Ok to put attire on invitation?

theartistformerlyknownas

PrettyGirlLost said:

Lolo8383 said:

phira said:

3) Phrase everything as suggestions and examples, and not as restriction (UNLESS your venue has a restriction and will turn guests away at the door). So if someone asks you what to wear, don't answer, "Well, no jeans or sneakers."

OK so... my venue does have a VERY strict "no denim whatsoever" policy. Friend of FI's grandfather was actually turned away at the door for his uncle's Irish wake because she wore a jean skirt. Now, I don't THINK any of our guests would try to wear jeans to our private country club wedding, but I would be mortified if someone had a jean jacket or skirt on and wasn't allowed inside. We ARE close enough to Canuckistan for the "Canadian tuxedo" to be pret-ty popular.  Plan was to state ONLY on the wedding website, tucked away on the Guest Information page, "Please note, the (Venue Name) does not permit denim of any kind. Please see website.com for their dress code, and let us know if you have any questions." Yay or nay?? Parents and WP all know the rule, but with 275 guests I'm not confident word of mouth alone will suffice. Pinky swear I'm not a speshul snowflake, just don't want anyone to be embarrassed or excluded.

Hahahaha, love it!

When your venue has a dress code- which most country clubs do- then it is ok to list attire restrictions.

Perhaps on top of having the info on your website, you could have a small blurb on your reception insert in the invitations? Something like

Reception to follow at
Blah Blah Swanky Country Club
Address
Please visit our www.blahblahsewankycountryclub.com for dress code

Also, I would list the country club dress code on your website directly on the page that has your reception venue info.

Thaaaanks! We don't have reception cards since the ceremony and reception are in the same place, but we'll come up with an insert to direct them to the website. 

MobKaz

jazzyeb said:

Good for you. Now carry on.

If you are trying to appear brazen and snarky to set some sort of "tone" for yourself, you might want to try to learn how to quote first.  You're talking into air, dear.

lchh

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Cookie Pusher

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Seriously? You come on here, not to offer any useful advice, but to name-call? The advice given on the boards may be blunt, but it is still good etiquette advice. You could simply log off and go to other wedding boards.

And way to violate the TOS you agreed to when you signed up. @KnotPorscha

antoto

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Stay classy, southern belle!

Amyzen83

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

And name calling is SOooooooo much better!

Lizzieyounce

dantekins said:

you guys are really mean and take this stuff way too seriously

Lizzieyounce

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

SammiNJonni

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Well, bless your heart, posting here must have been sooooo terrible.

phira

Let me get my fainting couch!

SammiNJonni

phira said:

Let me get my fainting couch!

I'll go get the smelling salts. lol

Viczaesar

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Yes, clearly we're the bitchy and rude ones. 

PS - Brilliant marketing campaign, using your full name as your screen name when your name is also the name of your dance company in Mississippi, and then calling a bunch of internet strangers "northern whores."  I'm sure that's not going to come back and bite you in the ass.

Amyzen83

Too many trolls! I can't handle it! I've read a lot of these posts and I'm wondering where all the bad ideas are coming from! I can't even respond to all of them!

Here's my 2 cents: Adults can dress themselves, if they are intentionally going to dress inappropriate, then they look bad, not the couple!

RebeccaB88

PrettyGirlLost said:

jazzyeb said:

I don't have a stance on the matter either way to all the know it alls who felt the need to reply to yes my "first post". Guess we don't like the word bitch much. Sips tea and giggles.

Don't choke on that tea, honey.

I'm not convinced it's tea. 

themuffinman16

Tea is southern for SoCo

NYCBruin

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Yes, it's definitely the posters trying to stop other brides from embarrassing themselves or insulting their guests and not the posters trying to justify telling adults how to dress and calling names that are the rude and bitchy ones.

manateehugger

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

I'm an ethically Indian Midwestern girl who has never lived north of Missouri but believes you shouldn't try to control the attire of your guests. Am I still a whore? 

I just need to know, because we tally up bitch and whore points at the end of each month at our mean girl club meetings, and it's really hard to count them up when someone spews illogical generalizations. 

MobKaz

Viczaesar said:

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Yes, clearly we're the bitchy and rude ones. 

PS - Brilliant marketing campaign, using your full name as your screen name when your name is also the name of your dance company in Mississippi, and then calling a bunch of internet strangers "northern whores."  I'm sure that's not going to come back and bite you in the ass.

Well, what do you expect from someone who drives around wearing a tiara??  Her Facebook page is open, too.  I guess this southern peach took a hit to the head when it fell from the tree.

PrettyGirlLost

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Oh, so is this the great South rising again?  No?  Good, because I don't think it worked out too well for you before.

To my fellow "bitches" in the south:

MobKaz

lindseyclairemuse said:

I have grown to hate the forums on this site. All of your brides are so bitchy and rude. Do you get off by being smart asses and making people feel stupid? If you can't offer good advice than just keep your mouths shut. You stupid northern whores.

Your tiara must be on a bit too tightly today.  

kiwikiss56

Honest question - what would you wear to a wedding if this is the invitation you received?  Thick linen cardstock, bellyband, printed calligraphy font printed on the envelope.  I really don't care what people wear but am curious.

manateehugger

@kiwikiss56, I'd have to see the design, time, and venue to make a decision. You could have linen and a belly band, but a "rustic" design on it, you know? The most formal wedding invitations have very classic designs. 

kiwikiss56

@PDKH I was having issues with the design - it should be uploaded now.  Almost all guests will be out of town and will be unfamiliar with the venue.  Their website isn't all that helpful either.  This is a screen shot of their website:

http://oi60.tinypic.com/j8e543.jpg

banana468

I'd probably wear a navy cocktail dress and strappy sandals.    DH would probably wear his suit or khakis and a sport jacket. 

theartistformerlyknownas

I'd wear a lobster bib. OK not really, but now I want lobster. Are you serving lobster? Can I come?

Probably a cotton dress and wedges. 

JellyBean52513

Hey @lindseyclairemuse I'm sure you also know that the MAO frowns upon their titleholders acting unladylike, which includes calling people "northern whores." I bet you'd hate for your LED to find out if you're still actively involved/competing. Take it down a notch, it's a small world out there.

sarahufl

kiwikiss56 said:

Honest question - what would you wear to a wedding if this is the invitation you received?  Thick linen cardstock, bellyband, printed calligraphy font printed on the envelope.  I really don't care what people wear but am curious.

A cocktail dress and strappy shoes. FI would likely wear slacks and a collared shirt but maybe not a suit?

SammiNJonni

I would wear a cocktail dress FI would wear either a light weight suit or slacks and a collared shirt. . Since you were asking are you thinking people would be under dressed based on the website and invites? How formal will your wedding be?

PrettyGirlLost

kiwikiss56 said:

Honest question - what would you wear to a wedding if this is the invitation you received?  Thick linen cardstock, bellyband, printed calligraphy font printed on the envelope.  I really don't care what people wear but am curious.

I'd have to Google your ceremony and reception venue to decide what I would wear.

Based on your invitation, since it is more whimsical than formal,  I would assume you were having a less formal wedding- so I might wear a print summer dress and wedge sandals or espadrille shoes, and FI would probably wear khakis and a polo shirt or collared shirt and sports jacket.

Something like

 If your venue looked like a more upscale yacht club, then I would wear a cocktail dress and heels, and FI would probably wear dress pants and a sports coat, or a suit.

kiwikiss56

Haha although there won't be lobster we are having "lobster sliders"  The venue is in Cape Cod - ceremony on the lawn overlooking the water and tented reception.  So it definitely isn't overly formal although we are having a raw bar, passed hor d'oeuvres, top shelf open bar, band etc.  

A lot of people have already started asking us "do we need to wear a jacket?  a tie?"  I really don't care what people wear but was more curious how others would interpret it.  I assume we will get a variety of outfits for guys from polo/khakis to suits and women in sundresses to cocktail dresses.  I've just been telling people that my fiance and groomsmen aren't wearing tuxes - they are wearing jacket/khakis/tie and the bridesmaids have dresses from jcrew.  The wedding isn't until September so I'm sure we'll get a lot more questions as it gets closer (we just sent out save the dates).

The main reason I'm asking the question is that I'm a little worried that everything is on grass.  I have it listed in a few places on our website "ceremony on the lawn" and "tented reception on the lawn" and plan to spread by word of mouth as best we can.  I don't want women to be wearing stilettos and then be sinking into the grass .  There is no floor in the tent except the dance floor so I'm not sure if that is clear enough?  I am planning on doing a flip flop basket as well so hopefully that will come in handy!  I just know that not everyone looks at wedding websites, especially the older generation and want to make sure everyone is comfortable.