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6-year-old DD said at breakfast that Monday should be called Mundies bc it rhymes with undies (as in underwear). I do see where she's coming from. Weekend was glorious- crisp weather, some fun family time, a walk along the ocean (what's cool is the water is still pretty warm so the kids and I kept dipping our toes) and a big pot of chili. Hope everyone had some happy moments too!
@charlotte989875 how are you feeling?
@charlotte989875 how are you feeling?
Re: Mundies
Friday I finally finished 9 Perfect Strangers, and then started OMITB.
Saturday I cleaned and then got my hair done.
Sunday I ran a ton of errands, got my nails done and then continued organizing my closets. Also hung some shelves and started more decorating.
Idk if it's the angle, but a lot I look like I have multiple chins. BK & M look great, so that's just super.
It's just put me a mood and I'm irked.
I slept funny and have a weird knot in my shoulder blade that's tweaking my neck.
Otherwise weekend was good.
BK had fun at gymnastics. We made a really shitty haunted house cookie, which turned into a sprinkle fight lmao
Our weekend was good, very low key. I have a semi busy week going on and I am eager to just get past this upcoming weekend. I need a massage but won't really have time until next week. Same story with getting my car into the shop for regular maintenance and scheduling a few other things. Having those things hanging out on the to do list just make me feel busier than I actually am.
@MissKittyDanger, I’m sure they look great. We are our worst critics.
I responsed on Saturday morning that Sunday, later in the day was fine for me.. but had to admit, my excitement over him had declined already. He didnt get back to me until Sunday afternoon. He was feeling better, but had to be direct with me. He had met someone on Saturday and wanted to give it an honest shot, and normally he doesn’t talk to multiple people but it was kinda unavoidable. I told him it was the nature of online dating, and I got it and no explaination needed and best of luck to him. Sure, I was kinda bummed since we matched so high in our answers (I like okcupids Q&A and matching system), we got along great, and he checked off a lot of my boxes but it REALLY is the nature of the beast. Kudos to her, I’m horrible at flirting, especially on paper - so she must have had hella game that he canceled on his Plan B after one date? He also deleted his profile too, which led me to believe I don’t think that was their first date on Saturday (or maybe he canceled on me on Friday because she could suddenly go out with him?). Back to the very very very shallow sea with very very minimal fish. lol.
@charlotte989875, I'm glad you're feeling better. I remember you saying the booster shot was the worst yet. I love baby M's pumpkin sweatshirt! He's so extra cute.
I had a good, relaxing weekend.
I was originally planning to take a vacation day today, but then I remembered last week that this morning is my long awaited eviction hearing for my deadbeat tenant. I want my random vacation day to be pure leisure, so I came into work. I'm leaving in about 30 minutes to go attend the hearing and probably won't be back until lunch. My actual hearing will probably be less than 5 minutes long, but they schedule tons of them at 10AM. She's not living there anymore but, since she never released the home back to us in writing, we have to go through the eviction process to have her tenancy terminated.
On the bright side, my H and I will probably go have lunch somewhere downtown. I'm going to take a random vacation day, next Monday instead. One more week!
Pam, that almost sounds like he didn't just meet her. Full on deleting the app sounds like they've been talking a while and just made it official, or he was doing something wrong. But either way, not meant to be and you'll find someone better.
Ordered some more books to read and read some over the weekend. I'm trying to get back into the habit of reading a lot more, but I don't really have a comfortable spot in my place for reading. I think I have an idea that will help though, so I'm doing some rearranging tonight.
Otherwise, I think I'm rethinking the move in June. Not canceling it, but after this month's mental health issues and some other life changes I'm trying, I think I need to allow myself more time before throwing a BIG change like a cross country move into the mix. So, I'm setting a goal of January 2023. I think it's more realistic for me and it'll create some space for some work I need to do. I love my 40s, but they're a fucking trip, let me tell you. I don't think I've grown or struggled so much as a human since my 20s. It seems to be this weird fusion of having enough years and experience under my belt to look back at your life and evaluate it, still young enough to try and change things, and resources at my disposal to help with that. But also, DAMN, it's work.
We'd been chatting and trying to plan a time when we could both meet. I suggested lunch on a weekday, which meant I needed to leave the office and work a bit late to cover my longer lunch. So a little bit of a hassle, but not a huge deal.
One of the first things he said to me after we sat at our table was he "realizes it is usually the person who asks for the date who pays for it, but he was going to pay for himself. Cue shocked face on me. As if I for one minute was planning to pay for him. It was actually a rare date when the guy didn't pay for me. Which I think is really what he was putting me on notice for. Whatever. Then, he tells me towards the end of our meal that he had a nice time and would like to stay friends, but he had actually met someone on Saturday, so he was going to see where things went with her.
WTF? Why did he even waste my time like that? I don't know. Maybe he was seeing if he liked me better than her, but it was really annoying. He even said something like he had thought about cancelling but, we had so many good chats, he felt he needed to tell me in person. WTF again? No, dude, no. You should have just cancelled. But I was nice about it and wished him luck. He reiterated again he wanted to stay in touch. I said, "Oh sure!" But I was really thinking was, "No way in hell." Lol.
I'm going to start off with a quandary and would love feedback from you ladies. My ILs are having a 50th anniversary party. The event is following a vow renewal at our church (they are also parishioners) and my MIL asked us to get a sitter for the kids because 3 hours in a smaller restaurant just won't work. I get it. I've seen my kids and it's not fair to anyone.
The request to us was to get a sitter for our kids and BIL and SIL's kids. We agreed that they could hang at our house with the stipulation that if inside and not eating all the kids be masked. We know that both BIL and SIL are also unvaccinated (something we do not agree with) and their kids are too young to be vaccinated. Friday DH received an email from BIL stating that while he respects the rules of our home they're going to get their own sitter and that each child has a medical exemption to not be masked due to their own individual issues and each is signed by their pediatrician. There has been no further discussion on the topic. DH just mentioned to his dad that we'll ask if our sitter knows of anyone who would take on the job at MIL and FIL's home and that's where we left it.
I'm processing my reaction and trying to take the approach that DH will do the talking on this one but I know I'm going to see them for the luncheon portion PLUS my kids are going to ask me why they're not hanging out with their cousins. DH and I have our theories about their positions with Covid and how they are approaching their behavior surrounding the virus and what I don't want to do is turn a happy event into a crapstorm while I also need to a strong advocate for my health and that of my kids.
What would you do?
As for the rest of the weekend it was great. I went out with a group of 20 vaccinated ladies to vineyards for wine drinking and eating and it was GREAT.
Sunday, we had mass and Chiquita had a soccer game. They lost again but are really coming together.
20 ladies is a big group for wine tasting!
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I'm definitely working on holding my tongue. I'm taking issue that we seem to not just have a difference of opinion but a different stance in ethics. That said, I think DH is articulate and aligned with me so I think I'm heading to the kitchen to make bean dip.
@VarunaTT, it looks like you really thought of your options and made the right choice. Don’t pressure yourself into something your not ready for because you put a “deadline” on it, yaknow.
@MissKittyDanger, what a great in the moment shot!
@short+sassy, I’m off on the 1st too! And ew to the guy. I’m glad mine DID cancel and like I said, the anticipation of meeting him anyway declined. There’s nothing wrong with back to back dates, to see who you click with more. It happens. So I’m sure that wasn’t his first and he made his decision and more power to him!
That said, for the kiddos I think DH and I will come up with a response and I'll take DH's lead. MIL and FIL know that we are basing our decisions on the science that exists and likely both DH and BIL will be telling her that our decisions are based on science and the health our kids. I'm not looking to turn their event into my argument. It's not about me.
It eventually will come up if not for the day in question then after the event itself. But I've been a bystander to other events that are made worse while others make scenes and it's simply not worth it to do so.
Everyone else, I'd be more honest. BIL/SIL knew the rules if at your place, they opted to go a different route to not mask.
hours after the booster. I needed to take Friday afternoon off and lay under multiple heavy blankets with sweat pants on and sleep. It was rough. I would not have felt like driving anywhere @CharmedPam.
FIL is hanging in there post surgery. It's been a little up and down. DH keeps bringing him food and checking in on him.
My sister and BIL got great news on Friday regarding foster nephew. They're finally changing the plan!!! This means if all goes well, they should be able to adopt foster nephew w/in the next year. They'll have had him 3 years next month. It's beyond time, even though we all have some measure of empathy for his birth mom.
Friday, we kept foster nephew for the night so sister and BIL could go out. It was a low-key night at home.
Saturday, we went shopping for DefConn's Halloween costume and other odds and ends. DH and I should not be allowed in a Home Goods together. We're the worst and fail at checking one another. LOL We made a roast which wasn't half bad
Sunday, we slept in. It rained allllll... day long. We had a Halloween thing for Scouts. It was supposed to be Trunk or Treat, but the rain didn't allow for that. We picked up Chinese (which was a snafu and a half because they were slammed and left my order on a table for over 20 min and didn't call me up...I had to ask for my order and DH is ready to write them off. I love their sesame chicken, so I'm not sure I can really dump them. But they did forget a carton of rice...so...they're on thin ice...ha). We got home and watched the Colts game (what a great, but wet and wild, win!).
DH and I are contemplating buying tickets to see Brandi Carlile at Red Rocks in Sept 2022 and making a long weekend of it. I've wanted to see a show at Red Rocks for a LONG time and I am a massive fan of Carlile (I listen to her all.the.time on my Alexa while I make dinner). DH is obsessed with Colorado and likes Carlile too.
She agrees that it's finally time to treat the cause of my allergies instead of the symptoms. So I'm going to an allergist to pinpoint all my allergies, get the serum mixed up, and start taking shots to desensitize me to everything. I think this is a good move for CA too, since it'll take care of all my allergies. It does reinforce changing my move date, since she said most people take 6 months to a year to get through the entire program.
Then, I have this bump on my heel that didn't bother me until I start working at Walmart and was on my feet all day. She thinks it's a calcified Achilles tendon. I asked how that would happen and she said, usually rupturing your tendon. I said, Shouldn't I have felt that?! She said, Well....yeah? So, going to an orthopedic doctor now, for that.
I also have eczema on my right hand into my arm. She said it could be due to stress (oh yeah) or more symptoms of my allergies. Gave me some recommendations for treatment and emphasized she needed my labwork b/c it could also be related to an ongoing issue I have with levels of vit D. Which could also explain why I've been so tired lately. I'm going to be irritated if my vit D is low again. I already take a daily pill for it, so I might have to up it. However, the connection between low vit D and Alzheimers is becoming more strongly supported with evidence, so I'll do what I need to.
Had a wart and a mole removed. Got my flu shot. Got advice on my booster, so I'll be getting Moderna soon (I had Pfizer previously). Took up a full hour and some, but her annuals are scheduled for an hour, so it was okay. But lord, I feel like a truck really DID hit me.
For my medical complaints, I was having a painful burning/tingling sensation on the outside of my right thigh and just above the front of my knee for the same leg, yesterday. I've previously had weird issues with that leg in the same area where sometimes the skin feels extra sensitive. But this is the first time I've had the painful tingles. Though only when I was walking. It's gone this morning.
I spoke to my endocrinologist about it a couple of appointments back because neuropathy can be a diabetes complication. He verified it is something going on with my nerves, but it's not neuropathy because that condition starts in your feet/toes first and I don't have any issues there. He brushed it off that sometimes nerves can get inflamed and then it goes away. I dunno. I'll bring it up again at my next appointment. In my Googling, it might have something to do with my weight also, which is depressing.
@mrsconn23 my H and I were talking about seeing her next year at REd Rocks too!!!! Small world
But my favorite Brandi Carlile songs are...a lot. Her most recent album, "In These Silent Days", is stellar start to finish. Other songs of hers I love:
Her live version of "Forever Young" (I sing it to anyone in my presence when it comes on, usually DH or DefConn, ha)
Most of All (song for my mom, never fails to make me tear up)
Turpentine
Josephine
Raise Hell (that's a roof shaker if you turn it up)
Hard Way Home (my song for the kiddo)
The Story
That Wasn't Me
Keep Your Heart Young
I'm so forgetting a bunch, but I don't think there's many songs of hers I don't like. I can listen to her on repeat all the time.
I also read her memoir earlier this year and she reminds me so much of my best friend that passed away at 28. I'm positive she would have LOVED her music.