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Wedding Woes
mrsconn23
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Disability, gender, and job applications.
in Wedding Woes
Dear Prudence,
I’ve been applying to jobs for many months now. I have a disability and am genderqueer. Many jobs have boxes to check to disclose a disability, which I do because I have to tell them at some point, but a co-worker at a previous job once told me our boss said she wouldn’t have hired me if she’d known beforehand (illegal but true). I have also been checking the box that says I don’t disclose my gender because there are only ever male and female options. I almost never hear back from these applications, which I know is part of applying online, but I can’t tell if I’m screwing myself over by disclosing these things about myself. Should I just check a gender box even if it’s not accurate?
—Honesty in Applying
Re: Disability, gender, and job applications.
Unfortunately I don't see this changing very soon, but hopefully people accept people as is and ignore the situation they think they have
Like @charlotte989875, I wouldn't necessarily tell someone they should "lie" (for lack of a better word) on an application. But if they want to about something they feel could lead to discrimination, I don't think there is anything wrong with it either.
Though kind of depends on how the question is worded. I have a major disability. I would never disclose that on an application. But quite frankly, I have also NEVER seen it. So, I gotta admit, that sent up a bs flag for me. At least I've never seen it as a blanket, general question on an application. Just on (sometimes) New Hire paperwork.
Now, what an application question might say is...usually related to an already stated qualification of the job..."Can you sit or stand for long periods of time with reasonable accommodation?" Or "Can you lift up to 50 lbs. with reasonable accommodation?" So, yes, the LW needs to answer those questions honestly. And if their disability precludes them from being able to perform the basic tasks of a job. Well, then, sorry. I know it sucks. But that falls under the category of "life is unfair".
Because, here's the deal. Even members of protected classes have to be able to do the core qualifications of the job.
For example, due to my disability, I am ineligible to get any kind of commercial driver's license or pilot's license. Since I can't get the appropriate license, I can't pursue any of those kinds of careers.
My understanding was that the forms were not supposed to be included with a hiring packet, but rather the data is reported in aggregate to the EEOC, but someone closer to employment probably knows more than I do. As I recall, "decline to answer" was always an option, and my go-to.
I still think the LW is seeing something that isn't there, if they are only talking about online applications. Not that bias and discrimination don't exist. But, just like you mentioned that you choose "decline to answer", I'd think that's a fairly common choice anyway.
As an aside, I have belonged to a lot of online survey companies for years. They pay me for filling out surveys. Sometimes send products to try. Yada, yada. I've noticed a change over the last 6 months or so for the gender choice.
Previously, it was always male or female. Sometimes with a "choose not to answer" choice also.
Now, the choices tend to be "male/identify as male" or "female/identify as female". Non-binary is also usually a choice. Not as often, but I've also sometimes seen trans choices, though I forget how they phrase those.