I am new to this...
I have been very chill about all my wedding planning and shared all my ideas and info with my soon to be sister-in-law. We got engaged back in June and have had our venue and date set since that same week. However, my fiancé's sister got engaged about a month ago (End of September), she informed us over the weekend that she would like to have her wedding only 2 weeks before ours. She asked if we would be ok with that and we replied that we would not, as we felt it was too close for friends and family to attend both weddings (we have very similar friend groups as we live in a small town). we proposed that she could either do it a month before us or after us, or even 2 weeks after us. She has family coming from out of the province, which I understand but they came this year at the end of august so I am confused why they cant come the same time next year. Regardless of this, she got very defensive and was basically threatening my fiancé (her brother) that she should not "try him". She also commented on the amount of money we are spending on this wedding and that she regrets the amount she spent on her first. because she is more mature now... It is important to note she is NOT even divorced yet from her first husband. how can you set a date if you are not even divorced and they have a very bad relationship (he is not supportive of her new fiancé at all). I don't think it is asking too much to have it a month before or after us. We are also in the process of building a house that we will be finishing around the same time, making us very busy in addition to planning our own wedding. There are also 4 birthday within that month on both sides of our family, making it a VERY busy month.
Can someone please tell me if I am acting crazy? I just want there to be more than one weekend between our weddings. She didn't seem keen on having hers 2 weeks after ours, which makes me wonder if she just wants to be married first?? iMy fiancé (her brother) feels the same if not worse about the situation, we have had a few issues with his sister in the past and this same kind of behaviour.