(This is a rant from my first experience of being separated from my H by a head table - needless to say I wasn't happy and didn't enjoy the wedding as much as I would have because I didn't get to share in the couples love with the love of my life.)
Head Table's are not traditional and they are NOT ok. Yes, it's nice to have your wedding party up with you so you're not on 'display' by yourselves. But really, if you didn't want to be on display you shouldn't have had the big wedding to begin with. If you wanted your closest and dearest to enjoy the wedding with you, you shouldn't have separated them from their nearest and dearest. Yes, it's ONLY one day, but that doesn't mean I'll be any happier by being put at a table with family while my H is kept at the head table. I actually do enjoy spending time with him (shocker I know since I married him).
Why is it so necessary when I knew everyone at the table you put me at? Because they were not my H, they're not the love of my life who I would like to share this moment with. I want to be able to lean over to him and share a laugh as we watch Grandma boggy on the dance floor, or hug while the first dance is being done and remember ours. But No, he's across the room at the head table. Oh and by the way, even though people won't tell you - they're pissed there's a head table. I know, I had three bridesmaids come to our table to be with THEIR husbands and explain how they don't like being separated from them either.
On the day everyone is there to share and support your love, why must you trash theirs?
Head Table - Just Don't!
(End Rant)
Re: Head Table - Just Don't - Rant
This. I had the same issue. I had never been to a wedding where something other than a head table was done. Attended weddings were I was at the table and FI wasn't and vice versa. It personally didn't bother me. After dinner FI and I were up and dancing and talking with people anyway so it wasn't a big deal. And same, I never heard of anything different before coming on here. I asked my party and got the same feedback as above...
I wonder if this is a regional thing. As it appears I've only ever seen head tables sans SOs and others have posted that they've never seen the same concept. Just a thought.
*Note: I was asked by a cousin why we chose to sit alone when all of our loved ones were around us. Hopefully he bought my answer--it was sincere. And if he paid any attention afterwards, he should have found it completely true.
--William Shakespeare (Sonnet 25)