His mom has been constantly telling him that he is making a mistake marrying me and that he should've listened to her and that no one in his family thinks we should get married. I just overheard her on the phone saying all these things about me and it really hurt. To my face, she is always polite and nice. He thinks it is because she might be a little bit racist. I'm white and he's Puerto Rican and his mom said that she's not used to being around people who don't appreciate culture or like to dance and eat which is totally out of the blue because i love all those things and I've never not wanted to eat their food or whatever... It was a really weird comment. But, he thinks she's angry he's not marrying a hispanic girl.
Anyway, the comments hurt both of us. He's tired of hearing her go on and on about how he's making a mistake and it hurts me to hear her say it. Are any of you in situations like this? How are you dealing with it? I'm worried that if she continues on that she'll say hateful things to me after we're married and cause a lot of tension.
By the way, we've been dating for three years and engaged for almost a year.
Re: His mother
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He shouldn't be allowing this to continue.
"mom, I won't let you talk that way about the woman I love. This is not open for discussion" And if she continues? he hangs up.
[QUOTE]Ditto what everyone said. Also, I'd like to add that you should think very seriously about whether this is something that you want to live with for the next however many decades. It sounds harsh, but this won't end after the wedding so I think that's something to consider. I am black and hispanic and FI is Jewish, and I don't think that I could marry him if his family had a problem with my existence. You're marrying him but you're also joining his family.
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Unless he tells his family to go jump in the lake.
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