How do I tell people that they don't get a plus one?

JellyBean52513

Today at work, a client and I had the following conversation:

Me: I'm actually from NY
Client: Oh you are? I had no idea!
Me: You couldn't tell? I mean, I do pronounce the letter R lol! It took me so long to get used to hearing people say words like "car." 
Client: Well, I pronounce my Rs! Cah... Cah.... see, I can feel myself pronouncing the R. Cah. 

I didn't have the heart to argue with her about it further lol 

kaitborristobe

We aren't inviting everyone with a plus one. It might be rude...Unless they're gonna give me the extra money lol

kmmssg

kaitborristobe said:

We aren't inviting everyone with a plus one. It might be rude...Unless they're gonna give me the extra money lol

Who are you inviting with a plus one?  Are you talking about not including a plus 1 for a truly single guest or are you talking about not including SO's/spouses/fiances?

crunchymamaof2

kaitborristobe said:

We aren't inviting everyone with a plus one. It might be rude...Unless they're gonna give me the extra money lol

I really can't stand when people admit to being rude/potentially being rude then laughing about it. It just makes you look bad.

If you read the thread you'd know plus ones aren't required. So bragging about that being rude isn't needed. However, if you misread and are counting ALL SOs as plus ones (when they're not) then yes, you are being rude. Very rude.

itsmandybee

I didn't have a chance to read through everyone's replies, but overall, people are telling you that you need to choose a new venue because they HAVE to have their SOs?? I just think people are incredibly rude. It's your wedding, your budget and your vision. It makes me sick what people say you HAVE to do. I almost can't stand being on this website it makes me so mad. This is why I love offbeatbride.com. You should consider checking this post out: http://offbeatbride.com/2010/07/wedding-invite-no-plus-1 People need to stop being jerks. I don't care if you wouldn't do it. Guess what, not your wedding! Do what you gotta do! Or elope. Seriously. OR say, sure they can come and have a foodless wedding. How ridiculous!

JCbride2015

itsmandybee said:

I didn't have a chance to read through everyone's replies, but overall, people are telling you that you need to choose a new venue because they HAVE to have their SOs?? I just think people are incredibly rude. It's your wedding, your budget and your vision. It makes me sick what people say you HAVE to do. I almost can't stand being on this website it makes me so mad. This is why I love offbeatbride.com. You should consider checking this post out: http://offbeatbride.com/2010/07/wedding-invite-no-plus-1 People need to stop being jerks. I don't care if you wouldn't do it. Guess what, not your wedding! Do what you gotta do! Or elope. Seriously. OR say, sure they can come and have a foodless wedding. How ridiculous!

Yep, certain people are incredibly rude.  I think you're confused about who that is though.

Why would you ever invite someone to celebrate your relationship, and then disrespect their relationship in the same breath?

slothiegal

itsmandybee said:

I didn't have a chance to read through everyone's replies, but overall, people are telling you that you need to choose a new venue because they HAVE to have their SOs?? I just think people are incredibly rude. It's your wedding, your budget and your vision. It makes me sick what people say you HAVE to do. I almost can't stand being on this website it makes me so mad. This is why I love offbeatbride.com. You should consider checking this post out: http://offbeatbride.com/2010/07/wedding-invite-no-plus-1 People need to stop being jerks. I don't care if you wouldn't do it. Guess what, not your wedding! Do what you gotta do! Or elope. Seriously. OR say, sure they can come and have a foodless wedding. How ridiculous!

SIB.

Oh, OK, let me know how it goes over with you when your FI is invited to a wedding and you're expected to stay at home.

It's near quitting time on a Friday...I got no patience for this shit.

AddieCake

There is nothing "offbeat" about not inviting someone's significant other. Why do so many people think being rude to your guests isn't rude but unique or offbeat? You're not. You're rude and disrespecting the relationships of your guests, and you should not be surprised when they decide you're just too "offbeat" to be part of their lives if their SO can't be a part of your wedding.

lilacck28

Um... that article said you don't need to provide +1s to all your single friends. It said NOTHING about not inviting significant others. 

NYCMercedes

itsmandybee said:

I didn't have a chance to read through everyone's replies, but overall, people are telling you that you need to choose a new venue because they HAVE to have their SOs?? I just think people are incredibly rude. It's your wedding, your budget and your vision. It makes me sick what people say you HAVE to do. I almost can't stand being on this website it makes me so mad. This is why I love offbeatbride.com. You should consider checking this post out: http://offbeatbride.com/2010/07/wedding-invite-no-plus-1 People need to stop being jerks. I don't care if you wouldn't do it. Guess what, not your wedding! Do what you gotta do! Or elope. Seriously. OR say, sure they can come and have a foodless wedding. How ridiculous!

This is a total fail. First you didn't read the posts. Then you didn't read your Offbeat Bride reference. Very simply, a plus one is a random date. A significant other is part of a couple. There is a huge difference. Offbeat Bride said no need to give plus ones for random dates. Guess what? That's exactly what TK posters said also.