what are you "sorrynotsorry" about?

SmileDamnit

Sorrynotsorry that we decided to get married on the lake where FI's Dad's ashes are scattered, which makes traveling for the masses inconvenient so we're skipping the masses and keeping it to a private family affair. 

Sorrynotsorry that we're not having a DJ, or a videographer, or a wedding party, and we're doing a first look so we can wrap up the pictures early thus freeing us up to greet our guests as they arrive.

emmaaa

Sorrynotsorry we are

-Getting married in December. I'm aware it may be super cold. But, NC weather is known for unpredictability and 65 degree days in December.

-Having a larger wedding party because we want to include those who mean the most to us

-Not having a FG or RB no matter how hard my mom pressures me to ask my cousin's daughter who I have met twice.

-Having BBQ and brisket at the reception.

-Only hosting beer and wine because that is what we can afford.

-Not having a dollar dance or doing any "tosses" because we barely have any single friends.

theartistformerlyknownas

Does anybody really care that much about bouquet or garter tosses that one would have to be sorrynotsorry about skipping them? We've always had them, but nobody is ever all that excited about catching the damn thing. I can't imagine it being missed, except maybe the two supertraditionalist old people saying "but you haaaaaavvvve to, it's tradition!"

sarawifenow

Sorrynotsorry my ceremony will begin at 11:30am. A lot of people have asked how they are going to have a "rager" that early in the day. My answer? Um...you're not?

themuffinman16

Sorrynotsorry. We are not doing a garter/bouquet toss. I find the tradition tacky as hell. It originated when men had to show the family, at the end of the wedding night, the blood soaked garter to prove his wife was a virgin. That is disgusting.
Even in today's tradition, I find it tacky to give a piece of my wedding undergarments to the grooms friends like I am some conquest. And I hate singling out my single female friends in a bouquet toss, only to humiliate them in a sexual performance with a total stranger

mrsmorales2be

I didn't ask my sister to be in my wedding party. I'm only having one person, and it's not her. She's not dependable, due to her substance abuse issues. Sorrynotsorry.

mrsmorales2be

I'm having a nuptial Mass. My family is not Catholic and want me to have a wedding outside of Mass, which is not an option for Fi and me. They don't like it. Sorrynotsorry.

dolewhipper

@lolo883 I refuse to have a photo booth also. I have fun with them, don't get me wrong, but you're 100% correct in that every. single. person has them. Now I just want to find something like a photobooth people can enjoy when they're not dancing.

@JCbride2015 & @beethery Also not doing the mason jar/burlap/country themed wedding and I love me some line dancing and consider my cowboy boots some of my most comfortable shoes. I will be dressed the best for one of the most important days of my life, and will be throwing a fancy party.

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My #sorrynotsorry :

-No children under 13

-hiring  a DOC so family won't have control of how the reception looks

-you're getting chicken (damn good dish at that) or vegetarian 

-having a ring baress instead of picking one of the many little male second cousins because I think the rings are one of the most symbolic things in the marriage and I want my favorite little girl carrying them

-not mentioning my father (miiight have a little moment during the ceremony, but that's a stretch) or showing a video I made of my "father/daughter" dance I had before he died. There will be little bit of him around, but nothing will be obviously shown or said. 

FiancB

We wanted a photo booth but can't believe how much places charge for them. No thanks. I do have a dslr and a tripod, so I'll pick up a remote trigger and a couple other things and DIY it. 

thisismynickname2

JennyColada said:

This isn't nearly as mean and rude as it seems but…

We are going to be serving food that WE like, and if you don't like the food then #sorrynotsorry.

LOL just got this one the other day too! Oh, you don't like goat cheese? Then don't request the herb-goat-cheese stuffed chicken. #sorrynotsorry we wanted interesting restaurant food and not plain, lukewarm rubber chicken that's been the bane of standard wedding catering for a million years. 

Also, sorrynotsorry I don't care if my bridesmaids "clash" in my wedding photos. In theory all my guests will clash in wedding photos so why are bridesmaids "supposed to match"? 

LadyMillil

thisismynickname said:

JennyColada said:

This isn't nearly as mean and rude as it seems but…

We are going to be serving food that WE like, and if you don't like the food then #sorrynotsorry.

LOL just got this one the other day too! Oh, you don't like goat cheese? Then don't request the herb-goat-cheese stuffed chicken. #sorrynotsorry we wanted interesting restaurant food and not plain, lukewarm rubber chicken that's been the bane of standard wedding catering for a million years. 

Also, sorrynotsorry I don't care if my bridesmaids "clash" in my wedding photos. In theory all my guests will clash in wedding photos so why are bridesmaids "supposed to match"? 

Off topic, but DH's aunt sent her food back at an Italian restaurant because it had parmesan cheese on top and she didn't want any parmesan cheese on her food. When the waitress said that there was parmesan cheese in the filling (which was listed on the menu) that was fine, it was the cheese on top she didn't want *rolls eyes* if you don't want something, don't order it or ASK if it can be removed

beethery

LadyMillil said:

thisismynickname said:

JennyColada said:

This isn't nearly as mean and rude as it seems but…

We are going to be serving food that WE like, and if you don't like the food then #sorrynotsorry.

LOL just got this one the other day too! Oh, you don't like goat cheese? Then don't request the herb-goat-cheese stuffed chicken. #sorrynotsorry we wanted interesting restaurant food and not plain, lukewarm rubber chicken that's been the bane of standard wedding catering for a million years. 

Also, sorrynotsorry I don't care if my bridesmaids "clash" in my wedding photos. In theory all my guests will clash in wedding photos so why are bridesmaids "supposed to match"? 

Off topic, but DH's aunt sent her food back at an Italian restaurant because it had parmesan cheese on top and she didn't want any parmesan cheese on her food. When the waitress said that there was parmesan cheese in the filling (which was listed on the menu) that was fine, it was the cheese on top she didn't want *rolls eyes* if you don't want something, don't order it or ASK if it can be removed

I am offended by the cheese removal request. OFFENDED.

theartistformerlyknownas

 

beethery said:

LadyMillil said:

thisismynickname said:

JennyColada said:

This isn't nearly as mean and rude as it seems but…

We are going to be serving food that WE like, and if you don't like the food then #sorrynotsorry.

LOL just got this one the other day too! Oh, you don't like goat cheese? Then don't request the herb-goat-cheese stuffed chicken. #sorrynotsorry we wanted interesting restaurant food and not plain, lukewarm rubber chicken that's been the bane of standard wedding catering for a million years. 

Also, sorrynotsorry I don't care if my bridesmaids "clash" in my wedding photos. In theory all my guests will clash in wedding photos so why are bridesmaids "supposed to match"? 

Off topic, but DH's aunt sent her food back at an Italian restaurant because it had parmesan cheese on top and she didn't want any parmesan cheese on her food. When the waitress said that there was parmesan cheese in the filling (which was listed on the menu) that was fine, it was the cheese on top she didn't want *rolls eyes* if you don't want something, don't order it or ASK if it can be removed

I am offended by the cheese removal request. OFFENDED.

I put my foot down HARD at chicken piccata. It's one of my favorites to make from scratch, but it's FUCKING DISGUSTING at weddings. Same with mostaccioli. Barf. And... NO CRUDITE! DEATH TO CRUDITE! I cannot believe how seriously everyone takes fucking carrots and dip. I know we hate on the whole "if you can't ____, you just shouldn't come" but TRULY, if your enjoyment of my wedding hinges upon being able to eat fucking carrots and dip, I just don't think I want to know you. I really don't. Especially when there's fucking DILL dip masquerading as ranch. Hell to the no. Sorrynotsorry, deal with the mini quiches and baked brie with croustades and pork tenderloin with rosemary apple compote and maple-bourbon glaze. DEAL WITH IT. 

Marzipan13

sorrynotsorry that...

-we're having a full Catholic Mass

-I'm having 2 bridesmen (I've been told countless times that "everyone will assume they're...gay!" - they're not, and though they're well aware they'll get looks, they don't care either.)

-we're not having our reception at a big fancy-schmancy hotel in the city (as is the norm 'round these parts)

-THERE WON'T BE A STITCH OF BURLAP OR A SHARD OF MASON JAR IN SIGHT

-we're not doing the dollar dance / honeyfund jar 

-our RB & FG are not family, only children that I've babysat since they were born (as opposed to my obnoxious-ass little cousin who doesn't know my name...)

-we're not having a photo booth. Use your damn iPhone?

-we're doing a cake AND a cookie table (Pittsburgh!!!)  MAYBE WE JUST LIKE DESSERTS OKAY

Inkdancer

Sorrynotsorry that we're having a dry wedding. When FMIL gets drunk she is mean and I refuse to enable her. Go drown your whining at the mac'n'cheese bar.

ETA: Also not sorry that the groomsmen will not be wearing matching suits or tuxes. How different can solid black suits with white shirts and matching ties really look? This is not going to be a problem, people!

JennyColada

grumbledore said:

We are having a dessert buffet instead of a cake, sorrynotsorry.

I'd complain…but my mouth would probably be too full of cheesecake and candy.

FutureMrsN3312

JennyColada said:

grumbledore said:

We are having a dessert buffet instead of a cake, sorrynotsorry.

I'd complain…but my mouth would probably be too full of cheesecake and candy.

I'd be in this boat too.  On top of wedding cake we did the viennese hour and a candy bar.  We both have a huge sweet tooth so dessert was important.  sorrynotsorry

beethery

lolo883 said:

I put my foot down HARD at chicken piccata. It's one of my favorites to make from scratch, but it's FUCKING DISGUSTING at weddings. Same with mostaccioli. Barf. And... NO CRUDITE! DEATH TO CRUDITE! I cannot believe how seriously everyone takes fucking carrots and dip. I know we hate on the whole "if you can't ____, you just shouldn't come" but TRULY, if your enjoyment of my wedding hinges upon being able to eat fucking carrots and dip, I just don't think I want to know you. I really don't. Especially when there's fucking DILL dip masquerading as ranch. Hell to the no. Sorrynotsorry, deal with the mini quiches and baked brie with croustades and pork tenderloin with rosemary apple compote and maple-bourbon glaze. DEAL WITH IT. 

MOSTACCIOLI CAN GO FUCK ITSELF. RIGHT NOW.

Y'know what. I was going to unintentionally threadjack and write out what I'd serve at my wedding if I was cooking, but I'm not going to do that. I'm going to make a separate post.

I am sorrynotsorry that FI and I have agreed to pay our bartenders extra so that they serve one friend lightly, because we don't want him to cartwheel into the table like a drunken Kool-Aid man. He can still get tipsy, just not blackout drunk. They are our regular bartenders at one of our fav bars, and they have seen the Kool-Aid man and know how to keep it in check.

Keeping it on-topic.

JennyColada

I have to look up what Mostiaccioli is. So it's like a ziti? I have no idea what we're serving for our reception. We are going to a restaurant that changes their menu every day, and we've opted to not decide the menu since we want the chef to serve whatever she thinks is right for the day's ingredients. So it'll be a surprise for us all. But I know it'll be delicious.

beethery

@JennyColada the issue with most catered mostaccioli is that it is primarily served undercooked with an equally undercooked red sauce. The red sauce is usually very acidic, and will probably make you feel like you're burping/farting fire for the next 4-6 hours.

That's my experience anyway.

JennyColada

Oh, I ate baked ziti in the dorm cafeteria. So I could infer what's wrong with it. :P

ashley8918

Inkdancer said:

Sorrynotsorry that we're having a dry wedding. When FMIL gets drunk she is mean and I refuse to enable her. Go drown your whining at the mac'n'cheese bar.

ETA: Also not sorry that the groomsmen will not be wearing matching suits or tuxes. How different can solid black suits with white shirts and matching ties really look? This is not going to be a problem, people!

YOU ARE HAVING A MAC N' CHEESE BAR?! I am so jealous!

Cookie Pusher

I usually make my mostaccioli with olive oil, garlic, basil, diced fresh tomatoes, and fresh mozzarella. And it's delicious.

theartistformerlyknownas

Cookie Pusher said:

I usually make my mostaccioli with olive oil, garlic, basil, diced fresh tomatoes, and fresh mozzarella. And it's delicious.

Soooo... I'm betting that doesn't include un-reconstituted, un-seasoned tomato paste that you slathered on 3 days ago, and a layer of fake cheese you plopped on top as a waxy disgrace and then burned the shit out of to make it look "fresh?"

Cookie Pusher

lolo883 said:

Cookie Pusher said:

I usually make my mostaccioli with olive oil, garlic, basil, diced fresh tomatoes, and fresh mozzarella. And it's delicious.

Soooo... I'm betting that doesn't include un-reconstituted, un-seasoned tomato paste that you slathered on 3 days ago, and a layer of fake cheese you plopped on top as a waxy disgrace and then burned the shit out of to make it look "fresh?"

Two words: Heeeeeeeeeeeeeeell no. I make Nana proud with my pasta dishes!

beethery

Cookie Pusher said:

I usually make my mostaccioli with olive oil, garlic, basil, diced fresh tomatoes, and fresh mozzarella. And it's delicious.

Madame, you are doing your mostaccioli correctly. Brava! (Also send me some. I want to eat all the things)

theartistformerlyknownas

beethery said:

Cookie Pusher said:

I usually make my mostaccioli with olive oil, garlic, basil, diced fresh tomatoes, and fresh mozzarella. And it's delicious.

Madame, you are doing your mostaccioli correctly. Brava! (Also send me some. I want to eat all the things)

Cookie Pusher

beethery said:

Cookie Pusher said:

I usually make my mostaccioli with olive oil, garlic, basil, diced fresh tomatoes, and fresh mozzarella. And it's delicious.

Madame, you are doing your mostaccioli correctly. Brava! (Also send me some. I want to eat all the things)

If we all lived closer, I would feed all the lovely Knotties. Because I love you, and I show my love with food. (Holy crap, I sound like my Nana!)

lizandmark2014

I am sorrynotsorry that we had no alcohol, a Sunday wedding, no assigned chairs, and no official DJ.

pearls687

#sorrynotsorry

• Sunday wedding
• 10am ceremony
• no kids
• no programs 
• no specified ceremony seating "sides" 
• precise start time, latecomers offered veranda view only 
• no favors
• no bouquet/garter toss
• no theme or specific color scheme
• only hosted alcohol was champagne/bellinis