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banana468 said:It's definitely the tradition in the US for the BM to pay. I completely respect your opinion @Casadena and ultimately bought my BMs dresses but when DH or I have been in weddings we never balked at the attire costs. It's something that you assume as part of the expense of being in a wedding just like your hotel.
That said, PLEASE follow @southernbelle0915's advice and get the budget from your guests and then stick to the lowest cost for all things. A cape can be lovely but it's an additional expense that you may need to cover yourself and such an expense needs to be considered a wedding expense and not their gift.
I guess it bothers me because in my mind the BM/GM is a position of honor that the bride/groom is "bestowing upon us", if you will. I chose my closest friends and family and didn't want to burden them with additional expenses as a consequence of our closeness. Anyone coming to a wedding out of town has to pay for lodging or drive home, etc. so I just can't get my head around asking your "most honored" guests (bridal party) to pay extra money for that honor.
I fully understand that it's tradition in the US - but too often I hear "well I had to pay so they do too" and it makes me crazy!. I just wish I heard an alternate viewpoint occasionally so I always want to explain my point of view
In the US its common for the bm's to pay for their own dresses. HOWEVER I personally think this is stupid and frankly very rude - I think it is ridiculous to have to essentially pay for the honor of standing next to you at your wedding. I've complained about it on here many times over the years.
If you are asking others to pay for a dress you MUST ask their budget beforehand, privately, and either find a dress that fits within the lowest budget you're given or give them parameters (long, navy) and let them spend what they want.
I cannot reiterate enough how much I hate this "tradition" of bridesmaids paying for their own dresses even if it is "what everyone else does".
My rings are not soldered, and both of them are on my finger 99% of the time. I wash my hands, shower, sleep, work, workout and really don't worry about taking them off. I can't imagine taking them on and off that many times a day - I would absolutely lose them. Occasionally I will take it back to the jeweler for a few days to have them clean, polish, and rhodium plate (I have white gold and diamond rings) and they look brand new again.
Please just make sure that if you pick an online site the girls can try on before they buy. I've ordered from weddington way and azazie as a BM and one makes you pay to try on and one has no sample program. It sucks.
Not exactly the same, but Walmart sells very similar ones for $.98 apiece