Long story but I will try to keep it short.
From the get go my step dad has wanted to walk me down the isle. He has been in my life for 23 years, and for 23 years we have never been close. He is not a father/dad figure to me. He offered and paid for 95% of the wedding, so he feels he has the right to walk me down the isle. I don't feel the same. My real dad just got of prison in January, from being falsely accused. I had a talk with both of them and decided that my read dad would walk me down the isle. I had explained that my step dad has another daughter, who truly adores him, and he can have his special day with her. Everything was okay till now. My real dad has now been readmit to a prison-like-facility, because someone screwed up paper work along the line, and he can no longer come to the wedding. I'm completely heart broken, and honestly don't even want to get married if he can not attend it. I would push back the wedding day, but out of town guest have already made plans to attend the wedding.
So now I'm back to who is going to walk me down the isle now? My officiate told me to picture the wedding, and how do I see myself walking down the isle. In tears I said by myself, if my dad won't be there. She said then that is how you should do it. I was recently told that my grandma (dad's mom) would love to walk me down the isle. I CAN picture this. I told my mom about this and she is all of a sudden against me walking down the isle by myself or with my grandma. I know that my step dad will be hurt if he doesn't do it, not to mention cause future problems. But it will hurt me if he does. I could suck it up and just let him do it, but isn't the wedding suppose to be about me? Just a side note, for the 23 years that my mom has been married to my step dad, they have been trying to get a divorce for the 23 years. Like I said, we are not close, and he has he other daughter who truly loves him. Please help me, I'm sick to my stomach over this situation.