Separate Beds/Bedrooms?

KatWAG

Maggie0829 said:

We share the same bedroom/bed, but we do have separate bathrooms.  That is an absolute necessity.

We never really thought about having separate rooms.  Some nights I will sleep on the couch downstairs if his snoring is keeping me up or if he has a cold and he is breathing is so heavy and loud I want to smother him with a pillow.  But other then that we don't really disturb each other.  It is helpful that we both have to get up for work at about the same time.

But really it comes down to what works best for each couple.  If H wanted to start getting up at 5am to workout each morning then we would probably rethink the sleeping situation.  But if I wanted to get up that early for a workout, H wouldn't care because he is a deep sleeper and is incredibly difficult to disturb.

We also have seperate bathrooms. It was on of the best decisons we ever made for our new house.

buddysmom80

HisGirlFriday13 said:

buddysmom80 said:

My MOH's H has her sleep on the couch. They practice FAM (fertility awareness method) and abstain from sex, so he makes her sleep on the couch to resist temptation. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Sometimes I have to get up at 4am for work, the days I do that, FI will sleep on the couch so I can go to bed early and wake up early without worrying that I'm going to wake him up. Other than that we sleep in the same bed. Occasionally he'll wake up at 4am, go watch TV on the couch or play Xbox, but it's usually because he's one of those: "once I'm awake, I'm awake" types.

I'm sorry, what? SHE has to sleep on the couch so HE can resist temptation? 

If DH couldn't sleep next to me for fear of temptation, his ass would be sleeping on the couch or in the spare room.

This. What the hell is wrong with your MOH to allow that shit?

 

SITB:

I don't get into specifics because you can tell she's uncomfortable talking about it. Her H is a very devout Catholic, so I don't know if that's the rule or whatever (sorry, I'm not Catholic so I don't know how it goes). Her H also throws temper tantrums at 40 and she'll do whatever to pacify him. She only brought this up once to me (they've been married for 7 years) and it was after we were out drinking, I wish I could go into it more with her, but she won't talk about it, I'm fascinated. If it was me, I'd make my FI sleep on the couch.

I feel bad for her because I know she wants to talk about it and it annoys her, but I know she doesn't want to embarass her H.

jenna8984

We are both light sleepers but we never seem to have a problem with keeping the other person awake. We go to bed together and wake up together. But we are on the same work schedule so I can imagine that would be much more difficult to be on opposite schedules. FI can't sleep without me there, if I go out oce in a while with the girls and I come home at midnight, he's lying in bed saying he can't sleep but the second I lay down I hear him out cold. There have been times when one of us has the flu or cold and I suggest sleeping in the guest room and he says absolutely not. So I guess it wouldn't work for us, but I definitely wouldn't judge that working for others.

I don't see how the separate bathrooms are really so great? We often pee, brush our teeth, shower, floss, etc while the other is also in there doing those things. Sometimes after work I just really want to tell him a story and don't want to wait so I'll stand in the bathroom talking to him while he showers lol.

cupcait927

@jenna8984 FI and I have sworn to each other that we will never cross the line as to use the bathroom in front of each other lol. I have ZERO problems with people who are that comfortable with their S/O, we just never will be. With that said, once you get kicked out of the bathroom so many times so he can use it (including in the middle of blowdrying your hair for work), you come to fantasize about having your own space. Plus I am really, REALLY not a morning person so having my own bathroom lets me get ready in peace and quiet before I'm ready to talk to anyone. Now, I will say that I have more than once hung out in the bathroom while FI is taking a shower just so I can talk to him or tell him about my day.

selenathegreat

We sleep in the same bed, but it would be nice to have a spare room for snoring, colds, insomnia, etc. I wake up at anything, so if we had opposite schedules I'd probably need to be separate. My parents snore like freight trains and sleep apart and seem to get on quite well.

I would LOVE to have two bathrooms. My FI spends SO LONG in there. What is he DOING, writing a novel? I would love to never have to knock on the door with a (cough) emergency.

JCbride2015

We share a bed and not once has one of us ever left to go sleep on the couch.  I'm a very light sleeper but I don't really move around when I'm wakeful, I just lay there still.  Fi is a deep sleeper but he doesn't snore.  So it works for us.

For 6 years of our relationship, one or both of us was in college.  So we spent many of those early years sleeping together in a tiny twin bed.  After that, sleeping together in a queen is paradise.

cupcait927

@JCBride2014 I feel you on the twin bed thing. Nothing is worse than trying to cram a 6', 200 lb ex and myself in a tiny twin bed, particularly when he liked to sleep on his back...I spent most nights crunched between him and the wall.

sarahufl

buddysmom80 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

buddysmom80 said:

My MOH's H has her sleep on the couch. They practice FAM (fertility awareness method) and abstain from sex, so he makes her sleep on the couch to resist temptation. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Sometimes I have to get up at 4am for work, the days I do that, FI will sleep on the couch so I can go to bed early and wake up early without worrying that I'm going to wake him up. Other than that we sleep in the same bed. Occasionally he'll wake up at 4am, go watch TV on the couch or play Xbox, but it's usually because he's one of those: "once I'm awake, I'm awake" types.

I'm sorry, what? SHE has to sleep on the couch so HE can resist temptation? 

If DH couldn't sleep next to me for fear of temptation, his ass would be sleeping on the couch or in the spare room.

This. What the hell is wrong with your MOH to allow that shit?

 

SITB:

I don't get into specifics because you can tell she's uncomfortable talking about it. Her H is a very devout Catholic, so I don't know if that's the rule or whatever (sorry, I'm not Catholic so I don't know how it goes). Her H also throws temper tantrums at 40 and she'll do whatever to pacify him. She only brought this up once to me (they've been married for 7 years) and it was after we were out drinking, I wish I could go into it more with her, but she won't talk about it, I'm fascinated. If it was me, I'd make my FI sleep on the couch.

I feel bad for her because I know she wants to talk about it and it annoys her, but I know she doesn't want to embarass her H.

We are Catholic too. And this is not a rule. I also find it ridiculous. Please find out more from your friend.

Maggie0829

@jenna8984 - I love H but he is hairy.  I do not like hair in the shower or in the sink or in the tub or on the floor.  It grosses me the fuck out.  So much so that I won't even walk into H's bathroom.  I also don't clean the bathrooms, H does.  I also prefer a shower/tub combo and H has a stand-up shower which again icks me out because that means you have to stand on the drain, and that is a no-no in my book.  Basically I have bathroom issues.

Also, since we both get up at the same time and have to get ready for work at the same time, sharing a bathroom would be completely stressful.  H takes forever in the bathroom.  In the morning he is in there for a good 30+ minutes and he does not take a shower before work because he does HVAC installations so being squeaky clean is not a necessity.  So if we were to share bathrooms I would have to get up earlier just to be able to get in there and do what I need to do before he gets up.  And as I am not a morning person, getting up earlier would just not happen.

Overall separate bathrooms just make our lives easier.  We don't have to fight about who gets to use it first and yelling at each other to get the hell out so I can get in there.  We can just get ready at the same time without any difficulty.

emmyg65

I'm a very light sleeper with fatigue issues so I need my sleep. DH snores like a monster and wakes up two hours before me. So he sleeps in the guestroom occasionally, especially if I've been having trouble sleeping for several nights in a row. We do generally enjoy sleeping together, but sometimes, it just works better to be separate. 

SmileDamnit

Agree with PP that it's a "what works best" for each couple kind of thing. Before FI, always insisted on separate bedrooms with my boyfriends. I'm a VERY light sleeper and hated snuggling (or even being touched at all when sleeping). But with FI, it's different. He snores something fierce and has a completely different sleep schedule than me, but somehow it works for us (...with the occasional relocation to the couch as needed on particularly restless nights). 

HisGirlFriday13

sarahufl said:

buddysmom80 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

buddysmom80 said:

My MOH's H has her sleep on the couch. They practice FAM (fertility awareness method) and abstain from sex, so he makes her sleep on the couch to resist temptation. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Sometimes I have to get up at 4am for work, the days I do that, FI will sleep on the couch so I can go to bed early and wake up early without worrying that I'm going to wake him up. Other than that we sleep in the same bed. Occasionally he'll wake up at 4am, go watch TV on the couch or play Xbox, but it's usually because he's one of those: "once I'm awake, I'm awake" types.

I'm sorry, what? SHE has to sleep on the couch so HE can resist temptation? 

If DH couldn't sleep next to me for fear of temptation, his ass would be sleeping on the couch or in the spare room.

This. What the hell is wrong with your MOH to allow that shit?

 

SITB:

I don't get into specifics because you can tell she's uncomfortable talking about it. Her H is a very devout Catholic, so I don't know if that's the rule or whatever (sorry, I'm not Catholic so I don't know how it goes). Her H also throws temper tantrums at 40 and she'll do whatever to pacify him. She only brought this up once to me (they've been married for 7 years) and it was after we were out drinking, I wish I could go into it more with her, but she won't talk about it, I'm fascinated. If it was me, I'd make my FI sleep on the couch.

I feel bad for her because I know she wants to talk about it and it annoys her, but I know she doesn't want to embarass her H.

We are Catholic too. And this is not a rule. I also find it ridiculous. Please find out more from your friend.

We are also Catholic. The Church does teach that NFP is the only acceptable form of birth control, but it in no way dictates that you have to sleep in separate beds, nor does it say that 40-year-old grown-ass men should throw temper tantrums to get their own way.

It sounds, however, like the sleeping-on-the-couch is merely the tip of the iceberg of problems your MOH has in her marriage, for which I'm sorry for her sake.

daria24

We live in a 1 bed/1 bath apartment. I think all couples should have to survive in a small apartment first as a test of their relationship. We always sleep together, if he comes to bed later I can't fall asleep until he comes in. When he's OOT, it is soooo hard to fall asleep without him there. 

Having only 1 bathroom is...interesting. The cleanliness factor isn't a problem because I'm the messy one. For a long time one of us either worked from home, didn't work at all, etc so we never had to get ready at the same time. The first couple months when we were roughly on the same work schedule I wanted to murder him as his beauty routine takes longer than mine! We've calmed down now though.

It will be years, if not decades until we have a bigger place, we may never have more than 1 bathroom. 

jenna8984

@maggie0829 That is hilarious. It's the opposite with us- even though he has a Duck Dynasty beard he never sheds anywhere and my elbow length hair is ALL over everything!!! Mine is also opposite of yours that he spends no time in there at all. He is a deisel mechanic so also doesn't shower before work and I'm always amazed that he rolls out of bed, spends 42 seconds in the bathroom, grabs his lunch and kisses me goodbye. But he admits when he's at work he takes 12 minute "poop" breaks where he just sits on the toilet watching YouTube videos on his phone. Maybe that's what your husband is up to? LOL

You are so lucky that he cleans both bathrooms too!!

Maggie0829

jenna8984 said:

@maggie0829 That is hilarious. It's the opposite with us- even though he has a Duck Dynasty beard he never sheds anywhere and my elbow length hair is ALL over everything!!! Mine is also opposite of yours that he spends no time in there at all. He is a deisel mechanic so also doesn't shower before work and I'm always amazed that he rolls out of bed, spends 42 seconds in the bathroom, grabs his lunch and kisses me goodbye. But he admits when he's at work he takes 12 minute "poop" breaks where he just sits on the toilet watching YouTube videos on his phone. Maybe that's what your husband is up to? LOL

You are so lucky that he cleans both bathrooms too!!

My H could probably watch an entire season of Downton Abbey with the amount of time that he sits on the toilet.  And he does watch YouTube and reads magazines and looks on Facebook and whatever else while he is in there because I can hear the car videos that he is watching.  I am always the one waiting for him to be finished getting ready if we were to go out.  I honestly do not know what he does in the bathroom for so long and I think it is just better that way

emmaaa

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

@maggie0829 That is hilarious. It's the opposite with us- even though he has a Duck Dynasty beard he never sheds anywhere and my elbow length hair is ALL over everything!!! Mine is also opposite of yours that he spends no time in there at all. He is a deisel mechanic so also doesn't shower before work and I'm always amazed that he rolls out of bed, spends 42 seconds in the bathroom, grabs his lunch and kisses me goodbye. But he admits when he's at work he takes 12 minute "poop" breaks where he just sits on the toilet watching YouTube videos on his phone. Maybe that's what your husband is up to? LOL

You are so lucky that he cleans both bathrooms too!!

My H could probably watch an entire season of Downton Abbey with the amount of time that he sits on the toilet.  And he does watch YouTube and reads magazines and looks on Facebook and whatever else while he is in there because I can hear the car videos that he is watching.  I am always the one waiting for him to be finished getting ready if we were to go out.  I honestly do not know what he does in the bathroom for so long and I think it is just better that way

Yes! FI and I moved from a 3 BR/2 BA to a 2 BR/1 BA house in December. We miss the second bathroom. I get ready for work at night usually so I just have to wash my face and brush my teeth in the morning. His morning routine involves him taking and long shower and being in the bathroom for 1 hour.

We pee in front of eachother but I refuse to ever poop in front of him (unless it is an absolute emergency). Gotta keep some mystery to the relationship.

Sidenote: Some mornings, he will oversleep and have five minutes to get ready before he has to leave. He did that a couple of weeks ago and I was just like, "Don't you need to take your 30 minute poop?"

cupcait927

eg72 said:

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

@maggie0829 That is hilarious. It's the opposite with us- even though he has a Duck Dynasty beard he never sheds anywhere and my elbow length hair is ALL over everything!!! Mine is also opposite of yours that he spends no time in there at all. He is a deisel mechanic so also doesn't shower before work and I'm always amazed that he rolls out of bed, spends 42 seconds in the bathroom, grabs his lunch and kisses me goodbye. But he admits when he's at work he takes 12 minute "poop" breaks where he just sits on the toilet watching YouTube videos on his phone. Maybe that's what your husband is up to? LOL

You are so lucky that he cleans both bathrooms too!!

My H could probably watch an entire season of Downton Abbey with the amount of time that he sits on the toilet.  And he does watch YouTube and reads magazines and looks on Facebook and whatever else while he is in there because I can hear the car videos that he is watching.  I am always the one waiting for him to be finished getting ready if we were to go out.  I honestly do not know what he does in the bathroom for so long and I think it is just better that way

Yes! FI and I moved from a 3 BR/2 BA to a 2 BR/1 BA house in December. We miss the second bathroom. I get ready for work at night usually so I just have to wash my face and brush my teeth in the morning. His morning routine involves him taking and long shower and being in the bathroom for 1 hour.

We pee in front of eachother but I refuse to ever poop in front of him (unless it is an absolute emergency). Gotta keep some mystery to the relationship.

Sidenote: Some mornings, he will oversleep and have five minutes to get ready before he has to leave. He did that a couple of weeks ago and I was just like, "Don't you need to take your 30 minute poop?"

Lol it's so funny that you ask him that. FI is notorious not for taking long poops but for pooping often (he'd be mortified if he knew I was telling anyone this lol). If he doesn't go in the morning before work I always ask him if he's going to be okay. Thank god no one else lives with us or they'd think we were the biggest weirdos.

lyndausvi

We  have only had one bathroom most of our life together.    When we moved to this place I was excited about having 2 bathrooms.   I find it funny the extra bathroom is really only being used because it happens to be the closest of the 2  to the living room.   

Fact is DH and I are not on any real schedule.   Neither one of uses an alarm clock on a regular bases.    Neither one of us has a set time we have to be at work. I naturally wake up around 6-7am.  I get ready for work, which basically mean I take a shower, throw on some clothes, go down the stairs, hit up the kitchen to grab something and continue down to the lower level to my office    I may or may not dry my hair.  Never put on makeup.

DH's schedule is similar.  Wakes up when he wants to and gets to work between 8-9am.  Work is only 3 miles away, so not a long commute.

It's a rare day we need to be in the bathroom at the same time.  It's always pretty much been that way.  

Now as a curiosity if he is still sleeping I will use the other bathroom to dry my hair or to good #2, but I still take showers in our master bath.

Maggie0829

eg72 said:

Maggie0829 said:

jenna8984 said:

@maggie0829 That is hilarious. It's the opposite with us- even though he has a Duck Dynasty beard he never sheds anywhere and my elbow length hair is ALL over everything!!! Mine is also opposite of yours that he spends no time in there at all. He is a deisel mechanic so also doesn't shower before work and I'm always amazed that he rolls out of bed, spends 42 seconds in the bathroom, grabs his lunch and kisses me goodbye. But he admits when he's at work he takes 12 minute "poop" breaks where he just sits on the toilet watching YouTube videos on his phone. Maybe that's what your husband is up to? LOL

You are so lucky that he cleans both bathrooms too!!

My H could probably watch an entire season of Downton Abbey with the amount of time that he sits on the toilet.  And he does watch YouTube and reads magazines and looks on Facebook and whatever else while he is in there because I can hear the car videos that he is watching.  I am always the one waiting for him to be finished getting ready if we were to go out.  I honestly do not know what he does in the bathroom for so long and I think it is just better that way

Yes! FI and I moved from a 3 BR/2 BA to a 2 BR/1 BA house in December. We miss the second bathroom. I get ready for work at night usually so I just have to wash my face and brush my teeth in the morning. His morning routine involves him taking and long shower and being in the bathroom for 1 hour.

We pee in front of eachother but I refuse to ever poop in front of him (unless it is an absolute emergency). Gotta keep some mystery to the relationship.

Sidenote: Some mornings, he will oversleep and have five minutes to get ready before he has to leave. He did that a couple of weeks ago and I was just like, "Don't you need to take your 30 minute poop?"

LOL!  I say something similar to H all the time.  When we have to go somewhere after he gets off work I beg him to limit his poop to 30 minutes tops and his shower to 15.  I don't know how his feet don't go numb the length of time he sits on that toilet.

mbross3

So many diverse sleeping situations!

Before BF I practically never slept in the same bed with an SO. I just didn't like sleeping with someone else there, and I liked sleeping at my own apt alone  (it did piss some of them off). Practically since day 1 of dating BF, we've slept in the same bed together. At first I would wait until he fell asleep and then go sleep on the couch for a bit and sometimes come back to bed later. It took me a bit to get used to having another body in bed. Now I find it hard to fall asleep without him! We go to bed at the same time every night (although sometimes BF will read in bed for a bit--doesn't bother me) and I get up about an hour earlier than BF. 

I love knowing that he is there- but honestly I love sleep and can fall asleep fine on those few nights when he is out of town (about once every 6-8 weeks he has to go out of state for work). However, he just can't go to sleep when I'm not there with him. Part of me finds that sweet, but then I also worry for him on those rare night when I'm not with him! He eventually gets sleep, but not as much

buddysmom80

sarahufl said:

buddysmom80 said:

HisGirlFriday13 said:

buddysmom80 said:

My MOH's H has her sleep on the couch. They practice FAM (fertility awareness method) and abstain from sex, so he makes her sleep on the couch to resist temptation. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Sometimes I have to get up at 4am for work, the days I do that, FI will sleep on the couch so I can go to bed early and wake up early without worrying that I'm going to wake him up. Other than that we sleep in the same bed. Occasionally he'll wake up at 4am, go watch TV on the couch or play Xbox, but it's usually because he's one of those: "once I'm awake, I'm awake" types.

I'm sorry, what? SHE has to sleep on the couch so HE can resist temptation? 

If DH couldn't sleep next to me for fear of temptation, his ass would be sleeping on the couch or in the spare room.

This. What the hell is wrong with your MOH to allow that shit?

 

SITB:

I don't get into specifics because you can tell she's uncomfortable talking about it. Her H is a very devout Catholic, so I don't know if that's the rule or whatever (sorry, I'm not Catholic so I don't know how it goes). Her H also throws temper tantrums at 40 and she'll do whatever to pacify him. She only brought this up once to me (they've been married for 7 years) and it was after we were out drinking, I wish I could go into it more with her, but she won't talk about it, I'm fascinated. If it was me, I'd make my FI sleep on the couch.

I feel bad for her because I know she wants to talk about it and it annoys her, but I know she doesn't want to embarass her H.

We are Catholic too. And this is not a rule. I also find it ridiculous. Please find out more from your friend.

We are also Catholic. The Church does teach that NFP is the only acceptable form of birth control, but it in no way dictates that you have to sleep in separate beds, nor does it say that 40-year-old grown-ass men should throw temper tantrums to get their own way.

It sounds, however, like the sleeping-on-the-couch is merely the tip of the iceberg of problems your MOH has in her marriage, for which I'm sorry for her sake.

 

SITB:

 

I agree with you on that in regards to the tip of the iceberg with her marriage. Also to whoever said that they have seperate bathrooms from their H, because of that, I just got off the phone with a contractor to get an estimate for a second bathroom. FI and I share a bathroom and it's HORRIBLE.

pinkcow13

JCBride2014 said:

We share a bed and not once has one of us ever left to go sleep on the couch.  I'm a very light sleeper but I don't really move around when I'm wakeful, I just lay there still.  Fi is a deep sleeper but he doesn't snore.  So it works for us.

For 6 years of our relationship, one or both of us was in college.  So we spent many of those early years sleeping together in a tiny twin bed.  After that, sleeping together in a queen is paradise.

Damn box.

FI and I slept together every single night in college, and I have no idea how we fit into those tiny twin beds. Now our bed feels cramped again, because most nights the cats sleep with us, and they love to sprawl and take up space smh.

We have a spare bedroom with a bed in there, but we never sleep in separate rooms. When I lived on my own I hated sleeping alone (I'm very paranoid), so I love having FI next to me. I'm a very light sleeper, and FI is a deep sleeper, but it works for us. Sometimes, FI has passed out in the living room and he gets upset when he wakes up there alone and I'm in bed lol.

HisGirlFriday13

When DH and I started dating, I was living in a 1BR, 1BA apartment that had an open floor plan -- as in, only the bathroom had a door on it. You came in the back into the kitchen, and from the kitchen you could go into the bedroom or the living room. 

DH and I now live in a 2BR, 2BA apartment, and I love, love, LOVE having the second BA. I can dry my hair in the a.m. without waking him, he can use it to poop, we have a spare BA for people to use when they're over for dinner that doesn't involve them going through our bedroom to the master bath.

Sharing a bathroom with him, especially so early in our relationship (he'd come and stay for long weekends) was kind of challenging. But we made it work,

ShesSoCold

I'd kind of like to have separate bedrooms, or at least the option. We live in a 1BR/1Bath that we've been in for five years - since we moved in together. I'm a super light sleeper and he snores and wakes up earlier than I do. Our couch hates backs and wants them to die so we take turns sleeping there if I can't sleep because of his noise. When he's not there, I sleep like a rock.

As far as the bathroom, we're usually okay with the one. The only problem is if someone is using the toilet and the other needs to. I blowdry my hair in the bedroom and rarely wear makeup so no problems with that. I'm sure it will be nice if/when we do have a second bathroom, though. 

I'm lucky that FI doesn't seem to mind my giant hairs everywhere. My hair is about waist-length and it gets pretty much everywhere. They gross me out more than they do him. 

I think Maggie already knows this and is grosses her out, but I think it's hilarious. To avoid clogging the drain constantly, I stick my stray hairs to the wall in the shower and sometimes I'd forget them there. We call 'em shower dragons. My FI started making little pictures with them when he'd be in there. So now I leave them there to see what kind of shower dragon pictures he'll make. This morning I was greeted with a tiger. 

cupcait927

@ShesSoCold - FI would LOVE for us to have separate showers due to my hair constantly being everywhere and clogging the drain. We have two separate bathrooms but one's a half so we do still share the shower (haven't run into a problem with that yet with timing). He's always telling me how gross it is and that I need to clean it out. I have a feeling our next house will have not only two bathrooms but each will have its own shower!

JCbride2015

pinkcow13 said:

JCBride2014 said:

We share a bed and not once has one of us ever left to go sleep on the couch.  I'm a very light sleeper but I don't really move around when I'm wakeful, I just lay there still.  Fi is a deep sleeper but he doesn't snore.  So it works for us.

For 6 years of our relationship, one or both of us was in college.  So we spent many of those early years sleeping together in a tiny twin bed.  After that, sleeping together in a queen is paradise.

Damn box.

FI and I slept together every single night in college, and I have no idea how we fit into those tiny twin beds. Now our bed feels cramped again, because most nights the cats sleep with us, and they love to sprawl and take up space smh.

We have a spare bedroom with a bed in there, but we never sleep in separate rooms. When I lived on my own I hated sleeping alone (I'm very paranoid), so I love having FI next to me. I'm a very light sleeper, and FI is a deep sleeper, but it works for us. Sometimes, FI has passed out in the living room and he gets upset when he wakes up there alone and I'm in bed lol.

This.  Our two cats always sleep with us.  Usually Stella is at the foot of the bed and Jack sleeps pretty much on top of my face.  We babysit my sister's dog a lot (okay, and my sister, she mostly lives on our couch) and the dog always wants to sleep in our bed too.  Even when her own mommy is on the couch in the next room!  So this morning I woke up with a cat next to my face, a dog behind my knees, and another cat by my feet.

Our animals need their own bedroom.

pinkshorts27

I don't live with FI, but he lived with me this summer. We shared a bed by necessity. Right now we are long distance (just finishing 2 school years, 2 more to go) and it breaks my heart every time I have to say goodbye and I could not imagine choosing to sleep apart when we finally get together. But we are both heavy sleepers. We just have to have our own covers, I'm a cover hog.

ETA, I'm for whatever works I the relationship. So I don't judge

ShesSoCold

We have a king size blanket on a queen sized bed and that's one of the best things we've ever done for our relationship. 

phira

When I'm sick, I sleep on the couch. I sleep WAY better on the couch than my partner does (e.g. I often sleep just as well as I would in the bedroom, and he barely sleeps at all), so it's not like I'm being punished.

WinstonsGirl

I suggested separate rooms once, as an idea to DH.  He said it was a deal breaker for him.  After a flood ruined his mattress at his old house, we compromised and now have a King.  He's an absolute furnace, and I came into the relationship having been on a Queen by myself for 8 years.  We do have a spare room, but I've only used it once, I think

We also have 2 bathrooms (and a half downstairs), but share the 1.  We also have dual vanities, which was a much for me when we bought the house.  That helps big time.  He gets up way earlier than I do, so we put a door on it.  I sleep pretty heavy though, so I always fall asleep again after he says goodbye.  I have a harder time falling asleep personally