I am curious how many people call their in-laws mom and dad? Growing up I remember my mom calling her MIL "Ma" and more recently my best friend has been calling her MIL "Mum" for years, before they were married as well (her MIL is from England so Mum is what her H calls her).
The thought of this never crossed my mind. I am very close to my parents and mom and dad are special names to the ones that have raised me. I also have a step mom and step dad whom I just call by their first name (I was about 16-17 when they each came into my life).
My SIL (we are both married to brothers) started calling MIL and FIL "mom and dad" as soon as she got engaged to BIL. (I had already been dating H about 3-4 years when she started dating BIL and they got engaged and married soon after). H and I have now been married 8 months and I sometimes force it but it just feels weird to me! I already have a mom and dad! I know I am over thinking it but H's parents are so sweet to me and consider me a daughter that it makes me want to show them how much I care for them as well (and I do understand I do show I care for them in many ways besides calling them "mom and dad").
As I struggle over here with either doing it or not doing it, I would love to hear what others have to say!
Re: Calling your in-laws "mom" and "dad"
His mom never told me what to call her. When forced, I use the name his SIL's use "Dona Rosa."
Hmmm never really thought about it. But I don't see why I would call them mom & dad. Maybe if we saw them more often/ had a closer relationship but FI doesn't get along with his mother (and his dad never leaves her side) so we hardly ever see them. So I don't anticipate myself ever calling them that. Even though they gush about me and call me their future daughter.
I don't even have a great relationship with my own parents. They live 2,000 miles away and visit 1 weekend per year. So half the time I call them by their first names.
I like my FMIL a lot, but she is not my mom so I do not call her mom. I am not close to my FFIL.
I call Fi's mom Ms. His dad I just avoid addressing. I've known them since I was like 14 so it has always been that way and would be awkward to change I. I'm not very comfortable with the "mom and Dad" thing. Those words are not special to me, but I think it would totally weird his mom out if I called her that. His dad doesn't care what I say!
I call his extended family whatever he calls them.