I'm in a bit of a situation and I would love to hear what others have to say.
My FH and I have known each other since high school. We got engaged very young (I was 20--still in college) without the intention of getting married soon. We're now both turning 25, and we'll be getting married this summer.
I actually started planning our wedding last August, and I asked four friends of mine (two from college, one from working abroad, another from high school) to be my bridesmaids. Everything was planned, went wonderfully.
The problem is that I literally forgot that back when I first got engaged when I was 20, I had been super excited and Skyped two of my best friends at the time and we went through the whole "so excited!" talk and I asked them to be my bridesmaids. It had completely slipped my mind because, after college, I predictably began to see less and less of them as we moved around/got different jobs etc. and I was doing zero wedding planning and had no idea when we would actually get married.
I feel terrible about forgetting. I got so caught up in planning when we actually decided to get married that I didn't stop to think about if I had ever planned anything for a hypothetical wedding in the past. It actually never would have come to mind except one of the friends brought it up and asked if she should still be a bridesmaid. She was very understanding and realized that I had literally just forgotten over the 5 years, but I can tell that the other friend is very angry about it.
It isn't possible at this point to get them everything that they need to be bridesmaids (we couldn't get dresses in time), but I invited them to the shower and to the bachelorette party--literally everything the bridesmaids go to--because I want them to feel included, but I was wondering if there were any other ideas about how I could make them feel involved.