Thanks for checking my wording!

beachyone15

FYI - We are using traditional wording and are being married in a house of worship:

Mr. and Mrs. (bride's parents) FNAME LNAME

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

(bride) FNAME MIDDLE

to

Mr. (groom) FNAME MIDDLE LNAME

son of Mr. and Mrs. (groom's parents) FNAME LNAME

on Saturday, the twenty-fifth of October

Two thousand fourteen

at three o'clock in the afternoon

Church name

Church street name

City, State

HisGirlFriday13

That looks fine. 

However -- it is not traditional to list the groom's parents' names on the invite. You're certainly free to do so, but I wanted to mention that.

Are you doing enclosure cards? If not, you should have:

Reception to follow
Venue Address
in the lower-left corner

CMGragain

Mr. and Mrs. (bride's parents) FNAME LNAME

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

(bride) FNAME MIDDLE

to

Mr. (groom) FNAME MIDDLE LNAME

Saturday, the twenty-fifth of October

two thousand fourteen

at three o'clock

Church name

Church street name

City, State

If you really insist on leaving in the line about your FI's parents, you can do so, but it isn't traditional at all!  Unless they are hosting, the groom's parents do not normally appear on a wedding invitation.  If you must list them, you should remove the title "Mr." for your FI.  I made a few minor changes to wording.

beachyone15

If I were to leave FI's parents on the invite (as both parents are hosting), is there a better way to do it? I've seen both parents names' listed first on the invite, so maybe that's the better way of incorporating both sets of parents? I found the example above on emilypost.com so I thought it would be acceptable (although I'm realizing now, not technically traditional).

HisGirlFriday13

Please remember that hosting =/= paying. Just FYI.

In my example below, your family is the Smiths and your FI's family is the Joneses, OK?

Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Smith

and

Mr. and Mrs. Joshua Jones

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their children

Sally Anne Smith

and

Robert Ray Jones

Saturday, the twenty-fifth of October

Two-thousand fourteen

at three o'clock

St. Whosits of Wherever Church

[Address]

The way you have it worded now, I would not, as a guest, assume that meant your FI's parents were hosting. Since only YOUR parents are requesting the honour of my presence, I would think that only they were hosting.

This is why, typically, weddings do not have more than one set of hosts. 

beachyone15

That makes sense. Basically I would say that my parents are hosting but his are very involved (his mom is planning the rehearsal dinner and they have helped with a few expenses). I guess this was more confusing than I thought it would be. How do you determine who is truly "hosting" if it's not based on financial contributions? 

Thanks again for the help. I just want to make sure I get these right!

Jen4948

sarah1551 said:

That makes sense. Basically I would say that my parents are hosting but his are very involved (his mom is planning the rehearsal dinner and they have helped with a few expenses). I guess this was more confusing than I thought it would be. How do you determine who is truly "hosting" if it's not based on financial contributions? 

Thanks again for the help. I just want to make sure I get these right!

"Hosting" is based on who is acting as the "point persons" of the wedding.  The "point persons" issue the invitations, receive responses, answer inquiries, greet guests at the wedding, and see that their needs are attended to.  One can contribute financially to a wedding without doing any of these other things, so that's why "paying" does not equal "hosting."

Also, the financial arrangements of the wedding are none of the guests' business.  The wedding invitation is not a playbill that maps out the family tree or lists each person by how much they contributed, like a fundraising program. 

HisGirlFriday13

Jen4948 said:

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sarah1551 said:

That makes sense. Basically I would say that my parents are hosting but his are very involved (his mom is planning the rehearsal dinner and they have helped with a few expenses). I guess this was more confusing than I thought it would be. How do you determine who is truly "hosting" if it's not based on financial contributions? 

Thanks again for the help. I just want to make sure I get these right!

"Hosting" is based on who is acting as the "point persons" of the wedding.  The "point persons" issue the invitations, receive responses, answer inquiries, greet guests at the wedding, and see that their needs are attended to.  One can contribute financially to a wedding without doing any of these other things, so that's why "paying" does not equal "hosting."

Also, the financial arrangements of the wedding are none of the guests' business.  The wedding invitation is not a playbill that maps out the family tree or lists each person by how much they contributed, like a fundraising program.  The financial arrangements are none of the guests' business.

This. Hosting means receiving RSVPs, seeing to guests' comfort, etc. Paying means paying.

If you think they're equally hosting, use the wording 'together with their families.'

Also, traditionally the grooms' parents hosted the RD and still didn't get named on the invites.

beachyone15

Thank you both for clarifying!