*Minor Update* Vent - Uninvited to the Wedding

mellyD2014

Oh yes - already sent a heads up to the realtor. This behavior is so irrational!

kmmssg

Chipmunk415 said:

kmmssg said:

Chipmunk415 said:

Evil Chipmunk chiming in again....now knowing this is a HOLIDAY WEEKEND wedding, with 8 couples staying at one place to deal with costs....

I suggest you not only have the photo like suggested above, if possible, have a cookout at the place you all are staying. Plan a ton of fun activities. Take tons of photos of you guys having a blast.

And explode/blow the shit out of his and her facebook/twitter/social media feeds with posts of these photos of how you're having a great time, despite not attending the wedding. Blog the bejeezus out of how much better it is than attending a wedding for a couple that is so insecure in their relationship, they each have a temper tantrum if someone tries to remove the stitching that's obviously connecting them at hip, ass, chest, and arm for a brief period.

Disclaimer- Evil Chipmunk is a merciless, snarky bitch. Chipmunk is also dealing with someone plotting something, but that's allegedly to occur the day of the wedding, and the friend planning might be doing something as innocuous as having breakfast there at the venue for the bride, or something terrifyingly embarassing. The difference is, it's the day of the wedding, and the friend won't tell Chipmunk what it is.

Evil Chipmunk is being stuffed back in her cage with wine, bourbon, and ice cream for the moment. An AE might become necessary in the 16 days she has left.

I have been wondering but now I am just about convinced.  I have a massive collection of extra daughters - did you escape the clan?  Evil Chipmunk could be a chip off the ol' kmmssg block. Pun intended there.  I keep evil me as quiet as I can here but she slips out every once in awhile.  Are you one of my extra DDs?

Maybe in spirit....I was a C-section baby, and there are photos of it. I also look exactly like my Dad, and save for the nose, exactly like my paternal grandmother (as in, scary similar).

 

If you want to adopt me though, thats fine!

I think we can arrange that.  Some people collect antiques or coins or whatever but for some reason I seem to collect extra daughters - I have a ton of them!

sofakingmad

I am not one for revenge or being malicious, but I would definitely go and mostly because of him asking you not to even go to the beach house.

Go, enjoy the vacation.  Fuck them.

HisGirlFriday13

I ditto PPs who think you should go and enjoy the beach house, now ESPECIALLY because he doesn't want you there. I'd be curious to know why he doesn't want you there -- are B and G worried y'all are gonna crash the wedding?

Evil HisGirl would enjoy the enormous stress and discomfort the B and G are going to endure for the next several months, knowing people they treated rudely are going to be at their wedding location on their wedding weekend.

sarahufl

They can tell you not to come to the wedding (however rude that may be). What they cannot do is tell you to stay out of town.

In fact, that comment would be the thing that cemented the fact that there was zero chance of me not staying at the house. I would try extra hard to make sure I was there the entire weekend.

grumbledore

You should now definitely still go on the vacation.  And definitely go to the beach.  During their ceremony.  

hikebikebemerry

Go to the beach during the ceremony..

I think all of the guys were kicked out need to get these for sunbathing:

photokitty

EVIL CHIPMUNK!!!

jdluvr06

Oh hell no. That is bs. Now I definitely think you guys need to go. You need go to that beach during the ceremony and completely pink out. ETA: I should probably explain what Pinking out is. It is something my friends and I say when we are going to crazy, shut down the bars, throw mattresses out of hotel windows party. We call it that because one of my friends is a huge Pink, the singer, fan. Pink does a lot of crazy shit in her music videos. So if it can't be found in a Pink music video you are doing it wrong.

Vivandiere8

In response to those who wonder if there is more to the story, this could be something to consider:

This story involves a lot of other people as well.  @mellyD2014, perhaps you and your fiance don't know about something more that went down between the groom and some of (or one of) the other guys over this, and your fiance was simply lumped into it with the rest of them. (Not saying that was the right thing to do of course)

There has also been a lot of guesses on here about the insecurity of the bride, etc, but you know it very well may have been the groom. I am thinking about me and my own fiance. I can't imagine either of us un-inviting someone, but if someone were to do that I could picture my fiance doing it before I would. The way our personalities are when someone is disrespectful I am more likely to ignore it, or make excuses for them, or try to see it from their point of view, and he is more likely to say "well they have shown their true colors, I'm done with them" (don't get me wrong, he is not a drama queen constantly doing this over every stupid little thing, and often he has turned out to be right about a person's character I originally wanted to keep giving a pass to.)

jenniferurs

LOL at them uninviting everyone from the town.

Pretty clear that something more happened here. But this is obviously ridiculous.

sofakingmad

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

jenniferurs

DragonBlood13 said:

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

Exactly. Very frequently, fiancées/wives/girlfriends are not kept in the loop during the planning of a bachelor party and I have a feeling that these discussions far preceded the couple's official announcement of their final decision and likely involved something that the couple was uncomfortable with. This type of reaction just doesn't occur over a simple question about whether the groom would want to go out for dinner one night.

MGP

KatWAG said:

I would also suggest creating a clever  hashtag because it didnt happen if it isnt on facebook, right?

Why not go with simply #uninvited ?  Gets the point across.  

sofakingmad

jenniferurs said:

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

Exactly. Very frequently, fiancées/wives/girlfriends are not kept in the loop during the planning of a bachelor party and I have a feeling that these discussions far preceded the couple's official announcement of their final decision and likely involved something that the couple was uncomfortable with. This type of reaction just doesn't occur over a simple question about whether the groom would want to go out for dinner one night.

But I still think it's an overreaction even if strippers were involved.  A complete overreation.

I mean, I could understand this reaction if they were going to higher a hooker for the G to sleep with that night or something...that would be disrespectful.  

It's just weird.

SammiNJonni

Maybe the bride lurks these forums? The uninvitation call and request to not be in the town of the venue happened right after OP mentioned partying on the beach during the ceremony. Also as other people have mentioned 8 couples were uninvited maybe one of them did something the OP doesn't know about.

MGP

grumbledore said:

You should now definitely still go on the vacation.  And definitely go to the beach.  During their ceremony.  

How about booking one of those planes that flies over the water pulling a banner on the back during the ceremony time?  It can deliver a super special message from the uninvited group.  A few suggestions:

Too late to reclaim your balls now!

Enjoy your new life with no friends.

Your wife is a bitch.

mrs4everhart

OP, go enjoy your vacation without all the crazy. Make sure to extend an invitation to many of the people still invited to their wedding to your epic beach party. As soon as it is rumored there's a better ticket in town their reception will clear out early and they'll have plenty of time to start enjoying each other's company, alone. :-)

These people sound insane. Better to know now before they started coming up with even weirder stuff once you got there like "honoring" one of you with serving the cake or being the unpaid DOC or something! 

PrettyGirlLost

MGP said:

KatWAG said:

I would also suggest creating a clever  hashtag because it didnt happen if it isnt on facebook, right?

Why not go with simply #uninvited ?  Gets the point across.  

It's so brilliant!

mellyD2014

Yeah, I think it's probably best the put this thread to rest, just in case. Considering all of the other etiquette faux-pas being committed, I'd doubt anyone would be lurking here... but better safe than sorry. Thanks for the support, ideas, and thought provoking responses eveyone!

Now - what's the best way to remove the thread? I know changing the original title to a '.' is big red flag for attention; can I simply delete it?

jenniferurs

DragonBlood13 said:

jenniferurs said:

DragonBlood13 said:

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

Exactly. Very frequently, fiancées/wives/girlfriends are not kept in the loop during the planning of a bachelor party and I have a feeling that these discussions far preceded the couple's official announcement of their final decision and likely involved something that the couple was uncomfortable with. This type of reaction just doesn't occur over a simple question about whether the groom would want to go out for dinner one night.

But I still think it's an overreaction even if strippers were involved.  A complete overreation.

I mean, I could understand this reaction if they were going to higher a hooker for the G to sleep with that night or something...that would be disrespectful.  

It's just weird.

Definitely an overreaction either way.

HisGirlFriday13

mellyD2014 said:

Yeah, I think it's probably best the put this thread to rest, just in case. Considering all of the other etiquette faux-pas being committed, I'd doubt anyone would be lurking here... but better safe than sorry. Thanks for the support, ideas, and thought provoking responses eveyone!

Now - what's the best way to remove the thread? I know changing the original title to a '.' is big red flag for attention; can I simply delete it?

You can't delete a thread; only Knot Gods can. And nothing in this thread rises to the level for KGs to delete, sorry.

NYCBruin

jenniferurs said:

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

Exactly. Very frequently, fiancées/wives/girlfriends are not kept in the loop during the planning of a bachelor party and I have a feeling that these discussions far preceded the couple's official announcement of their final decision and likely involved something that the couple was uncomfortable with. This type of reaction just doesn't occur over a simple question about whether the groom would want to go out for dinner one night.

This type of reaction shouldn't occur even if there was something "raunchy" being planned.  Seriously, unless the bachelor party plans were to kidnap the groom so he couldn't make it to the wedding, I don't think this response makes any fucking sense.

antoto

jenniferurs said:

jenniferurs said:

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

Exactly. Very frequently, fiancées/wives/girlfriends are not kept in the loop during the planning of a bachelor party and I have a feeling that these discussions far preceded the couple's official announcement of their final decision and likely involved something that the couple was uncomfortable with. This type of reaction just doesn't occur over a simple question about whether the groom would want to go out for dinner one night.

But I still think it's an overreaction even if strippers were involved.  A complete overreation.

I mean, I could understand this reaction if they were going to higher a hooker for the G to sleep with that night or something...that would be disrespectful.  

It's just weird.

Definitely an overreaction either way.

At my FI's Bach party one of his friends kept harassing him about going to a strip club.  My FI laughed at him, repeatedly told him no and didn't let it get to him.  I can't image uninviting someone for just suggesting strippers.  Come.  On.

mellyD2014

HisGirlFriday13!

sofakingmad

I also think that we need to stop blaming the Bride.  We have no evidence to suggest she had any say in this and I think it's pretty shitty to immediately assume that she is the one with the problem or "pulling the strings."  

[Deleted User]

Yea B may have his balls in a vice but judging by the update, I'd say G has plenty of asshole in him already...

You enjoy your vacay- telling you to avoid that beach town that weekend SCREAMS speshul...like flashing lights and fireworks speshul...

RebeccaB88

Am I the only one wondering what other special things the bride/groom has done to other guests of this wedding?  I mean, if they'll do this, what else are they willing to pull? 

climbingsingle

OP, how were all of you notified that you were uninvited?

This really is just crazy. I'm LMAO at the groom uninviting you from the town too. I'm glad you're all still going. I'm sure you'll have a much better time. 

jenniferurs

NYCBruin said:

jenniferurs said:

DragonBlood13 said:

The fact that not only did all of these people got uninvited, but that the G is now asking you all not to even be there and offering to refund the money, makes me highly suspect of these plans that were being made.  

No offense OP, but I'm going to assume that there were some strippers or something else involved to have offended the G this bad.

It's all not adding up and it's really weird.

Exactly. Very frequently, fiancées/wives/girlfriends are not kept in the loop during the planning of a bachelor party and I have a feeling that these discussions far preceded the couple's official announcement of their final decision and likely involved something that the couple was uncomfortable with. This type of reaction just doesn't occur over a simple question about whether the groom would want to go out for dinner one night.

This type of reaction shouldn't occur even if there was something "raunchy" being planned.  Seriously, unless the bachelor party plans were to kidnap the groom so he couldn't make it to the wedding, I don't think this response makes any fucking sense.

Agreed. I'm just saying that this situation makes even less sense short of that.