Too Early TUESDAY

kvruns · November 2020

Made it to 5:05am today so that's progress! Have a dentist appointment today. B was supposed to have one at his dentist but I cancelled because they're not doing the spin brush so really it is just look in his mouth and poke around a few times while he screams the whole time. So not worth the drama or the $30.

climbingsingle · November 2020

I'm a nervous wreck today. There's a virtual court meeting with my lawyer and my ex's lawyers at 9:30. My lawyer has another meeting right after that, so I won't hear from here until the afternoon. I just want this fucking finished already.

Other than that, I'm great..haha. Ordered a new couch that I'm picking up tomorrow. Getting more things unpacked and organized as I go.

banana468 · November 2020

Good luck @climbingwife ! Please update us and fingers X that you can be rid of your ex quickly!

I slept poorly last night and needed Advil in the middle of the night. I think I am now at the age where I can be bloated after dinner and it catches up with me. Oh this is fun!

SIL's sister announced on social media that she is expecting and due in March. I noticed that neither SIL nor BIL "liked" the post so we shall see what's going on. It has to be hard knowing that they experienced two serious losses and I'm not sure how serious the sister is about the guy she's dating. I hope BIL doesn't get all santimonious as he's known to do now.

kvruns · November 2020

fingers crossed for a good meeting @climbingwife I hope your lawyer can get back with you quickly

STARMOON44 · November 2020

Good luck @climbingwife thinking of you!

MissKittyDanger · November 2020

@climbingwife fx for you!

My boss' grandma {who wasn't doing well} passed

Idk if this morning or last night, but found out this morning. She was in palliative care so they knew and apparently as long as everyone is safe and the place is safe, they allowed family in to see her {briefly and one at a time} so they got to "say goodbye" per say.

Confirmed yesterday my nana has leukemia but they're anticipating to be able to do the pills to help her.
She's staying in hospital for awhile and has to still do a bone marrow test {likely to ensure not spread much and where they're at}
Dr seems positive that she'll be okay, but it's still nerve wracking $:\$

M & I are going forward with kitchen stuff. We joke how much it's changed from our original plans.
Then - change handles, paint cupboards, paint counters
Now - replace it all!!!

We want to lift our microwave {and potentially get a new one} so we're trying to figure out logistics of where. Likely it'll be in same spot, just up - as the plug is there.
I'm just trying to ensure we still get good cupboard space while possibly taking some space out.
I can render things BUT we are doing measurements and then booking an appt with ikea

short+sassy · November 2020

@climbingwife, good luck to your lawyer with the court meeting! Ugh, it does sound nerve wracking to wait until this afternoon. Yay new couch!

I have a really hectic day and I'm bummed about that. I'm missing some of my bank statements and might have to run around town at lunch time to get them (sigh). One of them is for my HELOC, which I have online banking for, but I can't print statements from there. The other one is a business checking account that I don't have online banking for. Last, but not least, I need my current quarter for my 401K. But I assume the only way I can get that is online, so I'll need to set up that account.

I'm also leaving work about two hours early to complete four mystery shops I was supposed to do this weekend. That was not the original plan AT ALL! But between feeling crappy anyway and nervous to go out in public, I pushed them out to today. I even tried to do one last night (gas station), but it has to be done in "daylight hours". It was dusk, almost dark when I got there. In the 10 minutes it took me to pump some gas and pick up something to buy in the convenience store, it was totally dark, so I abandoned completing it. It actually starts as a mystery shop, but then I reveal myself and conduct an audit with a lot of pictures. I didn't reveal myself, I just left. I didn't realize how dark it gets so early! It's really annoying for these particular assignments because I used to be able to hit 1-2 when I got off work. Unfortunately, I'm going to have to stop accepting these assignments, unless I can do them on Fridays or the weekend.

Oh yeah. And I need to do a pick up for my Walmart order. It's too much, y'all! It's too much! I'm trying to stay focused on "tomorrow". If I can finish my loan paperwork, get my Walmart order, and finish all of these shops...I should finally be able to relax a little and stop feeling like there is this heavy weight on my shoulder.

VarunaTT · November 2020

Good luck, @climbingwife

Welp, on Friday I figured out through various electronic breadcrumbs (me trying to change PW/delete profiles, etc), that K had been planning this all for awhile. So, I left work early Friday. Went to the bank and closed the joint account, then started drinking. It was a hellish weekend.

Yesterday, I had the garage door opener turned off, the door code changed, and the locks changed. K didn't sign the release for the lease, so technically the landlord would have to let them back in, but I don't expect the coward to show back up. I've also texted their mother (R), that she needs to come get the 95% of the shit K left in the apartment by November 30. R has responded with "ok". I actually slept a fairly solid sleep last night; K still having access was weighing heavier than I realized. I was jumping every time I heard a noise that I thought was them coming back.

I'm back at work, putting my nose to the grind to get through everything that got messed up by me being unexpectedly gone for 4 days. I'm still hurt, but I'm also disappointed and angry at them.

missJeanLouise · November 2020

(((hugs))) @VarunaTT untangling from a relationship is so hard. I hope when it is all resolved you can breathe a sigh of relief and feel renewed.

Sending good news vibes @climbingwife FX

@MissKittyDanger sorry to hear about your Nana. That is so hard.

Ssdd, here. I got my hopes up that we might be able to go somewhere in December because DH had to use some of his vacation time or lose it. But, sigh, it's not in the budget with Christmas, our housing lease renewing, DH wants to buy a car (until now we have always leased), and other random things. We will do a few days at a fancy hotel here on "the good beach" but I miss traveling.

mrsconn23 · November 2020

((hugs)) @climbingwife and @VarunaTT .

Birds keep crash landing into my office window. The reflection of the tree outside my window must really be sharp today. I jump every single time it happens, LOL.

It's Tuesday, blerg.

kvruns · November 2020

@mrsconn23 we have a stained glass window above our front door that had to be covered up because they loved to fly into it. We also had a bird trapped in our garage yesterday and this morning. It seems to be gone now and I hope it doesn't come back!

banana468 · November 2020

@VarunaTT I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Any break up where you feel like your relationship isn't just ending but your trust is also broken is so hard. Hugs.

CharmedPam · November 2020

@short+sassy, yeah I’d have to do that MS at lunch too. It gets dark at 4:30! Do they know if you did it when it was dark? Stupid q, did you not gas up to full? I always do and couldn’t go back the next day, lol!

@climbingwife, hope the meeting goes well and you can get rid of that thing very quickly. I hope it’s a speedy divorce like mine. Jan 6th - February 24th.

@VarunaTT, my heart goes out to you. You couldn’t have said it better by calling them coward K. They sound like it! Be an adult and sign the thing! Get your shit ‘n get OUT. Ugh. Vent away here.

ummmm yesterday I bought a punching bag. Guess I’m starting to box again? Can you imagine how fit and toned I’d be if I actually used the stuff?

MissKittyDanger · November 2020

@VarunaTT Urg that's awful

you shouldn't have to sleep in fear. Can you swap locks?

@mrsconn23 ack! Can you put something on the window? {tape or something}

MissKittyDanger · November 2020

If you're wondering where I am mentally ..... I'm colouring my hair purple this week.

mrsconn23 · November 2020

MissKittyDanger said:

@mrsconn23 ack! Can you put something on the window? {tape or something}

LOL, no. It's a big window. It only happens on these sunny days, and it's worse at this time of year when the leaves are off the tree.

charlotte989875 · November 2020

Yesterday was a shitshow with the power outage, trying to work at my moms from a card table, and then found mistakes folks had made while I was out.

Today is a bit better. Doing performance reviews and have a super busy afternoon but at least the power and heat came back on late afternoon yesterday.

Damn @VarunaTT that all sucks. Breakups are hard anyway but to be anxious in your home is terrible. I’m glad you were able to change the locks and have a plan for getting rid of their stuff.

Good luck @climbingwife! I hope this is the end of dealing with him for you!

MissKittyDanger · November 2020

mrsconn23 said:

MissKittyDanger said:

@mrsconn23 ack! Can you put something on the window? {tape or something}

LOL, no. It's a big window. It only happens on these sunny days, and it's worse at this time of year when the leaves are off the tree.

Our bus stops have these basically dots all over the windows to prevent this. Apparently it's not uncommon lol

charlotte989875 · November 2020

Oh and our small village now has the highest cases across the entire county/ micro cluster. All because people just had to have Halloween parties. Eff off people who refuse to follow guidelines. Eff right off.

short+sassy · November 2020

VarunaTT said:

Good luck, @climbingwife

Welp, on Friday I figured out through various electronic breadcrumbs (me trying to change PW/delete profiles, etc), that K had been planning this all for awhile. So, I left work early Friday. Went to the bank and closed the joint account, then started drinking. It was a hellish weekend.

Yesterday, I had the garage door opener turned off, the door code changed, and the locks changed. K didn't sign the release for the lease, so technically the landlord would have to let them back in, but I don't expect the coward to show back up. I've also texted their mother (R), that she needs to come get the 95% of the shit K left in the apartment by November 30. R has responded with "ok". I actually slept a fairly solid sleep last night; K still having access was weighing heavier than I realized. I was jumping every time I heard a noise that I thought was them coming back.

I'm back at work, putting my nose to the grind to get through everything that got messed up by me being unexpectedly gone for 4 days. I'm still hurt, but I'm also disappointed and angry at them.

I'm so sorry, @VarunaTT! It extra sucks to find out K was planning it. Break-ups are hard enough when both people are being reasonable. It's so much worse when one person is being a butthead.

It's amazing that people can't even be bothered to help themselves. Of all people, K should be the main one anxious to get their name off of a lease for a place they are no longer living in. While I'd assume K doesn't expect you to get evicted or trash the place (nor do I, lol), as long as they are on the lease also, they are equally responsible for monetary damages.

I'm glad you got all the locks changed for your physical spaces and ended the financial tie.

Hopefully R will make arrangements to get K's stuff out of the apartment asap. But, jic, check your local laws for the time period when property is considered "abandoned" after notice has been given. I'd hate for you to throw it all out on Dec. 1st and then possibly end up in small claims court because K re-emerges shortly after that and wants their stuff back.

short+sassy · November 2020

charlotte989875 said:

Oh and our small village now has the highest cases across the entire county/ micro cluster. All because people just had to have Halloween parties. Eff off people who refuse to follow guidelines. Eff right off.

Yes! NOLA does Halloween big and it's a super fun place to be (normally). Our COVID stats have been stable for months but, perfectly on schedule for an irresponsible Halloween, the numbers have turned uglier over the last few days.

I'm very worried about Thanksgiving and Christmas for everyone, everywhere. It's frustrating.

climbingsingle · November 2020

Thank you, everyone! Now just waiting to hear from my lawyer.

@VarunaTT I'm so sorry. I hope you can find some peace soon. How awful.

ILoveBeachMusic · November 2020

Hope all goes well with the lawyer today, @climbingwife. @VarunaTT, that all just sucks. I'm glad you got the locks changed and account closed. Sorry about your Nana @MissKittyDanger.

Taking the little boy dog to the vet this am. He is due for vaccinations and needs an overall check, He is 12 and has gotten extremely lethargic. He has been blind since age 5.

MyNameIsNot · November 2020

@climbingwife, Good luck today! Fingers crossed for good news.
@VarunaTT, I'm glad you finally got some steps toward privacy and closure, but sorry to hear they'd been planning for a while. That really hurts.

Just another Tuesday here. It's the worst day of a 5 day work week. I'm really missing my former co-worker. We're still texting a little, but there's some seriously stupid stuff that I'd love to make fun of with him. I suddenly feel more isolated WFH than I have during the whole of covid, but I rationally know that being in the office wouldn't matter because there's no one else that I trust enough to talk shit with.

short+sassy · November 2020

CharmedPam said:

@short+sassy, yeah I’d have to do that MS at lunch too. It gets dark at 4:30! Do they know if you did it when it was dark? Stupid q, did you not gas up to full? I always do and couldn’t go back the next day, lol!

@climbingwife, hope the meeting goes well and you can get rid of that thing very quickly. I hope it’s a speedy divorce like mine. Jan 6th - February 24th.

@VarunaTT, my heart goes out to you. You couldn’t have said it better by calling them coward K. They sound like it! Be an adult and sign the thing! Get your shit ‘n get OUT. Ugh. Vent away here.

ummmm yesterday I bought a punching bag. Guess I’m starting to box again? Can you imagine how fit and toned I’d be if I actually used the stuff?

They would know it was dark because the audit portion involves taking a lot of pictures, most of which are exterior pics. It actually isn't that hard for me to keep the gas pumping under control, lol. I'm in "mystery shop/audit" mode, not "running errands" mode. Plus they only reimburse back for two gallons of gas. So I'm usually watching closely to keep it at two gallons. Every once in awhile, if I know it's my last one and I don't have anymore scheduled, I'll fill up. But it's something I give thought to. Like, actually today, I don't have any more scheduled this month so I will fill up at the last one.

I also have two vehicles. There have been a couple times I chose one over the other for these shops because one of them was fairly full up.

ei34 · November 2020

Good luck @climbingwife
im sorry about all you’re going through @VarunaTT, especially that it seems planned

Very SSDD over here.

VarunaTT · November 2020

short+sassy said:

VarunaTT said:

Good luck, @climbingwife

Welp, on Friday I figured out through various electronic breadcrumbs (me trying to change PW/delete profiles, etc), that K had been planning this all for awhile. So, I left work early Friday. Went to the bank and closed the joint account, then started drinking. It was a hellish weekend.

Yesterday, I had the garage door opener turned off, the door code changed, and the locks changed. K didn't sign the release for the lease, so technically the landlord would have to let them back in, but I don't expect the coward to show back up. I've also texted their mother (R), that she needs to come get the 95% of the shit K left in the apartment by November 30. R has responded with "ok". I actually slept a fairly solid sleep last night; K still having access was weighing heavier than I realized. I was jumping every time I heard a noise that I thought was them coming back.

I'm back at work, putting my nose to the grind to get through everything that got messed up by me being unexpectedly gone for 4 days. I'm still hurt, but I'm also disappointed and angry at them.

I'm so sorry, @VarunaTT! It extra sucks to find out K was planning it. Break-ups are hard enough when both people are being reasonable. It's so much worse when one person is being a butthead.

It's amazing that people can't even be bothered to help themselves. Of all people, K should be the main one anxious to get their name off of a lease for a place they are no longer living in. While I'd assume K doesn't expect you to get evicted or trash the place (nor do I, lol), as long as they are on the lease also, they are equally responsible for monetary damages.

I'm glad you got all the locks changed for your physical spaces and ended the financial tie.

Hopefully R will make arrangements to get K's stuff out of the apartment asap. But, jic, check your local laws for the time period when property is considered "abandoned" after notice has been given. I'd hate for you to throw it all out on Dec. 1st and then possibly end up in small claims court because K re-emerges shortly after that and wants their stuff back.

One of my BFFs in an attorney who does rental stuff. Basically, I would be a bit out of luck until after the 1st of the year b/c we paid rent from the joint account, so until December 1 when it comes from mine alone, then I have to wait the 30 days for them to be "late", then I can do abandonment. I'm not waiting that long. And as mentioned previously, K is a coward and won't do anything. They are acting like they ran from an abusive relationship. Once I realized that, what they took on Sunday made sense.

VarunaTT · November 2020

2 funny things though:

BFF was like, "Look, you're already doing something illegal by locking them out anyway, so just go whole hog illegal and throw their shit on the curb." We both laughed and knew I wouldn't do that b/c I'm not a crap person, but most of my friends right now are willing to come help scavenge then pack to get their crap out. I entertained a dark fantasy about driving into their parents driveway and leaving boxes, but again, I'm not an actual crap person.

I had a hard time keeping track of time this past weekend. I had fallen asleep and was startled awake, so kind of jumped. My phone said it was 7:04 and I thought I was late to work. I have one of those trundle bed couches, so I jumped again and hit the trundle part. It came unhinged and I ended up sliding across my living room floor, hanging onto the couch for dear life. When I tried to get off, it slid and hit both of my shins. (By the way, it was 7 pm on Sunday and I was convinced I had just slept through my entire day, until I confirmed it was both 7 pm and Sunday).

So basically, it was an awesome weekend.

kerbohl · November 2020

It was snowing here briefly. It's windy again - hopefully not as bad as Sunday was. I'm sort of in a lull before the storm at work ... because yesterday was my first day in my new position, I think people are still getting a handle on what to assign to me so they are in a bit of a holding pattern. I suspect to get slammed at some point soon. But it means I can reorganize things and read up on some stuff, so that's nice.

Hubby is still sleeping in the basement - until he gets the word that his coworker had a negative test, he doesn't want to be anywhere near me. He wears a mask indoors and whatnot. And today he is working from home, so on a normal day we'd get a chance to have lunch together, but no luck because of Covid.

Saw a rabbit on a humane society website that looks SO MUCH like one of mine that I have half a mind to adopt him. It is a good possibility that this is a family member, since I know my one has siblings in the area and I don't think they were fixed. Maybe it's my rabbit's cousin!

MNNEBride · November 2020

@MissKittyDanger - I'm sorry about your grandmother
@climbingwife - I hope your lawyer has good news and calls soon
@VarunaTT - glad you have changed the locks, closed the account and notified K's mom to get their things out. It stinks that they had been planning this for awhile and weren't adult enough to tell you.

I'm back working onsite today and like the rest of the week. They are replacing siding on our apartment building. They haven't started ours yet but are working next door and almost finished. I had to be onsite for an appointment with DH this morning anyway, so thought I'd just work at my old cube. It's pretty strange - a few people working here but most in offices with doors closed. All my things are still at my desk but I had to borrow a chair. Ours are tagged and going to the warehouse where we can pick them up and take them to use at home. After we close on the house Monday, I'll pick up mine and take to there until we move in.

Went to look at toilets and extra kitchen/laundry cabinets last night with my brother. We are upgrading to "tall" toilets at the new house. Lots of features to consider - who knew! The pantry cabinets I chose don't match the current kitchen cabinets so likely will get unfinished ones that match and have the painter finish them. Need to do a final measure on Monday afternoon. Unfinished ones are better quality so that's good but are also almost 2x the price plus finishing. I think we'll be happier with them in the long run.

Also need to pick a paint color. It will be a light gray. Sherwin Williams Agreeable Gray is a contender. The other is SW Passive, which is cooler and lighter. The great room faces North and doesn't get much light so want a little lighter color. Choices, Choices!

MissKittyDanger · November 2020

@VarunaTT dropping their stuff at their parents place isn't being a shit person, it's getting their cowardly ass out of your place.
I would do this.
"K left this at my place. They won't be back so figured I'd give you their stuff"

Too Early TUESDAY

Re: Too Early TUESDAY

Choose Another Board

Search Boards