My best friend is getting married in about 6 weeks, and as her MOH, I've been planning her shower for the past three months. I've booked a restaurant, collected contact information from the bride and groom, contacted the bride and grooms mothers, ordered and sent out custom invitations and then waited patiently for replies. After three weeks, I had received a total of two RSVP's, both 'no'. The other bridesmaid and myself sat down with the bride to let her know we were having a hard time getting RSVP's for the shower and bachelorette party. She offered to send out a reminder email asking her friends and family to respond.
Thus far, I have received 20 'no' responses including her mother and the grooms mother. (Her mother is out of state, and not in the best health - though I did offer to pay for her travel arrangements). Among the other rejections are two female grooms attendants. I am devestated and broken hearted knowing that I am two weeks out and likely going to have to cancel my best friends shower because no one is going to attend. Additionally, I'm furious that any of these people claim to be her friend.
Has anyone ever experienced anything like this? My friend - the bride - is hands down the nicest and most wonderful person I know. I'm so offended for her that no one is attending her shower as though it's not a priority. Honestly, I want to resend the invites with notes expressing my disdain, but I don't see how that helps anyone.
What can I do? I want my friend to know how very special she is... but finding out that no one cares enough about her to let me buy them lunch is just going to make her feel like crap... not the way a bride should feel.