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Wedding Woes
mrsconn23
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Break up with Brandon and Dylan and say, "I choose me!"
in Wedding Woes
Dear Prudence,
I have a sticky situation. I met a guy through work and it’s been all fun and games, but now he has feelings, and I don’t know where I stand because we can’t speak the same language. It’s a lot of using a translator. But at the same time, I have a guy in my life that I loved for many years, but it’s like we won’t ever truly give each other a chance because of our past. Do I just give up on the guy I’ve loved for years and explore what could be with this summer fling, or do I try giving my all to a man I’ve loved for 10 years? I’m so confused.
— Searching for the Truth
Re: Break up with Brandon and Dylan and say, "I choose me!"
The main thing I would tell the LW is stop the fantasies about 10-year guy. STOP.IT.NOW!!!! You've already wasted 10 years of your life on someone that it doesn't even sound like has ever been your b/f. That is such self-defeating, abnormal behavior that I suspect there are sub-conscious reasons they've done that and should explore those in therapy.
New guy is more like a minor question inside a huge problem. Probably not a good idea for the LW to date anyone at the moment. And dating someone you need a translator app to communicate with sounds awful to me. But then, I've seen people on 90DF marry someone they have to use a translator app with, so not everyone shares my opinion.