Hi everyone. I'm new here, this is my first post. I just got
engaged recently and we are getting married next year. Before I get
started on my own planning I have a rant/vent about my future
sister-in-law (fiancé's sister) and her "wedding" aka PPD.
She
is already married and the PPD she is having is on their one year
anniversary. No one else has a problem with it and even though my fiancé
knows about etiquette and is normally against PPD's (he's declined them
in the past) he seems to have a blind spot when it comes to his sister.
She got legally married in December of last year. It was all last
minute and no family or friends were there. She was in a car accident
and in the hospital and the doctors said she might not make it. They
weren't even engaged and the hospital chaplain married her and her
boyfriend. No one they knew were there and it was quick and there were
no photos or other wedding things. They were legally married though.
So
now on the one year anniversary of their legal wedding, they are having a
"wedding" aka PPD. She is wearing a white dress, they have a wedding
party, they are doing vows in the church and then having a reception
afterward. I have never been in a car accident but I get it was
upsetting for her. I understand why she wants the date to be a happy
thing to remember instead of the date being the day she was in a car accident and
almost died. She was in the hospital for 3 months and lived in a rehab
center
for 6 months. She came home in September and is now back to work
full-time and normal life now. I can't even imagine. But she
is already legally married. This is a bone of contention between me and
my fiancé. He doesn't think it is an issue. He is walking
her down the aisle and doing all the other father stuff since their
father died over 15 years ago. He thinks that since they aren't asking
for gifts, they don't have a registry and they
aren't doing a honeyfund or any other etiquette blunders like a cash
bar that this isn't a problem.
Like I said, I
truly feel for her and I have no idea what she went through. She could
have a marriage celebration party without all the trappings of a wedding
but her and her husband are doing the full big white wedding. No one
else in the family thinks it is a bad idea and everyone is offering to
pitch in and stuff like that. I was asked to be a bridesmaid but I declined. My fiancé still wants me to come as his date.
Thanks for listening and letting me vent. I am still annoyed with my fiancé
but since everyone else, all of the family and their friends and even
their coworkers on on board I know I can't say anything. I really appreciate this website. I learned so much about
wedding etiquette from here. I have learned a couple of things I planned
to do are no gos.
So thanks for that and for anyone who read my whole
post. - Jenny