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Pot or parenting?

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Re: Pot or parenting?

  • banana468 said:
    Word.   On the Merritt Pkwy in Southwestern CT good luck if you don't go over the speed limit.   Tons of entrances force you to get to highway speed at a stop sign, drivers are often in the left lane knowing of the areas that are a pain and if you're going 55 mph you're definitely the slow one.

    But @Casadena, my point of questioning was if you would do this on a road, on a highway and if you see a difference between say 1-10 mph over the limit and in excess of 20 mph over the limit? 


    I get what you're trying to say, but it's a totally different argument.  In the situations you two are describing there can be a huge danger in interrupting the flow of traffic.  So yes, of course, speeding in those situation (even though illegal) may be the better choice. 

    Sure, there's probably a difference in going 1-10 over and going 20 over.  I tend not to do either but might if I was driving alone and there weren't other cars around (this happens more frequently in IL/IA/NE than you might think).  Yes, it's illegal but I'm not endangering anyone but myself and that's a risk I can decide if I want to take.  If other ppl are in the car or on the road, nope. 

  • Casadena said:

    I get what you're trying to say, but it's a totally different argument.  In the situations you two are describing there can be a huge danger in interrupting the flow of traffic.  So yes, of course, speeding in those situation (even though illegal) may be the better choice. 

    Sure, there's probably a difference in going 1-10 over and going 20 over.  I tend not to do either but might if I was driving alone and there weren't other cars around (this happens more frequently in IL/IA/NE than you might think).  Yes, it's illegal but I'm not endangering anyone but myself and that's a risk I can decide if I want to take.  If other ppl are in the car or on the road, nope. 

    Is it a totally different argument?  There are different types of exceeding the speed limit (different types of drugs and amounts) and some people will do this out of necessity due to the overall traffic in the area.  And also, there's no confirmation that speed is the primary factor in safety - just look at the Autobahn in Germany.   But we legislate our roads and ticket based on the speed of a driver only.  And if your opinion is that anything illegal is bad and even worse if kids are involved then do you drive on a highway in a highly populated area with kids if you know you'll most likely need to exceed the speed limit or do you not and then roll your eyes at every minivan  or SUV in the greater NYC area? 

    Similarly plenty of people use pot knowing it's illegal not like the jerk LW but because it can help increase appetite due to chemotherapy or other medical issue, treat muscle spasms, or assist with seizure disorders, PTSD or glaucoma.   However in your black and white opinion, those people should not use it or have it in the house if they have kids because it's illegal even if its use is medically beneficial, and the penalties for having that amount in the home are considered to be a misdemeanor?  
  • It's been awhile since a Friday Flame or pop off.  :smile:
  • Truth be told, I feel like LW and his wife had an agreement and he just ignored it and is now acting like this is coming out of the blue.  I want to hear the wife's side.  I'm pretty sure it goes "my husband agreed to stop smoking pot when we had kids, but now he's saying that he agreed to only cut back and hasn't starting to slow down now that I am pregnant".

  • ei34ei34 member
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    Casadena said:
    I personally think it's irresponsible if people have illegal drugs in the house with kids regardless of what the drug is - full stop.  

    Of course people are free to ignore what I'm saying, that's true of any conversation or discussion on any topic.  No one has to agree with me. 
    Agree with the bolded, I ignore things all the time I see here I disagree with.  Don't fully understand why this topic is so different, and everyone has to be on the same page.
    I don't want to comment on the pot-while-parenting, makes me too sad on a deep, private level.  But I will say on the side convo that I do drive 1-5mph over the speed limit a few times a month, but more than that...like 10mph over?  Maybe a handful over times, ever? 

  • Oh! Something I didn't think of...although more on the wife while she is pregnant side...he should start vaping instead of smoking.  That way, he won't be potentially exposing her to smoke when he comes back inside.

    But I still think she has a point that it will be easier for him to cut back if he does it gradually than going from "a lot of pot every day" to "occasionally", all of a sudden.
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  • edited June 2019
    Oh! Something I didn't think of...although more on the wife while she is pregnant side...he should start vaping instead of smoking.  That way, he won't be potentially exposing her to smoke when he comes back inside.

    But I still think she has a point that it will be easier for him to cut back if he does it gradually than going from "a lot of pot every day" to "occasionally", all of a sudden.
    But the letter says he already has cut back, to “in the backyard at the end of the day”. 

    Eta.... though plenty of people get blackout drunk in the backyard at the end of the day so maybe he is doing the pot equivalent of that, idk. 
  • edited June 2019
    ei34 said:
    Agree with the bolded, I ignore things all the time I see here I disagree with.  Don't fully understand why this topic is so different, and everyone has to be on the same page.
    I don't want to comment on the pot-while-parenting, makes me too sad on a deep, private level.  But I will say on the side convo that I do drive 1-5mph over the speed limit a few times a month, but more than that...like 10mph over?  Maybe a handful over times, ever? 

    I think it’s more of the “people who don’t agree with me are irresponsible” that people take issue with; not that there is disagreement. 

    ETA:spelling. 
  • ei34ei34 member
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    I think it’s more of the “people who don’t agree with me are irresponsible” that people take issue with; not that there is disagreement. 

    ETA:spelling. 
    Shorter answer: but even that's subjective.  ABC thinks I'm irresponsible, I disagree with that, I know I'm not
    Longer answer: I do hear you.  Judgement and parenting go hand in hand, unfortunately.  H and I are going to throw treats and tablets at the kids at my sister's wedding tomorrow if it buys us 15 minutes to eat a nice meal in semi-peace...will at least one random guest judge the s**t out of us?  Of course.  Not saying it's okay, it just is what it is.  I see both sides- it is irresponsible on some level, in my world.  But what works for one family/couple is different for the next.  Marijuana is a gray area on so many levels.
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