RANT: Rudest wedding I've ever been to.

EverAfer

Wow, I'm not sure what part was worse...not feeding WP or not enough food or...a separate room for unassigned people, can I say What the? You know how many people are coming and how many chairs you need.

You'd think when people invite guests -at any event- you take care of the guests' needs!

I think if I spent that much $ and time to travel, you'd better have a seat for me or I'm taking my gift home!

southernbelle0915

ClimbingBrideNY said:

That is unbelievable!!!! Not one of the 4 wedding planners was able to say, "Hold the fuck up! You can't have people sitting in a separate room and you have to have enough chairs!" Wow. It just goes to show you - you can spend $$$$ on a wedding and still have it be tacky and poorly hosted. 

Totally. So I wondered this myself. The wedding planners were all really young - no way any of them were over 30. After I went into the back room and all the seats were taken, we came back out and I said to the guy who'd told us about it something like "well even the reject section is full! Now what should we do?!" and he was like "just walk around and party! that's what it's all about!"  Um really, buddy? So you planned this? 

I kind of think etiquette stupid planners are convincing clueless B&Gs to do stuff like this and the B&Gs are just like "alright, well you're the professional, so this must be ok." I'm not saying the B&Gs carry no responsibility - it's ultimately their responsibility. But I can see how they are mislead by stupid wedding industry people. 

ei34

What a horrifying story.  The RD (hour's worth of speeches, not enough food) was the tip-off that this was going to be bad. I cannot believe that you were separated from your husband and there were not enough seats.  I don't care how great the music and flowers and alcohol are, I want my food and a seat!  Yikes, sorry you had to experience that.

Oh and I'd never heard of a house party (sounds terrible!), thanks for my new lesson of the day

Maggie0829

southernbelle0915 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

That is unbelievable!!!! Not one of the 4 wedding planners was able to say, "Hold the fuck up! You can't have people sitting in a separate room and you have to have enough chairs!" Wow. It just goes to show you - you can spend $$$$ on a wedding and still have it be tacky and poorly hosted. 

Totally. So I wondered this myself. The wedding planners were all really young - no way any of them were over 30. After I went into the back room and all the seats were taken, we came back out and I said to the guy who'd told us about it something like "well even the reject section is full! Now what should we do?!" and he was like "just walk around and party! that's what it's all about!"  Um really, buddy? So you planned this? 

I kind of think etiquette stupid planners are convincing clueless B&Gs to do stuff like this and the B&Gs are just like "alright, well you're the professional, so this must be ok." I'm not saying the B&Gs carry no responsibility - it's ultimately their responsibility. But I can see how they are mislead by stupid wedding industry people. 

I would have told that planner to go fuck himself.

winelover123

There are no words.....wow.....

Senecaf

southernbelle0915 said:

ClimbingBrideNY said:

That is unbelievable!!!! Not one of the 4 wedding planners was able to say, "Hold the fuck up! You can't have people sitting in a separate room and you have to have enough chairs!" Wow. It just goes to show you - you can spend $$$$ on a wedding and still have it be tacky and poorly hosted. 

Totally. So I wondered this myself. The wedding planners were all really young - no way any of them were over 30. After I went into the back room and all the seats were taken, we came back out and I said to the guy who'd told us about it something like "well even the reject section is full! Now what should we do?!" and he was like "just walk around and party! that's what it's all about!"  Um really, buddy? So you planned this? 

I kind of think etiquette stupid planners are convincing clueless B&Gs to do stuff like this and the B&Gs are just like "alright, well you're the professional, so this must be ok." I'm not saying the B&Gs carry no responsibility - it's ultimately their responsibility. But I can see how they are mislead by stupid wedding industry people. 

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So "heavy" apps and not enough chairs? Sounds like this was intended to be a mingle cocktail style party. Bad, bad idea and execution.

bmydesigner

This kinda reminds me of an episode of four weddings I saw awhile back. I believe the girl kind of had just a "dessert" theme for food, and there may have been a couple appetizers, but no real food. I don't remember the episode completely, but I do remember that the visiting brides were so hungry (hangry) they went outside and ordered a pizza. Food is probably the most important thing at a reception..and definitely a seat. This all just sounds...awful.

CLI242009

ClimbingBrideNY said:

That is unbelievable!!!! Not one of the 4 wedding planners was able to say, "Hold the fuck up! You can't have people sitting in a separate room and you have to have enough chairs!" Wow.

This makes the wedding planners look incompetent. Yes all responsibility falls on the B & G but stuff like this is WHY couples hire planners/coordinators. While they are getting ready and doing their photos, they hire the coordinators so they don't have to worry about all this!! My FI's sister got married and her day of coordinator actually thought she was helping by noticing "oh we have half an empty table here and half an empty table here, let's just condense." Good idea in general but this was set up for a reason.

southernbelle0915 - I agree with what you said. These are suppose to be professionals. People you go to for help. Not to make it worse!!! I can understand knowing what's "IN" for those kinds of brides but there's all types of brides. Not just the young "let's partaaay" crowd.