Mundies

ei34 · October 2021

6-year-old DD said at breakfast that Monday should be called Mundies bc it rhymes with undies (as in underwear). I do see where she's coming from. Weekend was glorious- crisp weather, some fun family time, a walk along the ocean (what's cool is the water is still pretty warm so the kids and I kept dipping our toes) and a big pot of chili. Hope everyone had some happy moments too!

@charlotte989875 how are you feeling?

charlotte989875 · October 2021

Doing better thanks @ei34! Friday was awful but Saturday and Sunday just tired and a little achy.

We went to get pumpkins yesterday & baby M had the best time! There was a corn maze he ran through and he had to poke all of the pumpkins in the patch.

climbingsingle · October 2021

I had such a nice relaxing weekend. Well, after I was done at Toyota but I think they fixed what was wrong.

Friday I finally finished 9 Perfect Strangers, and then started OMITB.
Saturday I cleaned and then got my hair done.
Sunday I ran a ton of errands, got my nails done and then continued organizing my closets. Also hung some shelves and started more decorating.

MissKittyDanger · October 2021

We got photos done and I hate how I look in most of them, so that's great.
Idk if it's the angle, but a lot I look like I have multiple chins. BK & M look great, so that's just super.
It's just put me a mood and I'm irked.

I slept funny and have a weird knot in my shoulder blade that's tweaking my neck.

Otherwise weekend was good.
BK had fun at gymnastics. We made a really shitty haunted house cookie, which turned into a sprinkle fight lmao

missJeanLouise · October 2021

So cute! @charlotte989875

Our weekend was good, very low key. I have a semi busy week going on and I am eager to just get past this upcoming weekend. I need a massage but won't really have time until next week. Same story with getting my car into the shop for regular maintenance and scheduling a few other things. Having those things hanging out on the to do list just make me feel busier than I actually am.

CharmedPam · October 2021

Lol Mundies. Case of the Mundies.
@MissKittyDanger, I’m sure they look great. We are our worst critics.

@charlotte989875, waaaaay to cute! How did you feel the day of the shot? I may want to get it and then head out to my parents if I’m ok to drive 5 hours. Last one made me tired the next day.

Weekend was interesting. Okcupid guy and I were chatting back and forth and made plans for drinks on Friday afternoon for Friday evening. At 6, he let me know his “sinuses were bad, he was sure he wasnt sick but had to see how he felt tomorrow”. I said sure. Ok. Thought it was a lame excuse but appreciate, especially in these times, being overly cautious. At 10:30 that night he said he took a hot shower and that helped and he’s sure it’s just allergies/sinuses, maybe we can move our date to Sunday?
I responsed on Saturday morning that Sunday, later in the day was fine for me.. but had to admit, my excitement over him had declined already. He didnt get back to me until Sunday afternoon. He was feeling better, but had to be direct with me. He had met someone on Saturday and wanted to give it an honest shot, and normally he doesn’t talk to multiple people but it was kinda unavoidable. I told him it was the nature of online dating, and I got it and no explaination needed and best of luck to him. Sure, I was kinda bummed since we matched so high in our answers (I like okcupids Q&A and matching system), we got along great, and he checked off a lot of my boxes but it REALLY is the nature of the beast. Kudos to her, I’m horrible at flirting, especially on paper - so she must have had hella game that he canceled on his Plan B after one date? He also deleted his profile too, which led me to believe I don’t think that was their first date on Saturday (or maybe he canceled on me on Friday because she could suddenly go out with him?). Back to the very very very shallow sea with very very minimal fish. lol.

climbingsingle · October 2021

@CharmedPam IMO it doesn't sound like that was their first date.

short+sassy · October 2021

@ei34, I like changing the name of Monday to Mundie also.

@charlotte989875, I'm glad you're feeling better. I remember you saying the booster shot was the worst yet. I love baby M's pumpkin sweatshirt! He's so extra cute.

I had a good, relaxing weekend.

I was originally planning to take a vacation day today, but then I remembered last week that this morning is my long awaited eviction hearing for my deadbeat tenant. I want my random vacation day to be pure leisure, so I came into work. I'm leaving in about 30 minutes to go attend the hearing and probably won't be back until lunch. My actual hearing will probably be less than 5 minutes long, but they schedule tons of them at 10AM. She's not living there anymore but, since she never released the home back to us in writing, we have to go through the eviction process to have her tenancy terminated.

On the bright side, my H and I will probably go have lunch somewhere downtown. I'm going to take a random vacation day, next Monday instead. One more week!

MyNameIsNot · October 2021

Nice, but kind of boring weekend. Saw my parents and a few friends at a couple of different things, so that was good. I was pretty lazy about doing adult stuff, so there are still leaves all over the driveway and we have no groceries. I suppose that gives me a case of the Mundies.

Pam, that almost sounds like he didn't just meet her. Full on deleting the app sounds like they've been talking a while and just made it official, or he was doing something wrong. But either way, not meant to be and you'll find someone better.

VarunaTT · October 2021

I didn't do much this weekend. I ended up canceling both movies, which was fine; I wanted to stay home and so I did. I did watch a lot of TV/movies though. I watched the 1st Venom, b/c a friend who has very similar movie tastes was talking about the new one and I was curious. I laughed my butt off and now will go see the new one this week. I also re-watched the first season of Locke and Key and most of the 2nd season. I adore the graphic novel that the series is based off of. The first season was so well done. This season, since they're trying to stretch it, they've gone "off-book" quite a bit and it's weakening the story. At one point, I just thought, "These kids are D.U.M.B.". I also re-watched the 1st Nightmare on Elm Street. It holds up fairly decently, though I lost it at the phone with the tongue on it and had to pause the movie b/c I was laughing so hard and it looked so silly.

Ordered some more books to read and read some over the weekend. I'm trying to get back into the habit of reading a lot more, but I don't really have a comfortable spot in my place for reading. I think I have an idea that will help though, so I'm doing some rearranging tonight.

Otherwise, I think I'm rethinking the move in June. Not canceling it, but after this month's mental health issues and some other life changes I'm trying, I think I need to allow myself more time before throwing a BIG change like a cross country move into the mix. So, I'm setting a goal of January 2023. I think it's more realistic for me and it'll create some space for some work I need to do. I love my 40s, but they're a fucking trip, let me tell you. I don't think I've grown or struggled so much as a human since my 20s. It seems to be this weird fusion of having enough years and experience under my belt to look back at your life and evaluate it, still young enough to try and change things, and resources at my disposal to help with that. But also, DAMN, it's work.

short+sassy · October 2021

@CharmedPam, sorry to hear that! But at least he was finally forthright about it and didn't just ghost you. Back in my single days, I had an annoying lunch with a guy like that.

We'd been chatting and trying to plan a time when we could both meet. I suggested lunch on a weekday, which meant I needed to leave the office and work a bit late to cover my longer lunch. So a little bit of a hassle, but not a huge deal.

One of the first things he said to me after we sat at our table was he "realizes it is usually the person who asks for the date who pays for it, but he was going to pay for himself. Cue shocked face on me. As if I for one minute was planning to pay for him. It was actually a rare date when the guy didn't pay for me. Which I think is really what he was putting me on notice for. Whatever. Then, he tells me towards the end of our meal that he had a nice time and would like to stay friends, but he had actually met someone on Saturday, so he was going to see where things went with her.

WTF? Why did he even waste my time like that? I don't know. Maybe he was seeing if he liked me better than her, but it was really annoying. He even said something like he had thought about cancelling but, we had so many good chats, he felt he needed to tell me in person. WTF again? No, dude, no. You should have just cancelled. But I was nice about it and wished him luck. He reiterated again he wanted to stay in touch. I said, "Oh sure!" But I was really thinking was, "No way in hell." Lol.

banana468 · October 2021

Weekend was decent!

I'm going to start off with a quandary and would love feedback from you ladies. My ILs are having a 50th anniversary party. The event is following a vow renewal at our church (they are also parishioners) and my MIL asked us to get a sitter for the kids because 3 hours in a smaller restaurant just won't work. I get it. I've seen my kids and it's not fair to anyone.

The request to us was to get a sitter for our kids and BIL and SIL's kids. We agreed that they could hang at our house with the stipulation that if inside and not eating all the kids be masked. We know that both BIL and SIL are also unvaccinated (something we do not agree with) and their kids are too young to be vaccinated. Friday DH received an email from BIL stating that while he respects the rules of our home they're going to get their own sitter and that each child has a medical exemption to not be masked due to their own individual issues and each is signed by their pediatrician. There has been no further discussion on the topic. DH just mentioned to his dad that we'll ask if our sitter knows of anyone who would take on the job at MIL and FIL's home and that's where we left it.

I'm processing my reaction and trying to take the approach that DH will do the talking on this one but I know I'm going to see them for the luncheon portion PLUS my kids are going to ask me why they're not hanging out with their cousins. DH and I have our theories about their positions with Covid and how they are approaching their behavior surrounding the virus and what I don't want to do is turn a happy event into a crapstorm while I also need to a strong advocate for my health and that of my kids.

What would you do?

As for the rest of the weekend it was great. I went out with a group of 20 vaccinated ladies to vineyards for wine drinking and eating and it was GREAT.

Sunday, we had mass and Chiquita had a soccer game. They lost again but are really coming together.

missJeanLouise · October 2021

@banana468 I wouldn't say anything to BIL and SIL. They were aware of the option and it's requirements and chose something else. I would just tell the kids that their cousins plans changed and they were able to come over.

20 ladies is a big group for wine tasting!

MissKittyDanger · October 2021

SFIL uploaded this shot to his IG

Dave Roberts on Instagram: “My fav little person”

banana468 · October 2021

missJeanLouise said:

@banana468 I wouldn't say anything to BIL and SIL. They were aware of the option and it's requirements and chose something else. I would just tell the kids that their cousins plans changed and they were able to come over.

20 ladies is a big group for wine tasting!

The friend rents a bus so we can move around without issue of being over served. It was a really nice time!

I'm definitely working on holding my tongue. I'm taking issue that we seem to not just have a difference of opinion but a different stance in ethics. That said, I think DH is articulate and aligned with me so I think I'm heading to the kitchen to make bean dip.

CharmedPam · October 2021

missJeanLouise said:

@banana468 I wouldn't say anything to BIL and SIL. They were aware of the option and it's requirements and chose something else. I would just tell the kids that their cousins plans changed and they were able to come over.

20 ladies is a big group for wine tasting!

Yes, I agree here. It looks like you’re not all on the same page and wont be so it’s probably better to get different sitters for this event.

@VarunaTT, it looks like you really thought of your options and made the right choice. Don’t pressure yourself into something your not ready for because you put a “deadline” on it, yaknow.

@MissKittyDanger, what a great in the moment shot!

@short+sassy, I’m off on the 1st too! And ew to the guy. I’m glad mine DID cancel and like I said, the anticipation of meeting him anyway declined. There’s nothing wrong with back to back dates, to see who you click with more. It happens. So I’m sure that wasn’t his first and he made his decision and more power to him!

missJeanLouise · October 2021

@banana468 by this point, no one is on the fence about things. Nothing you will say will change their mind or make them suddenly see the light. I wouldn't waste my breath.

banana468 · October 2021

CharmedPam said:

missJeanLouise said:

@banana468 I wouldn't say anything to BIL and SIL. They were aware of the option and it's requirements and chose something else. I would just tell the kids that their cousins plans changed and they were able to come over.

20 ladies is a big group for wine tasting!

Yes, I agree here. It looks like you’re not all on the same page and wont be so it’s probably better to get different sitters for this event.

@VarunaTT, it looks like you really thought of your options and made the right choice. Don’t pressure yourself into something your not ready for because you put a “deadline” on it, yaknow.

@MissKittyDanger, what a great in the moment shot!

@short+sassy, I’m off on the 1st too! And ew to the guy. I’m glad mine DID cancel and like I said, the anticipation of meeting him anyway declined. There’s nothing wrong with back to back dates, to see who you click with more. It happens. So I’m sure that wasn’t his first and he made his decision and more power to him!

To the bolded I should have been more specific: I agree we're getting separate sitters. I think I was more questioning how to navigate this type of situation should it come up with my kids, my BIL/SIL or MIL/FIL.

That said, for the kiddos I think DH and I will come up with a response and I'll take DH's lead. MIL and FIL know that we are basing our decisions on the science that exists and likely both DH and BIL will be telling her that our decisions are based on science and the health our kids. I'm not looking to turn their event into my argument. It's not about me.

It eventually will come up if not for the day in question then after the event itself. But I've been a bystander to other events that are made worse while others make scenes and it's simply not worth it to do so.

STARMOON44 · October 2021

@banana468 I think you just say “they preferred to get their own sitter” and leave it at that.

MissKittyDanger · October 2021

@banana468 for the kids, just say things didn't work out and this is a better choice.
Everyone else, I'd be more honest. BIL/SIL knew the rules if at your place, they opted to go a different route to not mask.

charlotte989875 · October 2021

I felt pretty awful for about 36 hours starting about 10
hours after the booster. I needed to take Friday afternoon off and lay under multiple heavy blankets with sweat pants on and sleep. It was rough. I would not have felt like driving anywhere @CharmedPam.

charlotte989875 · October 2021

I think it sucks @banana468 they’re choosing to either not vaccinate or have their kids where masks so they can be with their cousins. I’m tired of the “we have to respect others opinions” when no we don’t when that opinion is irresponsible and dangerous.

That said while I’d want to say “They refuse to take Covid seriously and follow CDC guidelines” I’d probably opt for “they chose to get a sitter where they’re staying”.

MissKittyDanger · October 2021

charlotte989875 said:

I think it sucks @banana468 they’re choosing to either not vaccinate or have their kids where masks so they can be with their cousins. I’m tired of the “we have to respect others opinions” when no we don’t when that opinion is irresponsible and dangerous.

That said while I’d want to say “They refuse to take Covid seriously and follow CDC guidelines” I’d probably opt for “they chose to get a sitter where they’re staying”.

Urg bolded. Yes.

mrsconn23 · October 2021

I'm back!!! I had a nice few days off. A little shopping, a little coffee meet-up with my friend, lots of rest and relaxing too. DH was on the go with helping FIL out.

FIL is hanging in there post surgery. It's been a little up and down. DH keeps bringing him food and checking in on him.

My sister and BIL got great news on Friday regarding foster nephew. They're finally changing the plan!!! This means if all goes well, they should be able to adopt foster nephew w/in the next year. They'll have had him 3 years next month. It's beyond time, even though we all have some measure of empathy for his birth mom.

Friday, we kept foster nephew for the night so sister and BIL could go out. It was a low-key night at home.

Saturday, we went shopping for DefConn's Halloween costume and other odds and ends. DH and I should not be allowed in a Home Goods together. We're the worst and fail at checking one another. LOL We made a roast which wasn't half bad

Sunday, we slept in. It rained allllll... day long. We had a Halloween thing for Scouts. It was supposed to be Trunk or Treat, but the rain didn't allow for that. We picked up Chinese (which was a snafu and a half because they were slammed and left my order on a table for over 20 min and didn't call me up...I had to ask for my order and DH is ready to write them off. I love their sesame chicken, so I'm not sure I can really dump them. But they did forget a carton of rice...so...they're on thin ice...ha). We got home and watched the Colts game (what a great, but wet and wild, win!).

DH and I are contemplating buying tickets to see Brandi Carlile at Red Rocks in Sept 2022 and making a long weekend of it. I've wanted to see a show at Red Rocks for a LONG time and I am a massive fan of Carlile (I listen to her all.the.time on my Alexa while I make dinner). DH is obsessed with Colorado and likes Carlile too.

VarunaTT · October 2021

I just had the most funny doctor's appointment ever. My primary was teasing me and said, "You're like one of my 80 year old patients right now". I said, "2020 and 20201 has knocked me on my butt!" This was supposed to be my annual and it was just switched to a "problem" appointment rather than my annual, which was R/S to December.

She agrees that it's finally time to treat the cause of my allergies instead of the symptoms. So I'm going to an allergist to pinpoint all my allergies, get the serum mixed up, and start taking shots to desensitize me to everything. I think this is a good move for CA too, since it'll take care of all my allergies. It does reinforce changing my move date, since she said most people take 6 months to a year to get through the entire program.

Then, I have this bump on my heel that didn't bother me until I start working at Walmart and was on my feet all day. She thinks it's a calcified Achilles tendon. I asked how that would happen and she said, usually rupturing your tendon. I said, Shouldn't I have felt that?! She said, Well....yeah? So, going to an orthopedic doctor now, for that.

I also have eczema on my right hand into my arm. She said it could be due to stress (oh yeah) or more symptoms of my allergies. Gave me some recommendations for treatment and emphasized she needed my labwork b/c it could also be related to an ongoing issue I have with levels of vit D. Which could also explain why I've been so tired lately. I'm going to be irritated if my vit D is low again. I already take a daily pill for it, so I might have to up it. However, the connection between low vit D and Alzheimers is becoming more strongly supported with evidence, so I'll do what I need to.

Had a wart and a mole removed. Got my flu shot. Got advice on my booster, so I'll be getting Moderna soon (I had Pfizer previously). Took up a full hour and some, but her annuals are scheduled for an hour, so it was okay. But lord, I feel like a truck really DID hit me.

ILoveBeachMusic · October 2021

Weekend was blah as I was nursing this cold. Today I'm feeling a bit better but canceled my personal training this morning because I shouldn't be going in to the gym sick. I also remembered (read: almost forgot) I had signed up to take food to a friend who had had surgery. So I scrambled to the store and bought stuff to make, Luckily I had already planned what I was going to make. Got back from delivering that and now am getting ready to host my Norwex launch party. I'm a bit unsure how it is going to go so wish me luck. I've given myself 6 months to get this up and running. If it doesn't workout, it doesn't workout.

short+sassy · October 2021

@VarunaTT, oh my goodness! That was a lot to take in for a doctor's appointment. I can understand why you are wiped out. I hope they figure out your allergies quickly, but I have heard it's a slow grind to do that. Good luck with the orthopedic doctor also.

For my medical complaints, I was having a painful burning/tingling sensation on the outside of my right thigh and just above the front of my knee for the same leg, yesterday. I've previously had weird issues with that leg in the same area where sometimes the skin feels extra sensitive. But this is the first time I've had the painful tingles. Though only when I was walking. It's gone this morning.

I spoke to my endocrinologist about it a couple of appointments back because neuropathy can be a diabetes complication. He verified it is something going on with my nerves, but it's not neuropathy because that condition starts in your feet/toes first and I don't have any issues there. He brushed it off that sometimes nerves can get inflamed and then it goes away. I dunno. I'll bring it up again at my next appointment. In my Googling, it might have something to do with my weight also, which is depressing.

CharmedPam · October 2021

Oh @mrsconn23 I found Brandi Carlisle by accident and love her! Someone on the voice did a “creep” cover and I’m like “i love that!” So went on itunes, couldn’t find the voice artist who sang it (you used to be able to DL voice songs as part of a vote!). But Brandi’s was in the search and liked her version. Any other good songs by her you’d recommend?

Casadena · October 2021

Brandi Carlisle was on SNL last weekend and I actually cried during her 2nd performance it was so good. I'veknown her name forever but just recently started listening and i'm loving it.

@mrsconn23 my H and I were talking about seeing her next year at REd Rocks too!!!! Small world

climbingsingle · October 2021

Casadena said:

Brandi Carlisle was on SNL last weekend and I actually cried during her 2nd performance it was so good. I'veknown her name forever but just recently started listening and i'm loving it.

@mrsconn23 my H and I were talking about seeing her next year at REd Rocks too!!!! Small world

Same re: Brandi Carlisle. I've known her name for a while, but just recently started getting in to her music. She is amazing. I honestly get chills from her voice. She was so good on SNL too!

mrsconn23 · October 2021

CharmedPam said:

Oh @mrsconn23 I found Brandi Carlisle by accident and love her! Someone on the voice did a “creep” cover and I’m like “i love that!” So went on itunes, couldn’t find the voice artist who sang it (you used to be able to DL voice songs as part of a vote!). But Brandi’s was in the search and liked her version. Any other good songs by her you’d recommend?

I found her through The Highwomen (folk/country supergroup that includes Maren Morris, Amanda Shires (who I know of because she's married to Jason Isbell, whom I also adore and they did a great joint interview on the podcast Death, Sex, and Money a frillion years ago), and Natalie Hemby). That album is fantastic.

But my favorite Brandi Carlile songs are...a lot. Her most recent album, "In These Silent Days", is stellar start to finish. Other songs of hers I love:

Her live version of "Forever Young" (I sing it to anyone in my presence when it comes on, usually DH or DefConn, ha)
Most of All (song for my mom, never fails to make me tear up)
Turpentine
Josephine
Raise Hell (that's a roof shaker if you turn it up)
Hard Way Home (my song for the kiddo)
The Story
That Wasn't Me
Keep Your Heart Young

I'm so forgetting a bunch, but I don't think there's many songs of hers I don't like. I can listen to her on repeat all the time.

I also read her memoir earlier this year and she reminds me so much of my best friend that passed away at 28. I'm positive she would have LOVED her music.

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