Guests wearing white: Opinions Wanted

tnguyen

Love this beautiful ivory dress and beaded belt. Is it okay to wear to a wedding since it has black and it's not all white?

NYCMercedes

I wouldn't unless you were wearing something else on the top, like a cardigan.

RebeccaFlower

As a bride, I wasn't bothered that someone wore white to my wedding. As a guest, I wouldn't. I would not wear that dress unless you literally don't own something else, but I think someone is bound to side eye you, so I wouldn't risk it.

doeydo

Sorry, but no way would I ever wear that to a wedding and I would totally side-eye anyone who did.  

STARMOON44

absolutely not ok.

AddieCake

I am in the camp that doesn't give a shit what color someone wears to a wedding, but I personally wouldn't do it.

Ndelible

Don't care what color people wear at my wedding and would wear it.  It's clearly not a wedding dress.

QueerFemme

There is no way I'd wear that to someone's wedding.

southernbelle0915

As a bride, I didn't have time or care enough to look at what people were wearing. As a guest, I would never wear anything that white and I side eye people who do.

climbingsingle

There's no way I would ever wear that to a wedding.

beethery

If I was a fellow guest I would side-eye you so hard you'd feel it in your organs.

kimberly0315

Beautiful dress. I wouldn't care, or probably notice if someone wore this to my wedding. BUT, I would never in a million years wear this to a wedding.

missdelilah

I won't mind one bit if someone wears white to my wedding, but if you're unsure, best ask the bride and/or groom.

retro_belle24_23092757

If you have to ask if it's okay then it really isn't. To be safe, another outfit in a different might be best.

vmj23

Nope, I wouldn't wear it.  A girl wore a white dress to my wedding, I could care less but I know my friends were commenting to it on me, asking who she was. 

Maggie0829

As a bride I didn't notice what people were wearing until I looked at pictures and even then I didn't give a crap.  But as a guest, my ass wouldn't be caught dead in a white dress.

cowgirl8238

Personally, I have to agree that the dress is pushing the wedding envelop.  I do think it is really pretty, and perhaps a cover-up would help lessen the blow.  But then again you can hear how many posters here would side-eye it.

For what its worth I didn't give a damn what people wore to my wedding.  There were two guys who showed up in flannel shirts and blue jeans...one of them wearing a baseball cap...did others look at them?  Yes.  Did I care? Not one bit!!

ElcaB

Absolutely not. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Nope, especially since it's lace. That could pass for a wedding dress at a more casual wedding. Do not pass go, do not collect $200.

jenijoyk

Just don't. Unless you relish all the other guests frowning at you behind your back.

PineapplePopsicles

another vote for NO. Too white, too lace, too close.  

missdelilah

What else have you got to wear?  

When I made the original comment I was lazy and didn't open the picture, so I didn't notice that it was lace, but I agree with @lolo883 that it could be worn as a wedding dress at a casual wedding.  

I think you'll have an all out better day if you're not being side-eyed and talked about behind your back.  PPs are right, even if the bride doesn't care, other people will.  I did have a few people comment to my face about the red dress, but I suspect more were talking about it behind my back.  I didn't really care as the B and G were really fine with it, and about half of the wedding party knew before the event that I would be wearing it.  

badbnagdway

Surely there are occasions other than someone else's wedding to wear that dress, and surely you have some other pretty dress that is less borderline bridal. Although I'm sure no one would actually confuse you for the bride, the black belt area doesn't help much as I've seen many modern wedding dresses with dark sashes and/or styling touches adding a dark sash. 

tnguyen

Thanks so much for all your input ladies. Fair enough, I guess I'll save this dress for a cocktail event or something non bridal. I sure as heck don't want to be "that girl" who gets talked about for stealing the brides thunder or upstaging her in any way. There is always someone at the wedding who tries to outdo the bride, I've seen plenty who have tried. I just don't want to be thrown in to that category! This lace dress will be unleashed for another occasion.

LittlePeachBlossom

Although I wouldn't mind as a bride, I have noticed that I do side-eye other guests wearing all or mostly white at a wedding. They all tended to have attention-seeking personalities. So it could be that I only noticed because of that. It's because of this that I'd avoid wearing white myself. I wouldn't want it to be misinterpreted as such.

weddingcactus

No. Many brides wear sashes or belts (including in black) so that detail does not inherently make it non-bridal. It's a lovely dress, but I'm sorry to say, you should find something else to wear. 

PrettyGirlLost

tnguyen said:

Thanks so much for all your input ladies. Fair enough, I guess I'll save this dress for a cocktail event or something non bridal. I sure as heck don't want to be "that girl" who gets talked about for stealing the brides thunder or upstaging her in any way. There is always someone at the wedding who tries to outdo the bride, I've seen plenty who have tried. I just don't want to be thrown in to that category! This lace dress will be unleashed for another occasion.

Yeah this is impossible unless you show up buck ass naked.

My stance on this will never change: Women should be able to wear whatever the hell they want to wear to weddings, as long as it is appropriate to the formality of the event and your boobs and ass aren't hanging out, and  other women need to stop being so judgmental and perpetuating a completely made up sartorial "rule."




If you can't tell who the bride is, might I suggest

ahyatt87

As a bride on my wedding day, there were two guest who I noticed what they were wearing. One was person who was super underdressed (IMHO) in dark washed jeans and a t-shirt, and a friend of mine who wore a short, a-line, chiffon, white dress.

I will say that my wedding was a fairly small (72 people in total including myself, DH, WP, and all the guests), so maybe that is why they stood out so much to me. However, I would say no. I think most people still side-eye guests who wear white to a wedding.

Pepperally

My wedding is small, so I'd care more if it were a small intimate wedding where it's more noticeable than if you have hundreds of guests.  But in general, why cross that line when there are a million other colors to wear?

FI's friend texted him a pic of a dress she claimed she already bought for our wedding and asked if it was ok to wear...it's mostly white.  Why would you buy it first then ask???  I was annoyed and he politely told her to wear something else.

hyechica81

at a cousins wedding i got this really cute chiffon dress it was white and black the white was more on the ivory begie size it had black border prints on the bottom and a black band under the bust area and the straps were thick and black i wore it with a black shrug black shoes and silver jewelry this is similar to what i wore the dress i had was more on the ivory begie side and the bottom boarder print was a little different

doeydo

PrettyGirlLost said:

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tnguyen said:

Thanks so much for all your input ladies. Fair enough, I guess I'll save this dress for a cocktail event or something non bridal. I sure as heck don't want to be "that girl" who gets talked about for stealing the brides thunder or upstaging her in any way. There is always someone at the wedding who tries to outdo the bride, I've seen plenty who have tried. I just don't want to be thrown in to that category! This lace dress will be unleashed for another occasion.

Yeah this is impossible unless you show up buck ass naked.

My stance on this will never change: Women should be able to wear whatever the hell they want to wear to weddings, as long as it is appropriate to the formality of the event and your boobs and ass aren't hanging out, and  other women need to stop being so judgmental and perpetuating a completely made up sartorial "rule."




If you can't tell who the bride is, might I suggest

My sister got married recently, and it was a lovely backyard wedding.  She wore a knee length lace dress, somewhat similar to OP's dress.  So, not necessarily will a birde wear a big fancy white ballgown.