what are you "sorrynotsorry" about?

thisismynickname2

Just for fun, what are you most certainly NOT sorry about when it comes to your wedding?

My FI, bless his heart, once was talking with his hands in such an animated manner that he sent my glass of red wine flying---- down the front of my dress. (Yes, the dry cleaners got it all out!) 

I have lovingly told him in no uncertain terms that he can't drink anything colored within 5 feet of me at our wedding.  

SorryNotSorry!

(Honestly I'm not going to be controlling what he drinks, it's just a conversation we've had. All portraits will be done before drinking commences so if stains happen, they happen.) 

theartistformerlyknownas

I'm not having a photo booth and I don't care if everyone else has one. I'm not the slightest bit amused by the 5372358467 pictures everyone seems to have dressed in a sombrero, feather boa, and giant sunglasses. I think they're stupid. Photo booths were cute when they were unexpected, kitschy fun that was a throwback to the one at the mall or the fair, WITHOUT STUPID PROPS. They're just SO overdone (in my circle/area) now, like it's another line item on the checklist (dress, food, photo booth). We might do some kind of a backdrop wall or the thing where you stick your face through the hole, but no booth. Sorry not sorry.

(Yes, I'm aware that we could get a booth without the props, but it's just not worth it to me to spend that much money just because "everyone does it!" Get over it and let the fact that you're AT AN AWESOME PARTY be enough fun without a damn booth.)

HisGirlFriday13

I was sorrynotstorry:

-- That it was a full Catholic Mass

-- That it was on a Sunday

-- That it was in my hometown

-- That the flowers were Gerbera daisies

-- That we hosted the alcohol we could afford (beer, wine, champagne), rather than an open bar

smalfrie19

We are probably going to have people seated at tables for the ceremony because my venue doest have "staff" to do it and my caterer cant really justify bringing additional people in.

all that matters it that everyone's butt will have a seat, there will be NO GAP and the food will be delicious.

#sorrynotsorry

JCbride2015

I'm sorrynotsorry our wedding is going to be fancy and mostly traditional!  There will be no chalkboards, wildflowers, or mason jars in sight.  We will not wear boho headbands and cowboy boots.  We are going to get dressed to the nines, get married, eat some delicious food, drink, and dance!  In our fanciest fancy best.

PrincessOfHavoc

Sorrynotsorry about no alcohol and no dancing. You don't like, feel free to not come.

jdluvr06

Sorrynotsorry that I'm not wearing white (I've actually gotten a lot of crap about that) and that we are having the ceremony in a garden at a horse farm. I really don't understand people's problem with this. The ceremony isn't going to be anywhere around the horses and the horses don't actually got into the area we're going to be. It is just a very pretty garden.

SapphireCounselor

thisismynickname said:

Just for fun, what are you most certainly NOT sorry about when it comes to your wedding?

My FI, bless his heart, once was talking with his hands in such an animated manner that he sent my glass of red wine flying---- down the front of my dress. (Yes, the dry cleaners got it all out!) 

I have lovingly told him in no uncertain terms that he can't drink anything colored within 5 feet of me at our wedding.  

SorryNotSorry!

(Honestly I'm not going to be controlling what he drinks, it's just a conversation we've had. All portraits will be done before drinking commences so if stains happen, they happen.) 

So funny story..my friend actually did spill champagne on her new husband's tux at their reception. Honestly they just laughed it off and we all had a great time.

I'm sorry/not sorry I made my Dad do a father-daughter dance with me. He was super nervous about it but it was such a great moment with him. We both loved it.

I am sorry/not sorry we decided not to invite my Dad's brothers. No one wanted them there, including my Dad, for many reasons. I am also sorry/not sorry we decided not to invite some of my mom's siblings who had been asshats to her about my grandparents when they became ill and she was taking care of them.

beethery

lolo883 said:

I'm not having a photo booth and I don't care if everyone else has one. I'm not the slightest bit amused by the 5372358467 pictures everyone seems to have dressed in a sombrero, feather boa, and giant sunglasses. I think they're stupid. Photo booths were cute when they were unexpected, kitschy fun that was a throwback to the one at the mall or the fair, WITHOUT STUPID PROPS. They're just SO overdone (in my circle/area) now, like it's another line item on the checklist (dress, food, photo booth). We might do some kind of a backdrop wall or the thing where you stick your face through the hole, but no booth. Sorry not sorry.

(Yes, I'm aware that we could get a booth without the props, but it's just not worth it to me to spend that much money just because "everyone does it!" Get over it and let the fact that you're AT AN AWESOME PARTY be enough fun without a damn booth.)

Tell 'em to get under the table (if you're using tablecloths) and have someone rapid fire take pictures with their phone if they're so desperate for a photobooth lol

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I am sorrynotsorry that we not having an outdoor "rustic" themed wedding in the summer like FSIL, and the three other girls in the group we (VERY) loosely associate with. (I am not friends with these ladies. FI is friends with some of their husbands, he does not like the wives either.)

I am ESPECIALLY sorrynotsorry for my response when I was told, "But... you're southern! You're not going to do that?"


My response, "Southern doesn't mean country. I grew up in the suburbs and burlap and boots do not a reception make. I might sound like ol' Granny Clampett when I speak, but I am not into any camo and moonshine bullshit."

I am super sorrynotsorry for not planning to invite them ladies anyway.

lyndausvi

I had gerber daises also.

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Had a candy bar:

**note - sorry for all the recent pictures.  I've been going through tons of pictures from over the past 70 years looking for pictures of my dad.  It seems I've been a little nostagic. 

emmyg65

- I don't have an engagement ring 

- It was outside in August (late August is not that hot, people!)

- I wore a hot pink dress and baked my own cake

- My then-fiancé and I walked down the aisle together

- It was a Quaker ceremony, characterized by silence

- We couldn't afford a shuttle between the hotel and wedding site

- We skipped toasts, spotlight dances, bouquet toss, etc.

- Our second-to-last song was "Jane Fonda" by Micky Avalon and my friends and I all danced to it like drunk monkeys

chibiyui

@TwoDimes‌ belated congrats!

I'm sorry not sorry for our venue. It was a mid point for all our guests, which means no one was close, and people did leave early cause of travel times, but it was gorgeous and perfect.

climbingsingle

Sorrynotsorry: 

my wedding is formal and during the day. FI will be in a tuxedo at 12pm! Our moms both choose floor length gowns. I'm letting people wear whatever the hell they want! 

I'm not getting a hotel block. Our venue has offered us a discounted rate. That's it. 

HisGirlFriday13

@TwoDimes, I have no idea. I love daisies, especially Gerbera daisies, and I really, really loved that they came in bright, intense colours that popped against my BMs' dark plum dresses.

DH's BSC grandmother (who else?) informed me 'Daisies are common, but I guess I couldn't really expect better from a Catholic.'

So apparently they're common AND they have religious connotations. 

I about went through the roof over that one. That was The.Last.Time. I talked about the wedding with her. I told DH, 'She is YOUR Grandmother and she is YOUR problem, this is NOT my circus, she is NOT my monkey and I am DONE DONE DONE talking about the wedding with someone who is so bound and determined to find fault with every little thing I do!'

hikebikebemerry

Not doing photobooth. Not.  Sorrynotsorry. I'm hiring two photographers, I'm sure that I will have enough pictures of my guests' beautiful faces.

Serving pork instead of beef.  Sorrynotsorry- the pork was more delicious and there are other options for non-pork eaters.  Beef is not a requirement at a wedding.

beethery

HisGirlFriday13 said:

@TwoDimes, I have no idea. I love daisies, especially Gerbera daisies, and I really, really loved that they came in bright, intense colours that popped against my BMs' dark plum dresses.

DH's BSC grandmother (who else?) informed me 'Daisies are common, but I guess I couldn't really expect better from a Catholic.'

So apparently they're common AND they have religious connotations. 

I about went through the roof over that one. That was The.Last.Time. I talked about the wedding with her. I told DH, 'She is YOUR Grandmother and she is YOUR problem, this is NOT my circus, she is NOT my monkey and I am DONE DONE DONE talking about the wedding with someone who is so bound and determined to find fault with every little thing I do!'

Fi is going on night shift starting Thursday, and I now have a subject for one of the doodles that I will be working on for the set of nights. Thank you.

theartistformerlyknownas

 HisGirlFriday13 said:

@TwoDimes, I have no idea. I love daisies, especially Gerbera daisies, and I really, really loved that they came in bright, intense colours that popped against my BMs' dark plum dresses.

DH's BSC grandmother (who else?) informed me 'Daisies are common, but I guess I couldn't really expect better from a Catholic.'

So apparently they're common AND they have religious connotations. 

I about went through the roof over that one. That was The.Last.Time. I talked about the wedding with her. I told DH, 'She is YOUR Grandmother and she is YOUR problem, this is NOT my circus, she is NOT my monkey and I am DONE DONE DONE talking about the wedding with someone who is so bound and determined to find fault with every little thing I do!'

phira

Sorrynotsorry I'm wearing blue. SUCKAS.

HisGirlFriday13

@beethery -- You're welcome!

I can't take credit for it, though -- it's an old Polish proverb: 'not my circus, not my monkeys.' (Orig. 'Nie mój cyrk, nie moje małpy')

FiancB

Sorrynotsorry there will not be a speck of religious anything in our wedding. I don't understand why there should be, considering that we are not religious, but apparently other people feel differently. Because pretending to be Catholic for a day is very respectful to the church *eyeroll*.

I love gerberas! I am pretty sure I'm skipping flowers altogether (another sorrynotsorry) but if I weren't, that's what I would get. They're cute, cheery, tough, and come in all the colors. 

Kind of having a beach theme going even though the wedding was moved from OR to MN. Oh well. I'd already bought my invitation supplies and starfish hair clip, so we're rolling with it. We're having a Hawaiian buffet too- it happened to be the cheapest meal option at our venue, and it's delicious, and I'm a little tired of the steak-or-chicken option. sorrynotsorry.

KGold80

Sorrynotsorry that we're serving chicken, salmon, or stuffed tomato...no beef. We couldn't justify spending an extra $1,000 just to offer beef as an option because the higher price prevails for all dishes at our venue, except the kids meal.

Also sorrynotsorry there will be no money tree, dollar dance, honeymoon jar, garter toss, or bouquet toss at our wedding.

theartistformerlyknownas

 

KGold80 said:

Sorrynotsorry that we're serving chicken, salmon, or stuffed tomato...no beef. We couldn't justify spending an extra $1,000 just to offer beef as an option because the higher price prevails for all dishes at our venue, except the kids meal.

Also sorrynotsorry there will be no money tree, dollar dance, honeymoon jar, garter toss, or bouquet toss at our wedding.

No beef here either! Chicken, salmon, or mushroom strudel. They're all delicious. The chicken is stuffed with prosciutto, and we have a roasted pork tenderloin app, but you'll have to go elsewhere if you want steak.

Fairyjen1

"Sorrynotsorry" we are hosting immediate family only at Disneyland. If you want a larger local (to me) party go ahead and throw one yourself!

We have friends who say we owe them a big party with lots of alcohol. I've long since quit justifying our decision. 

sweetwisconsin

We are sorrynotsorry that we are serving pie instead of cake. I HATE cake. I know a lot of TK regulars love cake, but all I want is a huge piece of pie and whipped cream.

Also we are sorrynotsorry that the wedding is in December in Wisconsin. Yes we are fully aware it will be cold. But because I am not a complete idiot and I have lurked here long enough, I know to have the ceremony and reception indoors. There will be no gap and the ceremony and reception site are less than two miles apart. So guests won't be cold except for the very short drive from one venue to the next. This does seem like common sense, but when I tell people when the wedding is they look at me like I am going to make them stand outside for hours.

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Cookie Pusher

Sorrynotsorry that we are not following the traditional who-does-what at our wedding. We're eschewing the obligatory inclusion-of-everybody-and-their-mother-in-the-wedding-party BS - the people we're including are people we WANT to include, not people who feel that we HAVE to include.

manateehugger

Sorrynotsorry I do have chalkboards. Nope, our theme isn't rustic, they wont be all over the place, I've pinned like two things on pinterest so that's not where I got it, and I decided on them nearly two years ago when I saw cool chalkboard placemats on Etsy. Deal with it. 

pinkshorts27

Sorrynotsorry that:

-I'm not making the wedding consume my life, grad school and real life come first

-I'm not a gushing bride who wants to talk about my planning the whole time

-That beef, salmon, and veggie will be my options. I am not a huge chicken fan and when caught in the wrong mood, the smell can make me nauseated, but in the right mood I love chicken + bbq sauce. 

-That I haven't bought my dress yet and ma not really excited for dress shopping

-That I will invite all SO's (and no one should bitch about that, but I actually have people doing so)

-That I'm having a winter wedding, if you can't attend I'm sorry but that is okay. FI and I will be there, as well as VIPs so that is all that matters.

jdluvr06

We're not having anything with beef either. Do people really care about that?

cupcait927

Sorrynotsorry I'm not having a bridal party. I cannot believe the amount of side eye I've gotten over this decision.

phira

cupcait927 said:

Sorrynotsorry I'm not having a bridal party. I cannot believe the amount of side eye I've gotten over this decision.

BUT THEN IT WON'T BE A REAL WEDDING

theartistformerlyknownas

Cookie Pusher said:

Sorrynotsorry that we are not following the traditional who-does-what at our wedding. We're eschewing the obligatory inclusion-of-everybody-and-their-mother-in-the-wedding-party BS - the people we're including are people we WANT to include, not people who feel that we HAVE to include.

Why do so many people even still think this is a thing? More often than not, people don't follow those old rules. Someone was asking about our plans the other day and I said we had everything done except the rehearsal dinner, because we're having a hell of a time finding the right combination of location (close proximity to either the venue or the hotel), price ($1000 or under) and capacity (45 people). She looked at me and said "why are you worrying about that anyway? That's his parents' job."