Dear Prudence,
Over the summer, I started hooking up with “Tom.” Tom is kind of boring, but fun enough when we go out drinking. He recently moved a couple hours away for a job and he comes into town every 3-to-4 weeks. Because we don’t see each other regularly, we usually spend an evening together. I’ve realized I hate this. He’s just too boring if I’m sober. We’ve always hooked up after we’ve been out. The problem is, I realize our drunk sex also wasn’t that great. I’m not really sure what to do at this point. He comes in half to see me and half to see his friends. Neither of us really like dating, so this has worked out really well for us. He hangs out with his friends a lot too, but he’s coming to see me this weekend, and I just realized when we were planning that I was not at all excited about our evening alone. He wants more time, which I feel is somewhat fair since he’s coming to see me and has to pay for a hotel room due to my roommate situation. Do you have any recommendations?
— Too Much Time