It's amazing that I made it through planning my own wedding not so long ago and never once had to post a question. Here goes...
My husband was asked a few weeks ago to be his cousin's best man (they are the closest either one has to a brother). Hubby said he'd love to, and although it might be tough for me to travel to the opposite coast with our on-the-way son (he'll be ~6 months at the time of the wedding), we'd make it work. Groom responded he hoped we could all make it and that they looked forward to meeting and visiting with the baby.
Fast forward a week or two, and we get an email mentioning their "no kids" policy for the wedding. Yup, applies to our "kid" too, so you can imagine our shock. I get it, we had an adult reception, but made a couple exceptions for close family who were traveling from out of state and/or in the wedding. It wasn't a big deal. The fact is, I can't leave a still-nursing 6-month-old to travel 2,700 miles for 3+ days. So essentially, the groom is excluding his best man's wife (me) from going to the wedding. This guy was also the best man in our wedding, so it's more than a little hurtful that he can't make this accommodation. To add insult to injury, we just learned that they ARE making a kid exception for someone in the bride's family (and no, the kid isn't in the wedding).
The worst part is, my husband is in a horrible position because he's caught in the middle. He doesn't want to jeopardize his relationship with his cousin, but also doesn't think it's okay to leave baby and wife behind. It's causing us a tremendous amount of stress, and we just don't know where to go from here. Input anyone?