So I just got the invitation in the mail over the weekend for my step-sister's impending bachelorette party which I was already anticipating being a shit show... an entire weekend at a beach house in a tourist town across the state, with a $50 entry fee to stay in the rental house. The actual party is Saturday, but you can "feel free to come Friday for no additional charge, claim your bedroom and have a mini vaca!" Oh goody. So what you're really telling me is although I've subsidized the entire weekend for a house you couldn't afford to host on your own, I don't actually get a discount for only staying Saturday, and when I get there all the bedrooms will be taken and I'll have to sleep on the floor (there are upwards of 25 people coming to this party... no way there's a bed for everyone). Gee, thanks. Then Saturday, after wine tasting and dinner downtown, there will be a sex toy party where we can "buy something for the bride, if we haven't already brought a gift." Oh how convenient! Afterward, we'll head to a bar, where we have been advised to plan to buy the bride some shots. Additionally, "while there will be some food and drinks at the house, BYOB is encouraged. If you could also bring an appetizer/snacks, let bridesmaidname know!"
Am I just being a bitch here? I mean I know that bachelorette parties are understood to be "pay your own way." but this seems soooooo far beyond that. And the asking for gifts thing just made me want to scream. (Especially since it's a sex toy party. GROSS.) If I was going to take a "mini vaca" it wouldn't be with any of these people. I'm worried if I skip it I'll get crap from my dad, and I don't really feel like pissing family off with my own wedding coming up. (Although the step-sister has already declined my wedding.) I would go for just the wine and dinner, but it's a 2.5 hour drive each way and I don't know if I want to spend as much time in the car as I'll spend at the party (time I'll likely spend making excuses for why I'm not staying the whole time). :-/