My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and living together for about 2. We both know we want to get married because we've talked about it, but it seems like we disagree on the "when" part. I was dropping silly hints a few months ago and he responded "Don't worry, you'll get a ring. I just want to buy a house first because my whole life I've been told it's easier to do that while single. Also, rings and weddings are expensive". When I heard that for some reason my first thought was "He's scared that if we ever get a divorce, he might lose the house so he wants to make sure it's not considered a marrital residence". While he never stated such thing, he is one to be proactive and to always consider every possible scenario, like for example when he warned his friends about marrital debt and what would happen in the unfortunate event that they got divorced, and this bothers me. I do not even want to consider the possibility of a divorce yet to me it seems like it's always at the back of his mind (maybe because my parents do not believe in divorce whereas his went through a really ugly one?). Another time, when we were talking about features of our dream houses and I said something like "our future house will have at least 2 bathrooms" he said "you mean MY house" I said "Idk legally whose, but the one we'll be living in". YET, when he was looking at houses online, he made sure it had what I dreamed and was using "we" and "our" pronouns. Fast forward a few weeks and he got mad when I told him that so and so who I ran into today thinks we're perfect for each and it's about time we got married. He angrily responsded "I'm not proposing now because we don't have money or a house yet and idc about what so and so thinks". As for the money part, he has a great job but keeps buying guns and gun parts for his collection (another story I don't agree with, won't expand). Now, who knows when it'll be buyers' market again. Why wait until that to -forget married- even get engaged? Is he actually worried about making sure that the ring or wedding will be perfect, or is he actually that terrified that something might happen in the future and he wants to have his butt covered? Because if so, he's worried for no reason; I don't believe in divorce (unless of course it's an abusive relationship, there are substances or infedelity involved), let alone screwing someone over during one. I've told him this but that changes nothing for him. One more thing before I wrap this up, he moved to the area because he found this great job but he never asked if that was ok with me and somehow I was expected to also move here once I got my degree (as I did). Whenever I mention that for me it'd be easier to find a job in our hometown due to the nature of my degree and that he should try to look for a job there also now that he has experience in the field and since there is high demand for his degree everywhere (he could be making if not more, definitely equal), he throws a fit about it. Rant over. Now, please tell me, what are your thoughts on the whole situation? Am I overthinking or asking for too much? Not looking for someone to pick sides with me, but for honest & independet opinions. Is any of this normal for a couple in their early to mid-twenties whose not even engaged yet? We love each other but sometimes it feels like I'm the only one making sacrifices. I want this to work out. Any advice? Sorry for unloading so much on you, I needed to get this off my chest. Any comments would be greatly appreciated!