There are some children I really want at my wedding, I just don't want all my friends with children to bring there children. My FI and I decided to only have one flower girl and one ring bearer, but there Are a few other children we would genuinely like at our wedding. For eample, my FI currently is living in a families basement and is really close with the whole family, excluding there 5 boys. Basically what it boils down to is we want the significant children in our lives at our wedding. These are children that we are going to watch grow-up and they will still be in our lives 15 years from now and are practically family. I don't want "random" children at my wedding just like I don't want random guests. We are letting out friends who have dated for at lest a year or are engaged or married bring a guest ( or if they are traveling a long way or really don't know anyone). Is there a tactful way to invite some children. It's about 15 children that we really want there. They are between the ages of 3 and 15. Could we send them there own invitations so there is no confusion and then be really explicate on the other RSVP cards so there is nowhere to write down extra names. We really can't afford to have everyone's kids. We are also having an outdoor evening reception and there is nowhere a babysitter could set up camp... THANKS