Hi guys, I'm dealing with a kind of funky problem that I haven't been able to find any information about (could I be the first?) A little backstory, I was raised Lutheran (I'm a pastor's daughter) but my fiance was raised Catholic. We met while we were in college and while I was in the process of converting from Lutheranism to Catholicism. I will "fully convert" or officially become Catholic this spring, and we're getting married this summer. When we got engaged we both agreed together to get married in the church in our college town which is very special to us as it was where we met, where he was raised, and where I came into the Catholic faith. Of course, being a pastor's kid this has caused a lot of hurt for my parents. I think they both feel that this is the final nail in the coffin of "losing" their daughter, and they have said multiple times this wedding will be humiliating and sad for them and that while they will attend they will not be happy about it. From my perspective, as two Catholics it doesn't make a lot of sense to have a Lutheran wedding in my hometown (and we would need to get a dispensation to do it) and having it 500 miles away will help mitigate the scandal for my father. I have tried to explain to my parents that I am not trying to personally spurn them or their faith, but this is something as an adult that we have decided to share together. I have considered asking my dad to have a part in the service, but I am worried this will feel like pity and will be even more insulting. I am completely unsure of what to do at this point. Are we being cruel to want to have our wedding at the Catholic church? Do we compromise the one thing that is really important to us with this wedding and just have a Lutheran wedding at my dad's church, or do we stand our ground and do what we would prefer?