I'm planning my Nov 1 2014 wedding as a cocktail party as my fiancé and I aren't big on the formal sit-down-dinner. I've never been to a wedding of this style, and am fiddling with the timing of events. We are having the entire event at a theatre – getting married on the stage, serving drinks and food (heavy hors d'oeuvres as there is no meal) in the lounge and lobby. Any input would be greatly appreciated! (Note: all of these times are flexible, they're just my starting points)
Option 1
7:00 Ceremony (in the actual theatre, guests in the audience, bridal party on stage)
7:30/7:45 Toasts - pre-poured signature drink (in the lobby, parents' and best man/maid of honour speeches)
8:00 Hors d'oeuvres (in the lobby/lounge, passed by servers) and mashed potato bar
9:00 Dancing begins (on the stage) with first dance, etc.
10:00 Dessert served (in the lobby) - not sure if we'll be cutting a cake or having a cupcake bar
11:00 Late night food served in lobby
Option 2
7:00 Ceremony (in the actual theatre, guests in audience, bridal party on stage)
7:30/7:45 Hors d'oeuvres (in the lobby/lounge, passed by servers) and mashed potato bar
9:00 Toasts (all guests return to theatre with a signature drink) - parents' and best man/maid of honour speeches
9:15 Dancing begins (on the stage) with first dance, etc.
10:00 Dessert served (in the lobby) - not sure if we'll be cutting a cake or having a cupcake bar
11:00 Late night food served in lobby
Re: Cocktail Reception Timeline / Order or Events
1. Your guests' comfort (seats)
2. Your guests' comfort (food)
3. Your guests' comfort (bathrooms)
4. Ambiance
It sounds like you have things a bit backwards.
I forgot to write that the hors d'oeuvres will continue to be passed throughout the night. 7:45/8 is just the starting time.
To everyone who is coming down on the theatre: you haven't seen it. The chairs are cushioned and comfortable, and it is actually very easy to mingle with those around you (I've done it at a party). In the lobby/lounge, we will have a variety of tables set up - both high tables to stand and mingle at in addition to round and rectangular tables with chairs (this is important for my aunts and uncles, and any older guests).
We've been approved to use the stage for dancing, my fiancé and I (working in theatre) have been to events similar with no incident. We are having house tech familiar with the venue for music.
Above all, as in the title of the post, I was seeking advice about the order and timing of events, not a debate about dinner vs. hors d'oeuvres, etc. No matter where my fiancé and I were going to have our reception, it was going to be a heavy hors d'oeuvres and food stations event. I appreciate your concerns about the theatre, but having been to events that are similar that have been wildly fun, I am confident in my venue choice.
Two questions (provoked by some great points JoanE):
What other food stations would you recommend to go along with mashed potato bar?
Re: Option 2 - Speech and First Dance (and parent dances) at 9:00pm - I feel like this option eliminates people missing the first dance (which has happened at weddings I've been to), and puts the 'traditional' bits we're including all at the same time. We'll only have 5 short speeches/toasts (fiancé's parents seperately, mine together, then best man, and finally maids of honour together), then have the first dance and parent dances, joined by our wedding party and guests on stage to start the dancing. Because of the venue's set up, I worry that having the special dances start on their own will require too much herding of people back into the theatre. (I recognize this is a challenge of the venue, but I know it can work)
- If you were a guest, strictly speaking about speeches and first dance timing, would you rather they're all together or separated?
I'll be going with the second option, and limiting the number of speeches. Recalling one wedding I was at a while ago, both the bride's and groom's parents shared a speech (back and forth, very brief for both sets), then there were the best man's and maid of honour's short speeches. I'll see if we can do similar, as I don't like sitting through speeches either!