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Sticking with Military Brides

Wow, made a post on another thread and WOW - they jumped down my throat. I'm sticking around here and my local board. You girls are FAR more understanding and are blunt when needed but never point-blank rude.
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  • edited December 2011
    sorry to hear that... What board were you on? That's funny because we're known to be the ones to jump down people's throats.. haha... :P
  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:ef50f0f5-162a-4d3f-bb30-68e30dd92d44">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]sorry to hear that... What board were you on? That's funny because we're known to be the ones to jump down people's throats.. haha... :P
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Etiquette board. Because we told her that her FMIL doesn't have duties/have to be a wedding planner. She wouldn't respond as to what duties FMIL has to do to love her/be happy. Maybe she will tell you girls...

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  • edited December 2011
    1. Are you a military bride as well, or just feeling like stalking her to bring her down more? You're kinda creepy if it's the latter.

    2. Beware of the E board.. I love that place, but they (we) will give you honest advice, with lots of sarcasm included. Not something everyone can take.

    3. We would pretty much give you the same comments on this board, just without the sarcasm so we appear a little friendlier :P ;)
  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:50667a1f-0c4e-4b19-8e2b-ec1040b10703">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]1. Are you a military bride as well, or just feeling like stalking her to bring her down more? You're kinda creepy if it's the latter. Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    I honestly want to know (& I promise we were not mean). Sorry normally international boards aren't "stalking." I would never follow her to her local board, but I thought the international boards were open to everyone...oh well.  

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  • edited December 2011
    It's the internet, so everything is "open" to everyone... It's just obvious that you deliberately followed her to a board you don't normally follow (nor is it relivent to you, I take it) to harass her more.
    I'm not supporting or justifying anything she wrote in E (I haven't even gone to look at it), but it's a little childish of you to follow her to a board you don't frequent to "tattle" on her... Just smells like "cyber-bullying" to me; and we're grown ups now so that doesn't fly with me.
  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:8c35edbd-e2cb-4d74-8c9b-d17fd7f933d3">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's the internet, so everything is "open" to everyone... It's just obvious that you deliberately followed her to a board you don't normally follow (nor is it relivent to you, I take it) to harass her more. I'm not supporting or justifying anything she wrote in E (I haven't even gone to look at it), but it's a little childish of you to follow her to a board you don't frequent to "tattle" on her... Just smells like "cyber-bullying" to me; and we're grown ups now so that doesn't fly with me.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Read the thread.... I really want her to just explain. She posted & then ran away. I'm not trying  to bully. If it came off that way, sorry. OP - sorry if it looked that way.

    I was just answering your question, not responding to OP. I didn't even respond/quote her in this damn thread for that very reason - didn't want to look like a bully. I really just want to know why she hates her FMIL. I thought she might explain here. But whatever.

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  • edited December 2011
    I just read her OP in E.. It doesn't sound like she HATES her FMIL.. more like she wants to her to be involved and that's just not happening so she is more upset over it, and ranted about it... I kinda get that... I have been trying to keep my FMIL and FSIL involved (although long distance which is tough) and they are super late and getting back at me with everything.. I kinda feel like it's a lose-lose situation.. If I DON'T involve them, they will be upset (I have already upset my FSIL for this reason) but when I do get them involved they take foreeeevvverrrr or just.. don't really care. It's frustrating.. Idk if that's the same with OP, but if that's the case I kinda get it. If not and OP just wants someone else to do some dirty work, obviously I'm not okay with that.
  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, which was my point...
     
    If she explained (there or here) and said something like "oh, I want her to go dress shopping, but she refuses" we would have been "well that sucks" and given her ideas about how to get a better relationship. She vented about etiquette, and then ran away. If she calmed down & answered some questions... I bet she would have gotten some help.

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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:8c35edbd-e2cb-4d74-8c9b-d17fd7f933d3">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's the internet, so everything is "open" to everyone... It's just obvious that you deliberately followed her to a board you don't normally follow (nor is it relivent to you, I take it) to harass her more. I'm not supporting or justifying anything she wrote in E (I haven't even gone to look at it), but it's a little childish of you to follow her to a board you don't frequent to "tattle" on her... Just smells like "cyber-bullying" to me; and we're grown ups now so that doesn't fly with me.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    As much as I have to agree with the fact that no one was particularly "mean" on the E board because I did read the thread, I second this.

    OP, I generally try not to take anything very personally on any of these boards.  Being someone who chose a JOP, if I got butt-hurt everytime someone said a JOP isn't a real wedding, I would spend a lot of my time on here upset.  People are entitled to say what they want and if you don't like it, consider where they are coming from, think about why you should or should not change your opinion, and shake it off if it's still not something you agree with.

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    LOL that sucks about the D key. I often have to continually backspace, retype because I'm paying attention to something else and start typing that instead >_< haha
  • edited December 2011
    I expected my FMIL to atleast pretend to be interested. I think what the issue came down to was that I did mistake "etiquette" for "expectations." Nonetheless, the woman is classless and mean to me every chance she gets. She has been uncooperative about getting us gets addresses and such. She literally has no interest in the entire ordeal. I thought the E board was a good place to get advice on this but the responses were just a little too rude for my liking. The fact that FI is deployed it making it particularly frustrating, so there's only so much I can really take from her. I now understand that perhaps E board wasn't the best place to post that little vent but com'on...take a chill pill. I'm not taking anything personally, I don't ever take anything personally, I was just looking for some advice and felt like I got attcked by the wolf pack or something over something very innocent. I appologize.
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:8c35edbd-e2cb-4d74-8c9b-d17fd7f933d3">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's the internet, so everything is "open" to everyone... It's just obvious that you deliberately followed her to a board you don't normally follow (nor is it relivent to you, I take it) to harass her more. I'm not supporting or justifying anything she wrote in E (I haven't even gone to look at it), but it's a little childish of you to follow her to a board you don't frequent to "tattle" on her... Just smells like "cyber-bullying" to me; and we're grown ups now so that doesn't fly with me.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Girl please.  If you think cyber-bullying is going to a message board on the same damn website and saying that she hopes she'll explain herself better than she did on E you live a highly sheltered life.
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:c3bf16fb-9b72-420a-b3e9-9565ba803450">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]I expected my FMIL to atleast pretend to be interested. I think what the issue came down to was that I did mistake "etiquette" for "expectations." Nonetheless, the woman is classless and mean to me every chance she gets. She has been uncooperative about getting us gets addresses and such. She literally has no interest in the entire ordeal. I thought the E board was a good place to get advice on this but the responses were just a little too rude for my liking. The fact that FI is deployed it making it particularly frustrating, so there's only so much I can really take from her. I now understand that perhaps E board wasn't the best place to post that little vent but com'on...take a chill pill. I'm not taking anything personally, I don't ever take anything personally, I was just looking for some advice and felt like I got attcked by the wolf pack or something over something very innocent. I appologize.
    Posted by heather0711[/QUOTE]

    You didn't get attacked by any wolf pack.  I can assure you that Ed Helms and Bradley Cooper were very absent from the E board.  Don't say you don't take thing personally, and then get all overdramatic about wolves which shows you're clearing taking things personally.

    If your MIL is being absent from the wedding planning, there really isn't much you can do to change that unless you want to risk pissing her off and having to deal with THAT on top of it.  If she's rude to you I don't know why you'd even WANT her included.  Go into it with no expectations regarding effort or participation or interest from her, and when she pulls her ish then you won't be disappointed.  And if she does step up you'll be pleasantly surprised.  But you also have to understand that not every woman is into or excited about wedding planning, especially when it's not their own.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:1626d521-4ebd-4b63-936c-9b31b566c7b6">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sticking with Military Brides : You didn't get attacked by any wolf pack.  I can assure you that Ed Helms and Bradley Cooper were very absent from the E board. 
    Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

    This was funny. Just thought I'd let you know, that was an excellent way of putting that.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:8c35edbd-e2cb-4d74-8c9b-d17fd7f933d3">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's the internet, so everything is "open" to everyone... It's just obvious that you deliberately followed her to a board you don't normally follow (nor is it relivent to you, I take it) to harass her more. I'm not supporting or justifying anything she wrote in E (I haven't even gone to look at it), but it's a little childish of you to follow her to a board you don't frequent to "tattle" on her... Just smells like "cyber-bullying" to me; and we're grown ups now so that doesn't fly with me.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Thank you for this. It was very sweet. I will have to say I would by no means call it "cyber-bulling" but either way, I appreciate it.
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  • edited December 2011
    Excuse me, Cyber-harrassment then. ;) Although the person explained herself, and it was dropped, so you're a little late.
    Although, your ignorant comment and try at a personal blow at my life suggests to me that you are not yet an adult and therefore could still be considering "bullying" NuggetBrain (how fitting).
  • edited December 2011
    Also, redheadsfu- your wedding bio is super awesome. I am nowhere near as skilled with computer stuff and definitely envious of those who are. I just get frustrated and give up >_< haha CompSci is not my strong suit.. I'll stick to math.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:085fd6c0-3c87-4a82-b61a-2c4d7317998f">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]Excuse me, Cyber-harrassment then. ;) Although the person explained herself, and it was dropped, so you're a little late. Although, your ignorant comment and try at a personal blow at my life suggests to me that you are not yet an adult and therefore could still be considering "bullying" NuggetBrain (how fitting).
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:085fd6c0-3c87-4a82-b61a-2c4d7317998f">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]Excuse me, Cyber-harrassment then. ;) Although the person explained herself, and it was dropped, so you're a little late. Although, your ignorant comment and try at a personal blow at my life suggests to me that you are not yet an adult and therefore could still be considering "bullying" NuggetBrain (how fitting).
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    <div>You're still newer I guess to the board, and you'll realize this happens a lot.  It's really easy to find where someone goes after, by clicking on the magnifying glass on their posts.  Generally when someone gets news they don't like, especially on E, they run to another board to say how mean those posters are.  Just like certain posters from here ran to WeddingBee to say how mean we were.  It happens, it's the same message board.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Also, don't talk shitt about Nuggs if you really plan on sticking around E.  She has a ton of respect there, and I respect her a lot as well.  </div>
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  • edited December 2011
    No, I didn't know that function exists. Thanks for the heads up. Again, it was let go and I have nothing against redheadsfu.

    That's fine dn, but I'm allowed to defend myself against someone that is potentially calling me sheltered. Maybe that's a "she started it" mentality, but I don't take that kinda crap from people that don't "know" me. I have  nothing against her or anything she has said to others from what I have seen, but that comment towards me wasn't needed.
  • edited December 2011
    I think I've created enough tension around here for the day ha. I am going to go to work now and catch up again tomorrow. Have a lovely afternoon/evening :)
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:47a368c9-a7b9-45aa-8833-4fe53112087d">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Sticking with Military Brides : You're still newer I guess to the board, and you'll realize this happens a lot.  It's really easy to find where someone goes after, by clicking on the magnifying glass on their posts.  Generally when someone gets news they don't like, especially on E, they run to another board to say how mean those posters are.  Just like certain posters from here ran to WeddingBee to say how mean we were.  It happens, it's the same message board.   Also, don't talk shitt about Nuggs if you really plan on sticking around E.  She has a ton of respect there, and I respect her a lot as well.  
    Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]

    I remember being scared of you ladies (Mil Board) the first time I posted here. Although I was the worst newb ever. lol Now look at me :)
  • edited December 2011
    I was super scared too!! Mostly of Stan, but I Love her now!! haha

    ETA: OP, I think each board has it's own tone and feel to it. Some boards are all rainbows and butterflies, other boards like Snarky Brides.. are well.. Snarky.  I think that we are all friendly, helpful, and blunt when we need to be.  This board is my favorite, it feels like home.Tongue out
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:98546a3f-edf9-46ea-9b53-3f99ffdf9209">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was super scared too!! Mostly of Stan, but I Love her now!! haha ETA: OP, I think each board has it's own tone and feel to it. Some boards are all rainbows and butterflies, other boards like Snarky Brides.. are well.. Snarky.  <strong>I think that we are all friendly, helpful, and blunt when we need to be.  This board is my favorite, it feels like home.</strong>
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

    <div>I know I said I was leaving, and I am haha, prorastination at it's finest, really. But I agree with you, Sami. I just really enjoy everyone I have come across on this board. It's definitely my favorite. </div>
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  • NuggetBrainNuggetBrain member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:085fd6c0-3c87-4a82-b61a-2c4d7317998f">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]Excuse me, Cyber-harrassment then. ;) Although the person explained herself, and it was dropped, so you're a little late. Although, your ignorant comment and try at a personal blow at my life suggests to me that you are not yet an adult and therefore could still be considering "bullying" NuggetBrain (how fitting).
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Oh, ouch.  Some random chick on the Interwebz who doesn't know me is insulting my intelligence after bitching about me insulting her personal life since I don't know her.  Hypocrite, party of you?  Yeah.

    Also, if you're going to get that butthurt over being called "sheltered" then you need to check yourself.  Stop acting like I called your mother out of her name or something.  Cheesus christ. 
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm kind of with DNB, we've done the same thing.

    And lol that everyone was afraid of me. It's because I don't think junior enlisted should be allowed to get married, isn't it?
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  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_sticking-military-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:6d6a57a8-fc00-4cbd-92a0-6837eb08cdd4Post:1c48dce0-6b81-450a-88f9-76a618577966">Re: Sticking with Military Brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]No, I didn't know that function exists. Thanks for the heads up. Again, it was let go and I have nothing against redheadsfu. That's fine dn, but I'm allowed to defend myself against someone that is potentially calling me sheltered. Maybe that's a "she started it" mentality, but I don't take that kinda crap from people that don't "know" me. I have  nothing against her or anything she has said to others from what I have seen, but that comment towards me wasn't needed.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's just kind of ironic that anytime E is mentioned you refer to yourself as part of E and that you're around that board, but you don't really seem to have grasped the personalities of people on there, or how things usually happen.  Many of the posters on E are all around the other boards, I just happen to be one of the only ones that is regularly on E and MB.  But many times the posters are all over the other boards, and check where posters run to after they get negative feedback on there (not just in this instance, I'm talking about in general).  Just like when everyone on here thought it was hilarious when Kendall was posting on WeddingBee about us being mean to her, it's basically exactly what happened here too.  So it's awfully hypocritical for anyone on this board who was here for that and laughing about that to call out other people for doing essentially the same exact thing.  </div>
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  • edited December 2011
    Nugget- Irony and hypocrisy was the point of that post.
  • edited December 2011
    I <3 sami too. :)
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    i <3 youuuuu FTL!!!

    I'm glad we finally gave you a nickname!!
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