better, but you don't want to take on those risks just because your husband is an ass.

  I'm not defending the husband's asstastic behavior - just saying that there are plenty of legitimate reasons to have a c-section, which should be decided between the person physically giving birth and her attending medical professionals. If this guy is such a "natural" birth Nazi, it sounds like he would actively prevent the woman from having a c-section or drugs if deemed medically necessary and/or verbally/emotionally abuse her if she had the procedure/drugs. Yes it's surgery and there can be complications, but there are also deadly complications to a vaginal birth. Also, re: healing time - that's fully dependant on the person. 
  
  I'm just suggesting that MKD shouldn't make sweeping generalizations on c-sections vs. vaginal births. 

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• kwiksilver member

  

  September 2017

  
  I would tend to agree with everyone. This is a terrible idea

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  September 2017

  "... we both really want a baby and whatever."
  
    
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  September 2017

  "The boy I'm in love with". 
  
  No. If you can use the same word to describe your partner and a baby you're too young to have a baby. 

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• MRDCle member

  

  September 2017

  lovesclimbing said:

  "... we both really want a baby and whatever."
  
    
  

  
  Yeah I don't think she fully grasps that the "and whatever" isn't just having a cute thing for pictures...but more sleepless nights (for years possibly), dealing with a small humans near constant bodily functions, and probably not the easiest to deal with on a college kid's schedule, especially when you add in additional work to PAY for the baby she "wouldn't mind."

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• kvruns member

  

  September 2017

  Babies are not cute accessories, they are real, actual work. Finish college, get a job, find a guy with a good future ahead (possible not one with a record as his job prospects are likely limited from the jailtime), then think about having a baby.

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2017

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  SO! I brought this up with M last night to see his reaction and thoughts.
  His words: Guys don't get a choice. Isn't c-section typically something that's a last minute decision unless a dr has talked to the WOMAN beforehand? I don't even know that part for sure. I'm not the one giving birth or with a medical degree. So ..... not my place for that opinion.
  
  Me; I love you

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• kaos16 member

  

  September 2017

  MissKittyDanger said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  SO! I brought this up with M last night to see his reaction and thoughts.
  His words: Guys don't get a choice. Isn't c-section typically something that's a last minute decision unless a dr has talked to the WOMAN beforehand? I don't even know that part for sure. I'm not the one giving birth or with a medical degree. So ..... not my place for that opinion.
  
  Me; I love you

  
  That's a great man you have there!

  DH was chatting with an acquaintance the other day and it was mentioned how his and his GF's baby was born early, like months early.  I think she weighed about 2-3 pounds.  He actually said it was great because she was so tiny, she didn't screw up his GF's vagina.  He's not welcome in my house anymore.
  

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• short+sassy member

  

  September 2017

  kwiksilver said:

  
  I would tend to agree with everyone. This is a terrible idea

  
  Everyone thinks you're completely absurddddd, because you are.

  You can't support a baby with "FB likes" of their cute pics.  Finish school.

  It will take you 2-3 years to finish school.  If you're still with Jailbird B/F at that time...and I personally wouldn't bet my money on that, even with 10 to 1 odds...then bring up the subject. again.  But only if he has proven himself to be a contributing member of society.  As in, supports himself with a JOB.  Not with crime.

  In the meantime, get yourself a doll like a Betsy Westsy (do they still have those?).  You can feed it, change it, and dress it cute.  That is more your speed for the time being.

  

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2017

  kaos16 said:

  MissKittyDanger said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  SO! I brought this up with M last night to see his reaction and thoughts.
  His words: Guys don't get a choice. Isn't c-section typically something that's a last minute decision unless a dr has talked to the WOMAN beforehand? I don't even know that part for sure. I'm not the one giving birth or with a medical degree. So ..... not my place for that opinion.
  
  Me; I love you

  
  That's a great man you have there!

  DH was chatting with an acquaintance the other day and it was mentioned how his and his GF's baby was born early, like months early.  I think she weighed about 2-3 pounds.  He actually said it was great because she was so tiny, she didn't screw up his GF's vagina.  He's not welcome in my house anymore.
  

  Right!?
  I tend to call him a feminist because of a lot of his views, but doesn't think he is. He says he just knows where he should have an opinion and where he shouldn't. Certain things, he'd like to be asked/considered if me or an ex-gf was making a decision that could affect him/them but he understands end of the day he isn't the one having to make certain life decisions.
  
  He's in the tech field, and he's the BIGGEST advocate of women in STEM fields. Like if we have a girl, he wants to expose her to so much in hopes she would be in that field.
  The literal joy on his face when I mention my coworker's daughter is really into science right now lmao
  
  
  Also that guy would have been smacked in my family. Idk if I "screwed up" my mum, but I came out sideways and had broad shoulders. It caused complications.

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  September 2017

  short+sassy said:

  kwiksilver said:

  
  I would tend to agree with everyone. This is a terrible idea

  
  Everyone thinks you're completely absurddddd, because you are.

  You can't support a baby with "FB likes" of their cute pics.  Finish school.

  It will take you 2-3 years to finish school.  If you're still with Jailbird B/F at that time...and I personally wouldn't bet my money on that, even with 10 to 1 odds...then bring up the subject. again.  But only if he has proven himself to be a contributing member of society.  As in, supports himself with a JOB.  Not with crime.

  In the meantime, get yourself a doll like a Betsy Westsy (do they still have those?).  You can feed it, change it, and dress it cute.  That is more your speed for the time being.

  Bolded should be a banner on social media.

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  September 2017

  kaos16 said:

  MissKittyDanger said:

  levioosa said:

  Boyfriend can fuck right the hell off. That post makes me ragey. It's not your body, dude, you get zero say over how she feels comfortable delivering (with maybe the exception of an unsafe delivery plan--like that hippie woman I saw give birth in an Amazon rainforest river that one time). And no vaccinating? This guy...I fucking cannot. 
  
  This is kind of reminds me of the time I was over at my friend's house and her parents had some of their friends (husband and wife) over to visit. While we were getting some snacks I overheard their friend's husband say, "I told her she has to get a C-section, because I'm not dealing with a fucked up vagina later." I nearly lost my shit. 

  SO! I brought this up with M last night to see his reaction and thoughts.
  His words: Guys don't get a choice. Isn't c-section typically something that's a last minute decision unless a dr has talked to the WOMAN beforehand? I don't even know that part for sure. I'm not the one giving birth or with a medical degree. So ..... not my place for that opinion.
  
  Me; I love you

  
  That's a great man you have there!

  DH was chatting with an acquaintance the other day and it was mentioned how his and his GF's baby was born early, like months early.  I think she weighed about 2-3 pounds.  He actually said it was great because she was so tiny, she didn't screw up his GF's vagina.  He's not welcome in my house anymore.
  

  My H certainly doesn't think mine is "screwed up" and I delivered an almost nine-pound baby for my first! And I'm glad my H understands a c-section is MAJOR SURGERY and should not be done just because. 

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