Fiance and I just got engaged - yay!!!
We're both in our 30s, and I was previously engaged (so this ain't my first rodeo). We were together 7 months before the proposal, but it felt right to get engaged.
Of course, less than 24 hours after getting engaged I have been asked by a few people if I am pregnant (I'm not)! Why are people so rude?!? We got engaged because we love each other and want to be married, not because we feel obligated by pregnancy.
Re: I'm not pregnant!!!
Ugh, I hate when people ask that. Last summer when my aunt asked me the date of my wedding, and I said "September 13, 2014", her response was, "Oh good, so you're not pregnant."
etf: syntax
Rudy McRudersen - Oh, when are you having babies....
Me - *get big eyes* *huge gasp* Did you really just ask about my SEX life? In public? *start with crocodile tears and sniffling* Why would anyone be so rude to talk about my sex life in public, where strangers can hear? I need to go compose myself. *swipe at tears and add quivering lip*
The same person never asks me a second time as of yet.
"Are you pregnant?"
"How much is your annual income? How much do you weigh? Oh, I'm sorry, I thought we were asking each other personal questions."
Actually, I've been starting to respond with "Are YOU pregnant?!" to the pregnancy question. Jesus, people, I'll have babies when we're good 'n ready.
Um, that isn't how it works.
I am fully prepared for the onslaught of baby questions after my wedding (NEXT WEEK!)
People started asking me that recently because I started talking about just having a destination wedding and just coming back and having a wedding reception somewhere. People were like "You do not need to give up your wedding dreams because of a pregnancy" and I am sitting here like -_-. I just want to get married and it started sounding like a good idea.
FI is skittish as it is about babies, so I warned him that we're going to be getting The Question around / at / after the wedding. We're having fun coming up with clever / asshole-ish responses.
I'm the fuck out.
And now I understand why a lot of people don't want kids at their weddings. I couldn't get within ten feet of one without someone exclaiming "Oh, you look like a natural with kids!"