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StephanieEdmonds2B · March 2010

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bablingbrooke · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tell-matron-of-honor-dont-want-her-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:50805102-b12c-4ce1-811e-d5b366a66605Post:3e983e3c-f9f0-47cc-9e1f-aaf6d27120cb">How to tell Matron of Honor, I don't want her to be in the wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]How do i break the news to my matron of honor, that I do not want her as my matron of honor anymore? Shes planning on being pregnant for the wedding? Its about 12 months away, and I do not know how to tell her with out hurting her feelings?
Posted by StephanieEdmonds2B[/QUOTE]
Please please please tell me you're not booting her because she PLANS to be pregnant when you get married.

TheDuckis · March 2010

You should ask this question on the Wedding Woes board, it gets a lot more traffic than this one. I think having a potentially pregnant BM is definitely a woe.

gottahavashorti · March 2010

You can't. Doing so is a very good way to end the friendship. There's nothing wrong with a BM being pregnant, there are several BM dress lines that make maternity dresses.

With a year to go, there's no way to tell if she will have an infant, be 9 months pregnant, be 1 week pregnant or not be pregnant at all. Regardless, her motherhood status should not matter for your wedding.

suz62984 · March 2010

You are being a mean bridezilla. Your wedding is a year away. Who knows if or when she will be pregnant. Also, you are saying you don't want her to be your MOH or friend because she wants to have a baby? OMG why don't we all stop our life plans and wait for your wedding a year away. Get a grip! By all means tell her you don't want her to be in your wedding if you want to be a heartless bad friend.

trix1223 · March 2010

Wow. You're not really asking this are you? This is a just a goof, I hope.

Why in heaven's name would there be anything wrong with a beautiful pregnant woman in your WP?

AND....you're planning on doing something heinous based on something that might or might not happen in the coming months.

If you boot her, you'll have become a finalist in the 'zilla gold medal round. Please, please tell us you're kidding.

banana468 · March 2010

On the chance that this isn't MUD, there's no nice way to do this.

OP, for starters, your MOH isn't even pregnant yet. And even if she is, I promise you that a pregnant BM or MOH will not take away from your wedding glow or attention.

Arther007 · March 2010

this is a joke, right?

mbcdefg · March 2010

If you want to tell her in person, just sit her down and say, "Sorry, Wh0re, but I need all the attention for myself on my wedding day. So your fat pregnant _ass is out. Bye!" I suggest coming up with some kind of a rhyme for this, because everything always comes out nicer when it's in a cute poem

And I would really play up the "fat" and "wh0re" angles of the conversation, so that she feels sufficiently guilty for her actions.

Or, if you don't want to tell her in person (because, I mean, she'll probably get mad ... and do you really want to deal with someone selfish enough to get mad at the bride during her Special Time?), you could always send her an e-card:

boot.jpg picture by budgetbio

Enjoy ur day, sweetie! *hugz*

CTGirl30 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tell-matron-of-honor-dont-want-her-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:50805102-b12c-4ce1-811e-d5b366a66605Post:3e983e3c-f9f0-47cc-9e1f-aaf6d27120cb">How to tell Matron of Honor, I don't want her to be in the wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]How do i break the news to my matron of honor, that I do not want her as my matron of honor anymore? Shes planning on being pregnant for the wedding? Its about 12 months away, and I do not know how to tell her with out hurting her feelings?
Posted by StephanieEdmonds2B[/QUOTE]

There are so many things wrong with this post I don't even know where to begin...

Stephanie, why did you ask your matron of honor to be your Matron of Honor? I am hoping it was because she's one of your dearest / closest friends...so why on earth would you be asking us how to potentially kick her out of your wedding party if she does indeed become pregnant over the course of the next year? You should realize that is incredibly insulting and really a friendship damaging (if not ending) maneuver on your part if you do that.

So not only is it really rude of you to consider doing this to your best friend (if you lurk on the boards for a bit you'll come to understand that it's a bad move on the bride's part to kick someone out of your WP unless the situation is drastic and seriously warrants such behavior - as in, one of the BMs tries to sleep with your FI or there;s some other friendship-ending event). I don't understand why you wouldn't want her in your WP if she does indeed become pregnant (and that's an IF! Who knows what her situation will be once she starts trying to conceieve.) One of my BMs - a very dear friend of mine for over 15 years now - will be 8 months preggo with twins on my wedding date. I am just hoping she'll be able to even BE there at this point and not home on bed rest. We're working together to make sure she's comfortable and we're being super flexible - she can sit during the ceremony if she wants; I told her she could wear whatever dress she wanted - they do make maternity BM dresses, FYI...because bottom line is, she's a good friend of mine, I love her, and that's what matters to me here.

I can really only think of one or two reasons why you could be wanting to kick out your MOH if she does indeed become pregnant - (1) you're afraid she'll take attention away from you and/or (2) you're worried about having a pregnant woman in your photos. Both are incredibly superficial and terrible "excuses" for doing such a thing to someone who's supposed to be a good friend whom you chose to honor by asking her to be MOH. How about being a flexible and supportive friend instead? Your wedding is one day. Friendships and other relationships are for much longer - unless you behave selfishly and superficially.

Good luck to you.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

I can think of a third reason, CT. She wants all the BMs to match and this girl might need *oh noes!* a maternity dress.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Are you kidding or insane?

trix1223 · March 2010

And I'm predicting a delete in 5....4....3....2....1....

banana468 · March 2010

Stephanie, also a word of advice, please remove your name from your siggy.

CTGirl30 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tell-matron-of-honor-dont-want-her-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:50805102-b12c-4ce1-811e-d5b366a66605Post:6cca70a7-4503-40ea-b7f9-e6432761ce7d">Re: How to tell Matron of Honor, I don't want her to be in the wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]I can think of a third reason, CT. She wants all the BMs to match and this girl might need *oh noes!* a maternity dress.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Good call. Also? With potentially swollen ankles / feet she might not be able to wear the also required matchy stilettos.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Hey, my sis was a pregnant bridesmaid in her friend's wedding & the bride wanted them all to match, so she made them all get empire-waisted dresses! I think it's hilarious the whole wedding party had to conform to my sister's pregnant body.

In the end, they didn't quite match anyway. My sis didn't wear the "regulation" heeled shoes.

bablingbrooke · March 2010

I just hope this isn't one of those posts that turns into "Well, a pregnant woman is basically an invalid so there's no way she'll be able to fulfill all her duties, so I need to give her the boot and find a new one while there's still time!" I'll give her the "I-had-the-world's-worst-MOH-and-lived-to-tell-the-tale" spiel.

I also hope she's not like the girl last week who had "The Talk" with her BMs about how none of them were allowed to get pregnant during her engagement and one violated the rule so she had to go (I still hope to God that one was MUD).

LarissaAnn · March 2010

I really hope you have your story saved so you can cut 'n' paste. It's valuable and you'll be using it for years to come, but it's an awful lot to have to type new every time.

vanessa7889 · March 2010

Im thinking this is a joke, one post? get a life...

katwomn80 · March 2010

WOW! Just an FYI for the so named 'bridezilla', My Matron of Honor and my bridesmaid told me that they will be trying to concieve babies! If they are successful I will have two 3-8 month preggos at my side and I dealt with it in this manner:

Empire waist dresses in chiffon! If they are preggo at any stage It will flatter them and they will be comfortable. If they arent, they will still be beautiful!

SHAME ON YOU! And the others who support you! This maid of honor you want to ask to step down is your friend! You should treat her as such and not as a prop on your wedding day!

Mrs.B6302007 · March 2010

You know, if your MOH was really your friend, she would offer to step down the moment she gets her BFP so that you wouldn't have to kick her out. That's the only sensible thing for the selfish reproducer to do.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Do you know I just realized that my MOH was pregnant at my wedding too? I mean, I know it but I didn't connect it. We just didn't know it yet, though she had an inkling she might be so she didn't drink that day.

Damnit, I should've booted that harlot from my wedding party, even if she is my sister!

MyNameIsNot · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tell-matron-of-honor-dont-want-her-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:50805102-b12c-4ce1-811e-d5b366a66605Post:efc56183-5aea-4216-9195-42c45d783c6c">Re: How to tell Matron of Honor, I don't want her to be in the wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]You know, if your MOH was really your friend, she would offer to step down the moment she gets her BFP so that you wouldn't have to kick her out. That's the only sensible thing for the selfish reproducer to do.
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

<div>Whatever. If she was a real friend she'd have an abortion. </div>

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Holy crow, you just made me choke. Not kidding.

jagore08 · March 2010

Why? Why does "Shes planning on being pregnant for the wedding?" have a question mark at the end of it?

[Deleted User] · March 2010

Unless she's planning on getting pregnant with your FI's baby, I'm pretty sure you're being ridiculous.

lyndausvi · March 2010

Momo... is that you???

emilykathleen511 · March 2010

I bet it is. And she fails at sarcasm besides.

mbcdefg · March 2010

Oh, here, I just found this! Buy it for her and wrap it in pretty paper:

linns_e · March 2010

Wow. You are awefully selfish and shallow. I cannot even believe that you would expect everyone to revolve their lives around your wedding... I hope they all read this and they all step down. Your poor fiance doesn't even know what he's in for...

LarissaAnn · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_tell-matron-of-honor-dont-want-her-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:50805102-b12c-4ce1-811e-d5b366a66605Post:9f5218ec-91a6-40c8-90b2-c7e114dba35a">Re: How to tell Matron of Honor, I don't want her to be in the wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh, here, I just found this! Buy it for her and wrap it in pretty paper:
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
The perfect bridesmaid's gift!

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