I was talking with one of my bridesmaids who asked, "Are you changing dd name after the wedding? Like...hyphenating her last name?"
I said, "No, I mean, if she were older and wanted to hyphenate it, that's her call I guess."
She mentions, "Yeah that's reasonable. I just know growing up, I was the kid from mom's first marriage and I always wanted to fit in. I never matched anyone. So when they called the house, the answering machine was like, 'Hey you've reached the Smith's..." and I just thought, 'I'm not a Smith' and I always wanted to be. I just wish my mom had asked me, I never knew it was an option."
Made me think, oh my, I never thought she might feel left out because her last name is different.....should I address this?
Backstory:
In case you don't remember, I've been married before, divorced for 7 years, DD is 6 years old, I divorced while pregnant (super fun). Her dad is in the picture, we have a great relationship all around. No drama. She usually calls FI dad, but she alternates between that and his first name, we have never pushed anything on her and her bio father calls FI her dad. Everyone is okay with it. We have not discussed this simply because I had never thought of it.
So a poll of sorts...
June 1, 2013 - finally making it official!