My stepson joined the Navy (as a Nuclear Engineer - go him!) and left for boot camp today. When the leave the processing center its only the recruits, there is no active duty person in charge of them. They do put one of the recruits in charge, lead them to the check in counter, get their boarding passes, lead them to the gate, etc. But they are basically on their own. They are now adults, they should be able to handle checking into the airport on their own, getting on their flight all by themselves. Families are welcome to meet them there and see them off though.
One mom I guess didn't think the recruit in charge or her son could handle that. So once there, got in the check out line, called him away from the group, took his official papers, took his ID, and tried to get his boarding pass for him. I mean really? I joked to the hubby that she was probably going to buy a ticket for the same flight as well.
I went through this last year myself when my son joined, wanting to make sure he was checked in, nothing was overlooked. But I controlled that mommy instinct in me to do things for him. I had to step back and let him go. I wish this mom did this, because this poor boy might not hear the end of it on the flight.
/end rant/
Re: Helicopter Parents Suck!
First off, FI's BM is former submarine nuc engineer guy it's cool to hear there are other people out there still interested in that!
Second, my CW is the queen of helicopter moms. She called all her daughter's professors to make sure that her daughter was doing her work and what she could do to bring her grade up. The professors refused to speak to her becasue technically her daughter is an adult and my CW had a fit, she almost drove to the school to set up meetings. Before then when they were assigning roommates, her daughter got bunked with a girl on the other side of the state and they were chatting all summer. Of course the topic of boys came up and CW's daughter told the roommate which guy she liked. The roommate contacted the guy via FB and snapchatted a ton of pictures to him. CW was so livid she paid extra to have her daughter have a private room her first year away at college.
There's a million stories, but those are the top two.
Same CW, her son is 25, still lives at home (not surprised in this geographic area) and fills out job applications for him, pays all his bills, gas money, buys him clothes and gives him money to take his girlfriend out.
Maybe it's just me, but my parents told me once I turned 18 to deal with shit because I'm an adult now.
Thanks mom and dad X 1000000000
My dad was in the marines and my mom was in the Navy, both are retired now, but I remember when I was a kid and Dad was on deployments, and when he sent a letter, everything in my house came to a halt. In my early years it was only snail mail, and then his last deplyment before he retired was 2004, it was so different for me to actually get emails, and phone calls from him that weren't spaced about a month apart. We never had the ability to skype though, now military family members are downright spoiled, by the amount of consistent contact they can have.
I'm so happy my parents made me learn how to be self sufficeint when I was growing up, we had chores and a schedule for homework and everything, there were a lot of times when we were home before mom, and we knew what was expected of us when we walked in the door.
Right now I have a summer job at the school I go to in the Academic Advising office, when I get calls from parents to set up thier kids' appointments it drives me nuts. Especially when I ask the parent a question about contact info and I hear her going "hey bobby, whats your email?" and then I can hear him answer back. Lady, put your kid on the phone so he can learn to be an adult. Its not just the freshman students either, the transfer kids are just as coddled. SMH.
I'm the fuck out.
I'm the fuck out.
My mom threw a fit of epic proportions one time I visited home from college. Because I did my own laundry before coming home. Granted, I am her only child, this was freshman year thanksgiving, and it was less of a "you dont know how" and more of a "nostalgic want to take care of you" moment. I now tease her about it and allow her to iron my slacks (I can never get the front pleat quite right) when she visits. DH is also amused by her offers to help out around the house when she visits and will jokingly tell her he's saving all his ironing for her for her next trip in 3 months.
When in law school, my folks decided to get me a tv (supposedly for me but mostly so dad would be able to watch tv when he visited). I found the one they wanted to get me at a better price locally than where they were. Dad wanted to cone over and set it up for me. Mom just looked at him and said "whats to set up? There's a power cord and a cable cord that she as a 23 year old law student should be able to figure out by now, and she's the one who hooks up the dvd player for us, so I'm sure she can handle that as well." Dad backrd off but I caught him checking the back of the tv before turning it on.