Not really sure to post this maybe invitations, but it is hardly about that. I am torn about this situation with my aunt/god mother. My aunt who I love so much is an addict and has torn the family apart with her antics and broken my grandmothers heart. I don't want to get into it but I am not sure if I should invite her to the wedding. I would love to if she was CLEAN, but sadly that is not the case. My wedding is an open bar and I can't risk her causing a scene or doing something to endanger herself or somebody. It could be a mess and stir up so much family drama and fights, plus I don't want my beloved grandmother to be put in an uncomfortable position. I have a pretty large and tight nit family, but she hasn't been in it for years, she is not talking to anybody bc she thinks we are against her for wanting to get her sober. My cousin recently got married and he decided not to invite her due to the drama and pain she caused. I love her dearly, but I also don't even recognize her when she is like this. My invites are going out soon and I ask my mom what she thinks would be best for everyone, and she thinks I should wait and see till I send the invites out and if she is SOBER than send her one and call her. The worst part is my cousins are invited (her kids), they went to my other cousins wedding and had no problem with her not being present. Frankly they are sick of her antics too, so I think they would understand. I want to be hopeful, but it is so akward. I wish she can just be herself and not have to be drunk/high, but I can't risk that.