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It's Thursdaayyy

Good morning! 
WWWWD- a lady who jogs with her dog sometimes throws a baggie of dog poop into our garbage cans...it was usually mornings that the garbage can was out at the curb for a garbage pickup day...I leave for work around 7 and don't get back until 3, so unless H was off, the can was out for a while, even after pickup.  No biggie I guess, the can was right there on the sidewalk, I get her temptation.  But last summer/over school holidays (when I'm home) I take the can back right away, and I'd noticed she would sometimes walk up our driveway to the start of our backyard, where the garbage and recycling cans are kept, and dispose of the bag.  Not as cool, like..stay out of the yard...but, I let it go.  H noticed her for the first time on Monday and flipped, said he was going to confront her, and I could see him not being calm, so I moved the cans to further into the yard assuming she wouldn't walk into the backyard.  I was right...but yesterday I noticed a bag of dog poop (from her dog...she uses a specific bag) flung into our yard.  Like I guess she noticed the cans out of reach but was already there?  I guess?  Do I write a note and out it on the fence?  Confront her?  Thoughts?  (on something so trivial and silly especially right now, but just wondering what you'd do.)
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  • Um, she's a dick.  WTF at walking onto your property to dispose of her dog shit?  Cans on the curb, sure...but hellz no at the rest. At this point, I'd almost let your H run up on her and be all, "What are you doing?!  Why are you coming on my property and leaving your poop bags behind?"  It's trespassing.  I'm not sure cops would come out to cite her, but if you talk to her or leave a note indicating you know she's doing this and she continues then you may want to call non-emergency to see if there are any options. 

    Last night was tough.  I had to run out to get a few things from the store that could not wait, so I was gone when the kids video chatted with mom and dad.  Older sis was worried about mom because she was too quiet (I got home in the middle, and dad sounded tired), then I found out another round of layoffs happened and affected quite a few people I've worked with for a really long time, and then the news updates last night bothered me more than they have in days. I just felt like I was chewing on stress. 

    DH and I did talk again about what we'd do if I were to get laid off.  I think DH's job is pretty OK for now, so we'd definitely survive and most importantly, all have insurance. 

    I think we have one more day of cold snap around here.  It looks like we'll get back to better weather after this weekend. Finally.  

    Prudie day.  YAY 
  • WTF!

    Look, you're in NYC so I wouldn't be in her face.   But I *would* confront her, say she's trespassing and say the next time you see her you're flinging the bag of dog shit back at her if she does it again.  Eff that noise. 

    I'm so tired of the President and his desire to put the economy before the lives of people while he claims to be pro life.  I'm so tired of people I know commenting on the same thing.   I am tired that we're rationing sugar because we know that we want enough for coffee and tea and it's not time to go to the grocery store and yet we are DAMN lucky to both be working.  I'm tired that Chiquita's sass mouth is on full effect because she's a kid and I'm lashing out and not going anywhere. 

    But FFS, if this gets bad enough I'll buy a peloton or something and put my energy into that.   I'm not going to think that we need to be back out there.  

    Two of DH's cousins took over the family business of a funeral home.   One of their wives shared a video that was put out by Business Insider talking about what it's like to be a NYC funeral home director.   They're about 40 miles away from that location in CT but still - it's what they're seeing.   And it's frightening.
  • @ei34 I know it sounds tedious, but I would confront. Especially since she's now purposefully coming on your property for that. I'm not sure, but wouldn't that be considered trespassing?


    It's pretty chilly here, but I put BabyKitten in a spring top anyways. Her 18m stuff is still pretty baggy, but a lot of her tshirts were up to 9m {a few 12m} and she's been getting pretty warm at night. I've been giving her a blanket, and although she doesn't really sleep with it like expected, she often ends up sleeping on it.

    Seriously though, when do kids start sleeping normal instead of all over? Lol
  • @ei34 I know it sounds tedious, but I would confront. Especially since she's now purposefully coming on your property for that. I'm not sure, but wouldn't that be considered trespassing?


    It's pretty chilly here, but I put BabyKitten in a spring top anyways. Her 18m stuff is still pretty baggy, but a lot of her tshirts were up to 9m {a few 12m} and she's been getting pretty warm at night. I've been giving her a blanket, and although she doesn't really sleep with it like expected, she often ends up sleeping on it.

    Seriously though, when do kids start sleeping normal instead of all over? Lol
    My 5 yo is in a Little Tikes pirate ship bed and there are occasions that I hear him flinging himself on that injection molded plastic in the middle of the night. 
  • I’d be all about H confronting for flinging the pop bag on your property. Cans at the street is fine, driveway is not cool, and backyard is way out of line. 

    We have snow, like actual stick to the ground snow. I’m with you @banana468, not a Peloton because I hate cycling but a treadmill. I’ve wanted one for a while and last night H finally gave in and said we could start looking for one that is easy to maneuver and sturdy enough for me to run consistently on. He finally got it when I said it meant I could run when the baby was sleeping/not eating and he was back to work and I was alone. 

    Busy day at work, we’re getting tons of requests about what’s going to happen to our portfolios given, everything. The answer is basically we don’t know for sure but it’s probably not good. 

    We’ve had the same conversations @mrsconn23 if we lose our jobs (or if we get sick) and while I’m probably fine (and he realistically is too) it’s scary to think about and plan for. Thankfully we’ve been saving a lot this year ahead of the baby, just hoping we still get to use it for the baby. 
  • I think we have a new neighbor to the left of us.  I heard their TV, for the first time in 4 years in this place.  That's fine, no biggie, I live in an apartment it's going to happen.

    Then I heard their goddamn TV all.damn.night.  Literally.  I usually get up around 4 am to go to the restroom and I could still hear it!!  When I got up to get ready for work, it was finally off.  I left a nice note on their door, just asking them to turn it down at 10 pm.  Hopefully, this isn't an issue.  I've always had mostly good neighbor relations.

    Working every other day has done a lot to alleviate my anxiety.  I don't know what the future looks like and I don't trust the people in charge of it, so I'm basically sticking my head in the sand.  Right now, both K and I are gainfully employed with decent seniority at our jobs and that's all I can hope/ask for right now.

    Picked up my grocery shopping yesterday.  Have a few packages at my parent's house that I'll pick up from their porch tonight.  Toilet paper is on the way from Amazon on Saturday.  I'm tracking that baby like it's an exciting package or something.  Yesterday I was all, Whoot!  It'll be here Saturday!  Wait, what damn day is it right now?!
  • @mrsconn23, I'm sorry to hear about the layoffs in your company.  That's really scary stuff, too.  I hope your job stays safe.

    Our mayor just extended the Stay At Home order until at least May 16th.  I'm sad that is necessary, though not entirely surprised.  I was just really hoping things would improve enough that we could start opening back up by May 1st.  That really took the wind out of my sails.  At least the slight breeze that was left, lol.

    I'm glad it is Prudie Day.  That will be a nice distraction.

    Depending on how much I can get done today for work, I'm thinking about taking a vacation day tomorrow.  Probably won't happen, but I could use a day where I can sleep in more and just rest my mind.
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  • We're on a call with our director about this and people are crying.  My director sounds like she's going to cry.  This is terrible. 
  • mrsconn23 said:
    We're on a call with our director about this and people are crying.  My director sounds like she's going to cry.  This is terrible. 
    I'm so sorry @mrsconn23
  • mrsconn23 said:
    We're on a call with our director about this and people are crying.  My director sounds like she's going to cry.  This is terrible. 
    Damn. 

    Just so you know it’s not too early for bourbon in your tea. 
  • That lady is an asshole! I'd leave notes anywhere she could see them AND I would confront her. Fuck her. 

    @mrsconn23 I'm sorry. I know that's so hard. Our layoffs were awful. 

    I'm on hold with TD bank and have been for 30 minutes now. Trying to see what I can do about these fuckheads at 24 Hour Fitness that charged me a membership fee again, after they sent an email that they were no longer charging fees. $50 came out of my account today. 

    We got up and did a great hike this morning at the one state park that's still open. And it was actually snowing! 
  • banana468 said:
    @ei34 I know it sounds tedious, but I would confront. Especially since she's now purposefully coming on your property for that. I'm not sure, but wouldn't that be considered trespassing?


    It's pretty chilly here, but I put BabyKitten in a spring top anyways. Her 18m stuff is still pretty baggy, but a lot of her tshirts were up to 9m {a few 12m} and she's been getting pretty warm at night. I've been giving her a blanket, and although she doesn't really sleep with it like expected, she often ends up sleeping on it.

    Seriously though, when do kids start sleeping normal instead of all over? Lol
    My 5 yo is in a Little Tikes pirate ship bed and there are occasions that I hear him flinging himself on that injection molded plastic in the middle of the night. 
    lmao!
    BabyKitten is still in crib {obv} but at this rate we'll have to put her mattress on the floor with how she sleeps. I put her down and it's not like she just rolls over, she rolls and scoots somewhere. Sometimes sideways. I'd be afraid she'd fall off the bed lol
  • @climbingwife I'm with TD as well, and they've been good with issues like that in the past. Hopefully they can help you.

    @mrsconn23 This is rough for everyone. Big hugs
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    @mrsconn23 ugh I'm sorry, that's so stressful!  This is such a crappy time.
    @banana468 we moved to Long Island last year but with you on not being in her face anyway.  Thanks everyone...just put a note up.  If it continues I will let H do his thing. 
    That's bs that you were charged @climbingwife !  My kids' swim school and early morning dropoff program (the only two fees I have automatically deducted each month) both stopped this month...if one of them had charged me I'd be livid.  It's ridiculous you even have to spend all that time on the phone fighting that.
  • As someone who walks a dog and regularly has a full doggie bag in hand, I sometimes even hesitate to put it in full garbage bins on the curb on garbage day.  I cannot fathom walking up someone's driveway or into their backyard in order to dispose of it.  Honestly, I have walked for hours with a doggie bag in hand so that I could throw it out at home.  Or, if I'm walking a loop and will walk back the same way, I hide it somewhere so I can pick it up on the way back and throw it out in my own damn trash. I would discuss things with her - at the very least, let her know that this makes you uncomfortable. 

    For children's crazy sleeping stories, I remember when I was little, I once woke up in a panic because I thought that my bunk bed had collapsed on me.  My sister, who slept on the top bunk, woke up to hear my yelling.  My mom rushed into the room to figure it out, only to see the bunk bed fully intact, but me nowhere to be seen.  It turned out I had rolled out of bed and then under my bed completely, like, really far in.  I must have been five or six.  

  • @levioosa Yikes!  They can't penalize you for taking time off for a funeral, though, can they?  That would be a really low blow.  I hope that the higher-ups realize that.

  • @levioosa that's an insane way to make staffing (cuts?) decisions.   I mean unexcused absences is one thing, but ANYONE who was off?  What the what? 

  • mrsconn23 said:
    @levioosa that's an insane way to make staffing (cuts?) decisions.   I mean unexcused absences is one thing, but ANYONE who was off?  What the what? 

    Yeah. If they do that it would make them so extra shitty. Because overall I haven’t called off a single time. All of my absences have been pre-planned days that have been approved. 


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  • @ei34 I thought that was a prudie letter at first, lol

    @mrsconn23 I am sorry to hear about the layoffs. This whole thing is just insane.

    @levioosa hopefully they won't fault you for a funeral. That would be really unfair.

    SSDD here. DH is in the process of returning to work. Cancelling visas, filling out new paperwork, getting approvals, yada yada. It is just such a process but so happy it is happening. His buddy, who was laid off at the same time and was offered a job about a week ahead of DH, is still going through his background check or something like that. It is taking so long he was asking us about shipping container costs and shit. Now just seems like the worst time to have to move.

    I made the mistake of reading the comments section about that protest in Michigan. I just really can't believe people some times.
  • Another vote for confront the bitch @ei34
    I'm sorry @mrsconn23 and @levioosa

    SSDD different day here.  We are both going nuts bc we haven't been on a walk or anything in a few days so that's a priority. Other than that just working and hanging with the baby. 
  • @drunkenwitch you could look at trying to buy something from a local place - that way the money goes to good use.
    Cute kitty :)
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    @drunkenwitch you could look at trying to buy something from a local place - that way the money goes to good use.
    Cute kitty :)
    Ooooo! That gave me an idea, I could give some of that money to the local food bank.  Then I know it's directly helping people.  Thank you!

    And yes, he is adorable.  He's 17 pounds and still thinks he's a kitten.  We love him. 

  • @drunkenwitch, I know a number of people who are donating all or part of their stimulus checks to worthwhile causes because they feel secure in their jobs and have their finances pretty solid.  But you are not less deserving of your stimulus check.  You said yourself you're worried about your job!  That's what these checks are for.  To give people just a little more security during times that are financially stressful for most of us.

    I hope your job remains intact through all this.  I'd suggest adding the stimulus money to your rainy day fund.  If you need it, that's an extra cushion.  If you don't, once your job feels more secure, you can always chose to donate a portion of it to a charitable organization. 
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  • I need to get off of my work computer, b/c I've been shopping. So far, I've bought new hair products (I'm going to need shampoo/conditioner soon, and I bought the deep conditioning and scalp elixir in hopes for fixing this weird dandruff patch I have right now), a Clinique order, and I've ordered an apartment kit from UHaul b/c I have to GOT to get this shit from the storage unit at least packed up and ready to be taken to donate when things open back up.  I've got 3 days off coming up, I can do that.  I did also pay my personal property taxes, so that's good.
  • Ei - Hell to the no to that woman.  That is beyond anything!  Especially now that she is just chucking it in your backyard!  There was some person in my neighbor hood who was opening up our recycling bin to throw in the dog poop bag.  Neither the poop or the bag is recyclable, so WTF?  We have those special recycle bins from our town, but the trash cans are not - so its obvious this person is just an extra a-hole.

    MrsConn - I'm sorry, things are so tough right now.

    Levioosa - I hope your job isn't so callous that they choose layoffs based on who worked and who didn't.  That is especially bad, since your day off is excused for a funeral.

    SSDD here too.  Today is our day to pick up take out from a local restaurant.   We will also buy some gift cards for the place too, so we can use them when this is all over and support local business.  I've been spying their facebook page all day because the last few Thursdays they have had an awesome brisket special!  I should probably just call them now!  It has sold out quick!
  • In the "Holy crap!  Are you KIDDING me?!?" file...

    I just had one of my mystery shopping companies call me.  It was surprised to see their name on my caller id.  Because, needless to say, that's another industry that has bit the dust during this pandemic.  But I picked up the phone because, who knows, it might be something doable.

    They were calling me about an assignment they had available.  It's not true mystery shopping, it's a price audit.  But these types of assignments use similar gig workers to MS, so MS companies often handle them.

    In light of recent events, the assignment sounded horrifying and I'm appalled that any company would have contracted an MS company to have this work done.  This is what it entailed:  spending about THREE HOURS in a grocery store, price checking various items.

    I'm proud of myself that I maintained my composure with the scheduler who called me.  I even kept my tone pleasant.  I thanked her for calling me and told her that, under normal circumstances, I would be interested in this type of assignment.  But that, right now, my city is under a Stay At Home order and spending three hours in a grocery store is way too dangerous.  She was understanding about that and the call ended nicely enough.  But, geez!!!!
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  • So I love @drunkenwitch’s idea of following her home to throw it in her yard, but I’d be a “sign” person myself!
    @mrsconn23 sucks about the job.  Hopefully that’s not the case.
    i super want a peloton, @banana468, and a mirror.  I declined the mirror because it required a monthly subscription and I’m a buy it once kinda person.  Technically my treadmill has a subscription option to track all your work, but you don’t need it to work.  So let me know if you can use the peloton without the monthly cost (or anyone who has it).  Not that I have room for one...
    @VarunaTT, that TV thing would annoy me.  I need a tv on to sleep, but it’s so quiet I can barley hear it.  If you can hear theirs through the walls that’s insane.
    @short+sassy, I’m glad you declined.  I don’t know if I could even stay 3 hours in a grocery store under normal circumstances (unless the money was really really good!)

    SSDD for me.  It was glorious to wake up with heat.  My meal kit arrived on time this week so now I gotta figure out when to attempt cooking it between Ozark eps! I’m still on season 2 only. 

    Yesterday was emotional for me.  No heat, no workout, super busy at work, and then I made a dinner that failed horribly so I had nothing for back up - and to make everything so emotional, my ex is sending gifts. Last week was a fruit basket, this week was a pair of earrings he thought I had lost a mate to awhile back. One of my friends thinks he’s doing it as a hoovering narcissist, but I think he’s doing this so he can tell everyone he’s not an asshole and he’s sending me stuff. Or if he’s not telling anyone this, in his own head he feels better.  But I had to text him, say thanks, but there’s no reason to send me stuff and I’d rather see his money go to his debt.  Which of course sparked “I want to.  I’m truly sorry for what I did.  I wish I could go back and change things”.  Nope.  Nope.  Nope.  I ended our texting and spent the night crying. Yay. 

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