My FH and I decided to have one attendant each for our small wedding. We are only inviting 50 guests and our circles are small anyway. I asked my best friend to be my Maid of Honor. We've known each other for 25 years and have been through so much together. It was a natural and easy choice to make.
Now, I have another friend. We aren't as close as we used to be but we've known each other for years and I still consider her a good friend. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding when I was 17 (she was 26). I'm 28 now. I met with her for lunch the other day. She wanted to visit since I am leaving for deployment soon. Plus, we hadn't seen each other in a while and we wanted to catch up. She's a great, caring friend but sometimes she forgets to think about others. She also talks a lot and a lot of times I just sit there listening because I can't get a word in edgewise. I'm an introvert anyway and I'm used to extrovert family talking over me.
I told her I was just having an MOH and that it was my best friend. She knows my best friend because this friend's parents are friends with my best friend's parents (everyone knows everyone in a small farming community haha). She then says "oh so I can't be a bridesmaid?" I explained to her that I was only having one attendant but that she and her husband were invited as guests to the wedding. Then she proceeds to text my mom and ask her what she thought. My mom tells her that she can be the Mistress of Ceremonies (I didn't know that was a thing really). Both kind of decided that without asking me but knowing that neither would listen to me. I just decided to let her be the MC and not protest it. I know technically it's some sort of helper but I didn't think an MC gets bridal party benefits. She's been texting me for the last 48 hours almost nonstop about meeting up with my MOH so they can coordinate dresses (ummm....no. My MOH is the only one who should wear a bridesmaid dress. Plus, she isn't getting a dress yet until I get back from deployment sometime next spring. That's when the real wedding planning will begin). So then she's like aren't you having Navy blue and peach as your colors? I told her yes and that my MOH was going to wear peach while my FH and the best man are going to wear Navy blue suits. I told her I didn't care what she wore but I didn't want her matching my MOH.
The next thing she did was ask if she can get ready with me and the MOH. I said sure and that I was planning on getting a hotel room for us the night before. She's welcome to join. My mom is a hairdresser so then she asks if my mom will do her hair for the wedding too. I told her if there is time for it but my wedding is pretty casual so really only me and the MOH would have our hair done up all fancy. Then, she started criticizing the choice of hotel I chose for the overnight and tried to talk me into a hotel that had three bedrooms, a living room, and kitchen that costs about $200 more. My FH and I are paying for the wedding out of our own pockets and I'm not paying for a $300 hotel room for one night.
Then she started sending me pictures of these really fancy nails that look like a bride at a black tie wedding would wear. She said, I'm going to get my nails done for your wedding in something like this. meanwhile, I'm planning on getting a basic french manicure and my MOH just wants to paint her nails to match her dress. We are both tomboy farm kids and don't normally dress up. Haha. It's just if she's going to get her nails done like the pictures, that's pretty much upstaging me and it bothers me.
I haven't talked to her about it yet but I am bothered by it. I'm not trying to sound like a bridezilla but I'm starting to get irritated. All I've told her are just ideas anyway. Like I said earlier, I'm not making set in stone wedding plans until I get back from deployment next spring. Right now, I'm just window shopping.
Sorry for the long post. I'm just slightly frustrated. Should I try and talk to her or see if she tones down on her own a bit after the excitement dies off while I'm away overseas for several months? What would y'all do?